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PG after MC, the new and shiny POSIFRICKINTIVITY thread...

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SaggyOldClothCatPuss Thu 15-Aug-13 10:03:52

Oops! I posted the last post and didn't link to a new thread! Sorry!
Anyway, here it is, come on in for the best support going and a safe place to vent. grin and a lovely squishy new set of twins

SaggyOldClothCatPuss Thu 15-Aug-13 10:04:40

<<sincerely hopes everyone finds me>>

justpoppy Thu 15-Aug-13 10:07:37

Hi shiny new thread. <waves>

SaggyOldClothCatPuss Thu 15-Aug-13 10:24:12

Well that's two of us! grin

MotorcycleMama Thu 15-Aug-13 10:26:13

Thanks saggy.

Good luck to all having scans today.

I've just been sent an appt with a consultant obstetrician in September. When I asked the receptionist what it is for, she said "it's your antenatal care". Does anybody know if this is routine, and what it is for? I wondered if it was due to previous miscarriage.

SaggyOldClothCatPuss Thu 15-Aug-13 10:44:43

Not sure. Ill be under a consultant because I'm a fat bird, but I don't know about other reasons.

MotorcycleMama Thu 15-Aug-13 11:19:06

Maybe my age - 41? Or donor egg IVF?

katatonic Thu 15-Aug-13 11:22:49

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

TeaAndANatter Thu 15-Aug-13 11:38:56

Hi shiny new thread! <waving madly>

Feeling very positive this morning for a woman at the grand state of about 4+4, but woke up feeling that this one's going to last the distance. Hoping for grotesque MS (not really), but fantasising about puking all down the length of the morning metro (train)!

Thinking of all other threaders x

kjh5 Thu 15-Aug-13 11:55:05

Phew! Moment of panic when I realised I couldn't post in the old thread
I really should stop spending so much time on MN

<waves> mornin' everyone.

Tea we're exactly the same time along! For some reason this excites me. Glad you are feeling positive today. I was SUPER positive yesterday (probably as a result of a sugar high from Saggy-influenced fudge-eating) and today I am back to wondering if this one is going to stick.

Told BF yesterday and she is super excited for me but now worried I have jumped the gun and DH and I should just be keeping this super quiet until the 12-week scan. Also debating whether or not to tell my mum - she is a doctor so very handy for phoning up and asking panicked questions/sobbing down the phone BUT she was so excited she was going to be a nan last time and I would feel like I was disappointing her again if we lost this one. Seeing her this weekend so no doubt she'll guess anyway...

Hugs poppy - sorry you are feeling down today. Have some fudge - after the 6th piece in a row the sugar high is something else!

WhatWillSantaBring Thu 15-Aug-13 12:03:41

Well hello! Isn't it nice in here. Though I think we should put some curtains up and install some squishy seats (we can't sit on the squishy twins when they arrive).

tea and katatonic - here's hoping for some mild/moderate MS for you soon, just enough so it feels real. grin Though kata - tiredness is definitely a symptom.

mama - I think its possibly your age, as I think anyone over 40 gets referred for consultant care. They can then release you back to Midwife led care if they re-assess your risk as being lower.

BumpKitty Thu 15-Aug-13 12:12:39

Ooh new thread how sparkly grin we need some stats on here.
I agree with the knowing something was wrong when I had my mc, I knew I was pg before I did the test I just absolutely knew then the feeling faded and faded until I just felt totally unpregnant. Every time I spoke about the pg I had to qualify it with 'all being well' or something similar as it just wasn't right. This time the worry and scan doom is awful but not the same kind of instinctual feeling as I had with the mc.

So... I just had my 28 week appt. all fine but the mw pointed out that my 20 week scan says my placenta is anterior which is odd as it says posterior on the scan I had when I had the leaking fluid. I couldn't find it at the time but I have since I got home, should I be concerned or not? It does make sense as I don't get massive boot type kicks. Any opinions gladly received!

sleepcrisis Thu 15-Aug-13 12:17:11

Hi everyone, wow that filled up quickly.

Thanks for all your kinds replies re. mmc. That feeling of something not being quite right is only something that can be really assessed in hind sight. I do feel as though things aren't right in my body but I have no way of knowing until my 12 wk scan whether its just my anxiety peaking or if something has gone wrong.

