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PG after MC, the new and shiny POSIFRICKINTIVITY thread...

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Oops! I posted the last post and didn't link to a new thread! Sorry!
Anyway, here it is, come on in for the best support going and a safe place to vent. grin and a lovely squishy new set of twins

omri Thu 15-Aug-13 18:21:47

Hello all! Glad to see tea's edd. Now I'm not the last on the list wink

Pixielady83 Thu 15-Aug-13 18:53:25

ooh I thought I had lost you all <panic over> thanks for new thread saggy grin

welcome new ladies <waves>

anda really hope results come back ok for you, it would be so frustrating to have complications at the last hurdle. fingers crossed for you.

shell so so sorry you're in so much pain sad my pelvis literally collapsed at 28wks last time after a fall and I was housebound and working from home after that. I remember feeling quite desperate about it sad. I echo what sleep says, try osteo, or chiro if you can. my physio did v little but I found chiro useful in my last pg (ironically spd set in at 5wks in mmc pg). I'm told reflexology can be good too. Also second what pp said about resting as much as possible. It is massively frustrating but it doesn't last forever. Mine was mostly gone as soon as DD arrived. I have been lucky so far but after a day of walking round the zoo and lifting DD to see animals yesterday I am really hurting today. Just hope this isn't it for next 6 months now!

So 11 wks tomorrow, 1 week to wait til 2nd scan. I feel quietly optimistic. And <whispers> I think I may have even picked up a hb on angel sounds last night. Could be my imagination though but did sound fast and like a little train (albeit fuzzy and far away) smile

IBelieveInPink Thu 15-Aug-13 19:16:21

Oh shell, poor you lovely. Definitely get seen, by someone. Anyone as long as they can fix you! I feel bad for moaning about a little bit of ache now, that sounds horrific.

Ooh pixie - a heartbeat smile eek. I wish we could enjoy these pregnancies the way we should be able to, enjoy any positive day you get. smile

Just settling in for the evening to watch a bit of one born. Yay. And no I am definitely not going on it, before anyone starts again!! :P

sleepcrisis Thu 15-Aug-13 19:18:39

Could I go on the stats please?

1DS, 1MC, EDD 1st April 2014

auspan Thu 15-Aug-13 19:18:52

Hi Girlies!
Well, i've just had a BFP on Tuesday after a MC in June at 8.5 weeks. I am so nervous, and am hoping that this LO will stick around. The EPU were so lovely with me last time, and told me they have no problem giving me a scan this time if it will reassure me, so im going to book one in for next week.
Still cant quite believe it!!

stats: 0DC, 1MMC EDD 14th April.

Thankyou for the shiny new thread saggy

Sorry you are in so much pain shell hope they can help you with it soon x

Motorcycle not sure why you would be under consultant care, there are many reasons. Your mw should tell you. I saw the consultant for the first time today because of my bmi, but because my other dc were normal size & normal births i'm to now be treated as normal unless my GTT comes back positive at 28 weeks and i am to have extra scan at 32 weeks to check baby's size but if all goes to plan should get to have my baby at the mlu. Going to push for a homebirth, but doubt mw will entertain it!

Congratulations auspanthanksthanks

GuffSmuggler Thu 15-Aug-13 20:12:38

Ah there you all are!

Welcome to the new people, this is a good place to be.

Only 5 more longs days to get through until 12 week scan (am turning into a nut job).

I'm DESPERATE to get the maternity clothes out, my trousers are so uncomfortable, but refuse to until after the scan!

Pixielady83 Thu 15-Aug-13 20:16:25

guff I'm with you on the maternity clothes front, I'm straining out of bras and can't do up trousers but need to get through the scan first! I've also got another 3 days at work and 2 days of seeing my mum to try and hide my tummy and newly massive boobs (really don't want to tell work and family til we have had scan).

On a rather depressing note, I saw a friend who is 20wks this week and she was barely showing. And she is tiny usually which I would have thought meant she would show earlier! gah.

kjh5 Thu 15-Aug-13 20:29:35

OMG I am so exhausted I am about to face plant my desk. I've resorted to drastic measures to get through my shift: coffee. I know caffeine is banned but I'm desperate. Haven't had any at all for a week so hoping one small cup won't do any harm and wake me up!

I'm not ready to join the stats just yet. Like tea my MC was early - 6wks so I'm waiting to get past that hump before I can start to commit to this pregnancy wont admit I've been thinking about how I want the nursery . I have GP appt tomo, I've been in and out of there like a yoyo the past four months. Last time I was sobbing my eyes out over MC - strangely nervous about what she is going to say about me being preg so quickly. At least she can get me referred to the hospital. I might even make it to my booking appt this time!

Congrats auspan sounds like lots of posifrickintivity for you smile

<<confession>> I have never watched OBEM. Scared it'll freak me out too much... Although I'm told it makes you more prepared for exactly what'll happen

BumpKitty Thu 15-Aug-13 20:30:24

welcome auspan and congratulations! sounds like you are in good hands with your EPAU, how nice to hear about a good one!

If anyone is having uncomfortable knicker issues (!) I bought these yesterday and they are amazing! No dig in at all, super soft and full coverage grin I got them two sizes bigger than my normal size and they look ginormous but seem to fit very well blush and they are buy 2 get one free.

Pixielady83 Thu 15-Aug-13 21:00:14

ooh they do look comfy!

kjh, I found obem actually helped me feel prepared for the labour because I had watched a lot of different deliveries. I think it has enough positive ones that it balances out the scary ones.

That said, after 2 pregnancies in which I was adamant I wanted natural deliveries (ended up with emergency c section for DD as she was breech, 2nd pg was mmc), this time I am actually thinking of trying to request an elective, which is a weird change as I really wanted a natural delivery after the section. Now I just feel I want whatever is most assured to get a baby out safely. Way too early to be thinking about this though.

BlackholesAndRevelations Thu 15-Aug-13 21:00:14

Totally can't keep up with this! Just found new thread. Hello! Welcome to all newbies xx

Bodicea Thu 15-Aug-13 21:01:02

Hello people just got home from my first antenatal yoga class - lazydaisy- was fun and v relaxing. I nodded off in relaxation bit.

Waves to auspan

is there a new one born pink?

BlackholesAndRevelations Thu 15-Aug-13 21:03:20

Pixie- i haven't had a c-section but have always been of the opinion that if I'd had to have an emergency one, I'd opt for elective rather than vbac just in case... Although I do know many ladies who've had successful vbacs.

Tea, how old are your other dc? I have two too, aged 3.7 now, and almost 2! Madness!

IBelieveInPink Thu 15-Aug-13 21:05:58

Bod- no, not new ones unfortunately. Just watching old ones with a different perspective now preggy!

I find one born good, as it prepares me for some of the things that may go wrong... And they (almost) always have a happy ending so will reassure me if any dramas go on that there can be a good outcome!

Pixielady83 Thu 15-Aug-13 21:17:04

blackholes, glad you can understand. I am weirded out because I was so keen to experience a natural birth but having lost a baby now it has really made me think again and the thought of removing some uncertainty is tempting. Last time I was pregnant they were quite relaxed about offering another section. Although I was devastated to need a c section with DD, it was actually a very positive experience and I recovered quickly.

BlackholesAndRevelations Thu 15-Aug-13 21:48:11

And it'd be even more straightforward if all planned and prepared for. Yes- since losing babies the most important thing is getting them here safe and sound! Doesn't matter how; drug-free, pain free waterbirth (lol), heavily medicalised, or via the sunroof. Whatever's healthiest and safest. smile

BumpKitty Thu 15-Aug-13 21:52:50

bod (sorry to leap on you as you just walk in!) did you see my post about my placenta? Apparently it has gone from posterior at 13w (when i had an extra scan due to leakage!) to anterior at 20w - is this possible or is one just wrong? I'd bet on the 13w one being wrong as the sonographer was odd! - she had a go at my DH as he stood up behind her and it freaked her out hmm

BumpKitty Thu 15-Aug-13 21:54:31

and I had my first yoga class on Wed, I love the relaxing bit at the end - that's worth the money on it's own grin

JanieLovesLuckySocks Thu 15-Aug-13 21:55:15

hi girls, phew i found you! thanks for the new thread saggy smile

sorry you're in such agony shell sad i have no advice - buuuut my sore hips have not been giving me half as much pain at night since i started my pg yoga...there are some really good stretches that we've been taught using a swiss ball - hard to describe in writing but there might be some you tube videos. sorry if it isn't any help but maybe worth a look x

pink - i can;t remember if i asked you...but do they pay you to go on obem? i always wondered what the incentive was! i love it ..but it;s given me the impression that labour and babies happen within an hour ha!

pixie - yay for heartbeats!!!

hello auspan! congrats on your bfp smile

anda i hope the bloods came back ok. good that they're keeping a close eye on you

bump i'm in love with big knickers!! bigger the better! i got some bg granny pants that come up (almost past) my belly button smile

so at yoga tonight our teacher was asking us who our birthing partners were and how it was vital that they were as prepared as us...i.e. we can't be the ones supporting them on the day and they shouldn't be asking us too many questions that they could have known the answers to beforehand. so maybe it's time for me to have the chat with dh and ask him to read something or try to prepare. he always squirms when i watch obem and i'm genuinely worried that i'll be having to nurse him when it needs to be the other way round. also he doesn't do boredom well, he gets narky and if i'm waiting for ages then it'll piss me right off if he goes moody because he's hanging around waiting. were only allowed one birth partner but i'm seriously thinking about asking if i can have my mum on standby as well.

talking about labour and birth...how's that for posifrickintivity!

JanieLovesLuckySocks Thu 15-Aug-13 22:18:12

and shell i wasn't trying to compare my sore hips to the agony you are in as i know yours is so much worse, hope it didn't come across as if i was x

ps did any of your dh/dp read any useful books or do any research before you went into labour? i have just mentioned it to dh and he pretty much brushed it off as if to say i was talking crap

Bodicea Thu 15-Aug-13 22:22:27

Bump one will be wrong! they don't really migrate that much :-) although one that is more on the side can be both at the same time xxxx

Shell i heard osteopaths/chiropractors are really good but you need a specialist pregnancy one to get best results

Loving all the yoga buddies xxxxx

Pixielady83 Thu 15-Aug-13 22:24:44

Janie I really struggled to get DH to read anything but the blokes guide to pregnancy (can't remember author but Amazon will know) is quite good and he did eventually read that. Although the main thing he took away from it apparently was that it was v important to give me a present for having a baby. So when my waters broke he disappeared for half an hour to go on Amazon to sort that out (priorities?!)

Disclaimer about blokes guide, although v good generally, in retrospect it is very negative about formula feeding and does rather imply breastfeeding is fine as long as you try hard enough hmm which could be problematic if bf problems occurred and your partner had only read that. (I speak as someone who is a bit sensitive about that after having lots of problems breastfeeding)

DIYandEatCake Thu 15-Aug-13 22:46:16

janie, dp read nothing before dd was born and seemed completely disinterested in the whole process. Ended up with an elcs as dd was breech but dp was still a good support and a devoted dad from the off. Although I was annoyed he wouldn't read anything at the time, in retrospect it wasn't a bad thing as he tended to ask me about stuff and generally accepted I knew what I was doing... I have friends with very involved husbands and actually it can be a right pita as they think they know best and there are silly arguments. Laid back can be good too!

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