I feel so dizzy and weak all the time, and tired, like I could sleep for a week. But I also know these can be normal pg signs. The nausea is incessant though and I think if it wasn't for that I'd be much more afraid. I don't have any cramping anymore which is great, although if I have a particularly busy day I do have a heavy feeling in my abdomen which I recognise from tired days later on in pregnancy, more like 2-3rd trimester.

Where we live we have one state run but 'private' hospital and private GPs. All hospital care is subsidsed for by the state (and maternity care) if you pay salary contributions. You need insurance to cover GPs but insurance does not cover maternity. So the only maternity option is state funded, but there are no other hospitals or private clinics to go to. So its a bit of a monopoly and a complete nightmare.

I have told way too many people about this pg and am beginning to regret it sad I also had some news yesterday which left me feeling a bit devastated. A close friend announced a pg which is due the same date as the pg I lost. Talk about coincidence. I just feel so envious of the poeple who have made it past their 12 week scan!

I'm really loving the sound of fudge right now.

IBelieveInPink Thu 15-Aug-13 12:27:46

Ooh hello new thread!

Bump - how odd! Was your other scan early on? I would be inclined to rely on 20 week one - I also have anterior and like you say, haven't felt any actual feet or anything yet, but as this is my first I have no idea what it should feel like?

andadietcoke Thu 15-Aug-13 12:37:16

kjh I was exactly the same - I told my parents on holiday in Tunisia for my day's 60th and they were so excited. When I started to miscarry two days later I didn't tell them because it was his birthday and I had to sit there at dinner listening to him talk about his next birthday and how there might be little ones running round. It broke my heart and so I waited until I was nearly 10 weeks before I told them this time.

sleep this always sounds really childish but my ex best friend was due on the same day as me. I was devastated when I found out - I didn't know I was pregnant again so it was probably a bit hormonal but I had a massive meltdown a couple of days before Christmas (which the lovely ladies of the TTC talked me through). She had her baby at the beginning of July and I still find it hard to look at photos of him because he's here safely. It will be an odd time for you, but hopefully there will be lots of advice and hand me downs for your baby!

I had a phone call from the ante natal clinic this morning. Apparently my PET bloods were 'a bit off' on Tuesday even though there was no protein in my urine, so I have to go in tomorrow morning to the day unit for monitoring and to repeat the bloods and urine and blood pressure. It's really shaken me - thought I wasn't having any more hospital appts and now this. I know PE isn't anything to worry about if they've caught it early, but everything was going so well hmm

shellsocks Thu 15-Aug-13 13:17:50

Stats 15 August -today we are pregnant

Andadietcoke, 1MC, 0DC, EDD 10th September, next scan 13th August
Pentagon: 1 DD, 2MMCs, EDD 31 October
BumpKitty: 1MC, 1DD, EDD 9 Nov
Shellshock7: 2MC 1DS EDD 12 Nov 4D scan 17 August
Bodicea: 0DC, 2MC, EDD 16 Nov.
Ibelieveinpink: 2mc, EDD 16 Nov
GardenWorm: 1DC, 2MC, EDD 19th November,
Janielovesluckysocks: 1MC, 0DC, EDD 23rd Nov,
Lucky13: 1DS, 1 chemical, 2MC, EDD 23rd Nov
Vixjane: 2 MC, EDD 24 Nov,
Vocalista86: 1 MMC, EDD 30 November.
Jmf294: 1 DS, 1DD, 1 MC, EDD 10th Dec
ChocolateCremeEggbag: 1DS, 1MC, EDD 16 Dec
DIYandEatCake: 1dd, 1mc, EDD ?16 dec
Booty: 1chemical EDD 19 Dec
WillSantaComeAgain: 1DC, 2MMC, EDD 29Dec Anomoly scan 16 Aug
pumpkinsweetie mc1, EDD 03 Jan
Christinedaae - 1DD, 1MC, EDD 25th Jan, anomaly scan 6th Sept
Lieslvontrapp: 1MMC, 0DC, EDD 10 Feb
Pixielady83 1DD, 1MMC, EDD 3 March
GuffSmuggler: 1DS, 1MCC, EDD 4 March
Rock: 1DS, 1MMC, EDD 4 March
Postmanpatandhisblackandwhitecat:1DD,2DS,1MC EDD 7 March 2014
Motorcyclemama: 1MMC, EDD 17 March
SaggyOldClothPussCat: 1MC, 1DD, 1DS, EDD 18 March
Omri: 1DS, 1MMS, EDD 24 March

New arrivals

Jessw25 Baby Oliver born 9 July 2013 5lb 11oz
GaryBuseysTeeth Baby boy born 30 July 2013 7lb 4oz

shellsocks Thu 15-Aug-13 13:24:29

Thanks for the new thread saggy smile

I'm afraid this is going to be a bit of a sobfest, but I'm in work and already had a cry in the loo so thought writing it down may stop me losing it altogether.

My PGP is so bad, I can't walk really at all now without being in agony, I really don't want to have to work from home from now on but I can't get here without being dropped off and picked up door to door and even that is leaving me in so much pain. I can't believe how fast this has escalated since the weekend. I am so sad for DS as Mondays and Tuesdays which are my days on my own with him are going to be so hard now, it's really upsetting me that he is going to suffer sad Work have suggested using their private health instead of waiting from NHS physio so am gonna speak to MW when I have my 28w appt on Monday and see what she thinks...can't beleive it might be like this, or worse, for the next three months sad

BumpKitty Thu 15-Aug-13 13:33:55

Oh god shell you poor thing, I had my 28week appt today and mw was happy to send me straight to the physio if I wanted BUT she did say it tends to be a group session where everyone is just given some tips and a piece of tubi grip to put round your bump, so I would take them up on the private referral if I was you - could be completely different in your area though. I think the sooner you do something the better and a private referral may well be quicker xx

shellsocks Thu 15-Aug-13 13:52:18

Thanks bump I rang MW on Monday and she referred me straight away (I was under physio last time) so I just need to know how long appts take to come thru....sorry you are getting this too, really hope it doesn't get bad for you x

Swangirl Thu 15-Aug-13 14:58:04

Stats 15 August -today we are pregnant

Andadietcoke, 1MC, 0DC, EDD 10th September, next scan 13th August
Pentagon: 1 DD, 2MMCs, EDD 31 October
BumpKitty: 1MC, 1DD, EDD 9 Nov
Shellshock7: 2MC 1DS EDD 12 Nov 4D scan 17 August
Bodicea: 0DC, 2MC, EDD 16 Nov.
Ibelieveinpink: 2mc, EDD 16 Nov
GardenWorm: 1DC, 2MC, EDD 19th November,
Janielovesluckysocks: 1MC, 0DC, EDD 23rd Nov,
Lucky13: 1DS, 1 chemical, 2MC, EDD 23rd Nov
Vixjane: 2 MC, EDD 24 Nov,
Vocalista86: 1 MMC, EDD 30 November.
Jmf294: 1 DS, 1DD, 1 MC, EDD 10th Dec
ChocolateCremeEggbag: 1DS, 1MC, EDD 16 Dec
DIYandEatCake: 1dd, 1mc, EDD ?16 dec
Booty: 1chemical EDD 19 Dec
WillSantaComeAgain: 1DC, 2MMC, EDD 29Dec Anomoly scan 16 Aug
pumpkinsweetie mc1, EDD 03 Jan
Christinedaae - 1DD, 1MC, EDD 25th Jan, anomaly scan 6th Sept
Lieslvontrapp: 1MMC, 0DC, EDD 10 Feb
Pixielady83 1DD, 1MMC, EDD 3 March
GuffSmuggler: 1DS, 1MCC, EDD 4 March
Rock: 1DS, 1MMC, EDD 4 March
Swangirl:1DD,2DS,1MC EDD ? March 2014,12 week scan 28 August
Motorcyclemama: 1MMC, EDD 17 March
SaggyOldClothPussCat: 1MC, 1DD, 1DS, EDD 18 March
Omri: 1DS, 1MMS, EDD 24 March

New arrivals

Jessw25 Baby Oliver born 9 July 2013 5lb 11oz
GaryBuseysTeeth Baby boy born 30 July 2013 7lb 4oz
Hello all newbies
I realise how lucky I have been with being able to have an early scan after reading post on here about other trusts not giving them to ladies who have had a miscarriage.The scan did reassure me a bit to see that tiny flicker on the screen but of course it hasn't stopped me worrying about the slightest cramp or symptoms disappearing for a day. I have the been told that symptoms are good by my midwife. I just have to remind myself of that every time I start to feel sick at the sight of food or start gagging because I don't like the smell of something. I have lost 5kg in weight since I have found out I was pregnant. smile
I am worrying about my 12 week scan but I think most people do. It seems an age way its only 2 weeks. But I find I am becoming increasing worried as it draws closer and I mc at 11 weeks last year so that is making me even more worried.
I try to remember that today I am pregnant

DIYandEatCake Thu 15-Aug-13 15:20:36

Hello everyone, I am still here, just can't keep up! Been decorating dd's new room and tackling the jumble sale that is our house (always needed a deadline to make me do anything...!) and so not spending so much time on here.

Great to see so many new people here, wishing you loads of luck and happy uneventful pregnancies. Sorry not to name check, I need to go back to the old thread and read about 10 pages again!

anda can't believe it's so close for you now, hope all is ok with the bloods. shell that sounds awful, I'd second taking advantage of the private physio, dp's had NHS and private physio and found the private one much more thorough.

Still not much news here, 23 weeks now, got my feet up while dd naps as have been overdoing it a bit this morning. Got an appointment at the vbac clinic next week which I think will make it all seem a bit more real!

WhatWillSantaBring Thu 15-Aug-13 15:44:32

shell - really sorry to hear that you're in so much pain. I am sure I read somewhere about a woman's whose PGP/SPD got worse much earlier in pg#2 but then improved with physio far more than it did with no1. So hopefully things will improve enough that you're not so debilatated. And don't worry about your DS. Spending time with you is the thing that matters, not running around like a loon. Can you get your DP to help set up a whole series of activities that you can supervise from the sofa? So that you have lots to entertain him with but so you don't have to move that much to prepare? e.g. just little things like getting out the pens/papers/paint and putting on the table ready for you, getting his toys out etc?

Sleep - its one of the worst things about have had a mc, IMHO. It turns you into a bitter and jealous harriden for those you love best. I was pretty vile to a friend who announced she was expecting on my EDD for MC1 - totally cut her off. Then she then had her DD2 on the day that I was literally in the same hospital being diagnosed with MMC2, so after I recovered a bit I sent her a long explanation that basically said I was sorry I'd been so distant, and that I was struggling to come to terms with things. She was lovely, bless her and seemed to understand. still haven't seen her though as I still struggle to see anyone with a second child

kjh - i had a policy in all my pgs of not telling anyone I thought would be upset if i had a mc. So never told my parents or siblings - only people who were "my" friend and who would therefore be sad for me rather than themselves if I lost it. I think if you do feel the need to tell someone, its OK to say "i know you're excited, but please don't be because I can't handle the pressure".

anda - I'm sure everything will be fine, and just see this as a better safe than sorry thing.

sleepcrisis Thu 15-Aug-13 17:01:41

shell i'm not sure if you saw my post towards the end of the last thread but I had SPD quite badly I my first pregnancy and the physio wasnt l that helpful(was under Nhs back then). If your work insurance covers it I really recommend osteopathy over physio. I found it gave more immediate relief, although I did have to have a few repeat visits. Later in pg I found Acupuncture to be even more of a revelation. For lots of other ailments too!

TeaAndANatter Thu 15-Aug-13 18:07:07

Shell Sorry you're in so much pain. Got no advice at all, but I thought I read something in the Gowri Motha Gentle Birthing about some therapy or another being relieving for SPD (but I may have totally made that up, so I'll go look it up tonight and report back).

kjh I find it strangely comforting to have a 'same week buddy' too. I made a same week buddy on the two week wait thread in conception, but she isn't PG after a MC, so it's not quite the same experience, and I don't want to give her a total downer by sharing my pretty incessant anxiety with her. I was 'lucky' enough to have a mmc fairly early (didn't quite get to 7 weeks), so at least I get past that milestone sooner than if I'd lost after then, which I would have found much harder. Glad you had a +ve day yesterday, we can wait out the until 12 weeks hump together.

Sleep, I know what you mean about only knowing in hindsight, but I knew in 'foresight' it felt wrong (if that makes sense) which is why I spent five days badgering everyone to scan me, and they blood tested me and told me to wait to miscarry (ridiculously out of step HCG level - it was 62). But then plenty people feel everything is fine, and find out it was a mmc, so that's no comfort. Thinking of you x

TeaAndANatter Thu 15-Aug-13 18:08:38

Oh, forgot to give stats:

2 DC, 1 MMC, EDD 21st-ish April 2014

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