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Pregnant (IVF) Worriers Part 3

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Buzzybee123 Tue 13-Aug-13 19:25:52

Hi everyone,

This thread is for all you incessant worriers out there, not necessarily limited to IVF-ers, although I get the feeling the people who have had trouble TTC are more prone to worrying than others!

putthecrispsDOWN Wed 14-Aug-13 21:43:48

Oh and noks make sure you ask to be told when to look away if you don't want to find out....serial scanners like use are quite good at 'seeing' scans, and when I had DD her faloola was very easy to see on scans!

keepitgoing Wed 14-Aug-13 21:57:33

I didn't look away, crisps, and didn't see anything. Does that mean its a girl and/or I'm dense?!

Nokkie73 Wed 14-Aug-13 21:59:16

Don't worry crisps I will make it very clear that if they show me my baby's foof or dangly bits, I shall karate chop them in the face.

We also have a superking bed, which is slightly ridiculous considering we have a two bed Victorian semi. Well, it was on offer and was the most fantastic purchase in the whole world saddo freak

keepitgoing Wed 14-Aug-13 22:03:09

I've always wanted a bed that takes up the whole room.

But am sleeping on a lilo for another month at least until we complete selling our house and can get our furniture back.......

Ginestas Wed 14-Aug-13 22:12:59

Aha found you! I thought the epi -not coming anywhere near my yoni no might have killed the thread! Loving the idea of my lady bits as a lair, although it's a long time since they've laired anything other than stray bits of anusol grin Will catch up propers later. Waves to all and big luffs to little Bella in particular and good luck noks tomorrow.

Ginestas Wed 14-Aug-13 22:27:34

Ps meant to say fab news on the scan sweetie! Team pink and blue, how lovely.

Dildals Thu 15-Aug-13 06:55:00

keep although she is only taking small amounts of milk at the moment (comparatively), this is the time where, as an expressing mum, need to establish supply. So in the first few weeks after birth I need to make sure I have a supply that will cover her demands as a proper newborn. It is hard to increase supply afterwards. It is probably different if you have an actual newborn feeding, because then there is an actual supply demand cycle going, whereas here that natural link is broken.

Dildals Thu 15-Aug-13 09:38:59

RIGHT ladies. I have managed to create the FB group called The Yoni Warriors ... I have made it a 'secret' group, so we can only see who is a member, posts etc. I don't know whether it comes up on the search function of FB, considering I have made it secret, but if you PM me your email address I can invite you to the group.

I'm here ladies. All fine (thanks for looking out for me). I slept in the bus yesterday morning then was half way thru posting on way home and bro called then had Hypno. Any road up I'm here now and must confess <whispers> I'm skivving off. Well Ive been abit fed up this week and need a peaceful day just me n shazlett hanging out.

Crisps I'm so sorry to hear about your bro. It must be so worrying. I'm glad he is ok. I laughed outloud at your MTV cribs bed. Do you have leopard print and mirrorswink. Eek at the thought of triplets. I'm with you on the tight jeans. I was so uncomfortable yesterday which I think added to my misery during the day. I'm going to have to bite the bullet and buy some new ones. I'm upset that the pillow is crap. There was a sale the other day and I ordered one at nearly half price. I'm just waiting for it.

Dildals so happy our Bella is on the mend after the scare. The icu routine sounds gruelling. What do mums do who don't live nearby? Is there a room you can go and rest or just the expressing room? TED talks are brilliant. There are so many to recommend. Also TED radio hour podcasts are brilliant. They take a topic and snippets of 3 talks about that and chat to the speakers abit more.

Expat exciting to be buying final bits. I've bookmarked the star fleece. So cute. Now I have to decide on a colour. Maybe it will be the first thing I buy. Hurrah for finishing work.

Vall good plan to have a scan lined up. They are reassuring in the early days. I had 5 before week 12 for one reason or another. Yikes at the epi no. Like fairy and keep I've also been looking into p massage abit more and am confused about benefits. I'm inspired that it worked for you though. But maybe you would have had that result anyway? It's impossible to know.

Mariana I've spent the last 2 days working myself into a frenzy about the whole birth event. Tearing, pain, recovery all of it. I think that it was all the reading about childbirth freaked me out. Hypno calmed me down last night so I've decided that it is going to happen anyway so I may as well be positive about it and not focus on all that can go wrong. I was feeling worried that I would fail at Hypno and then feel guilty about having an assisted medicated birth knowing that it might affect me and shazlett. I was abit stuck between a rock and a hard place. But I've taken today to relax and potter and be calm and peaceful.

Buzzy fanks for the new 'fred. It took me a while of refreshing the old one to work out it was full! GP sounds well cheeky. blush At weeing!

Noks thinking of you and little nipper right now. I hope he is being good and posing for the camera. I had to google yoni. In my innocence I also didn't know what it was!

Keep welcome back into the NHS. Glad it is sorted.

Fairy am also jealous of holiday naps. I plan in having one this afternoon and being guilt free about it.

Hello to everyone else.

Thanks for the Fb group dildals. I'll get on in there in a sec. Looks like I'm going to have a very productive day! X

keepitgoing Thu 15-Aug-13 11:00:42

Oh shaz that's why I decided not to do hypno. If you need pain relief or assistance you will NOT have failed. Try and use the hypno but do not buy in to that bullshit. You can do what you'll do, and there's no right or wrong.

Good luck noks. Gosh I really feel we are all motoring through now!

Nokkie73 Thu 15-Aug-13 11:06:48

I am very pleased to announce that the Nipper Rascal is absolutely fine. Thank GOD.

As you were. grin

keepitgoing Thu 15-Aug-13 11:12:45

Woo hop grin did you avoid spotting any bits?

Hurrah for the nipper rascal. So happy. Relax and enjoy the relief. Are you off work for the rest of the day?

Thanks keep. I think I got myself abit too well informed and started to imagine all sorts of scenarios. I want to use the Hypno to help but also remain open and flexible to what happens on the day. I'm still so nervous though. Fear of the unknown I suppose.

I'm loving my 'free' day. Just got myself into all sorts of contortions to have a bit off a tidy up of my lady garden. smile

Nokkie73 Thu 15-Aug-13 11:26:29

We did avoid seeing any bits ! They had to send me out for a walk as the little bugger wouldn't have pictures of his brain and heart taken clearly at first. When we went back she saw them clearly and they were absolutely fine.

I am off for the rest of the day. However, the outlaws are descending so I am busy tidying-up which is VERY DULL INDEED. I'm going to meet my Ma later so am looking forward to that as the outlaws won't arrive from the badlands of the north till late tonight. I am sure i will have to bite my lip as I am compared to my perfect boring SIL and at efforts to encourage me to get advice on baybees from her. Still, I have decided to take the 'Brian Cox' approach to life and smile sweetly at everything don't tell lies you angry, bitter old hag

shazz please please don't injure yourself tending to the lady yoni.

Oh Noks I also need help in avoiding 'advice' from SIL the earth mother. Did I tell you that the latest is that she told DP that it was irresponsible and DANGEROUS for us to have a home birth. confused

Have fun with your mum. Hurrah for keeping the sex of the nipper secret. Now we can have 4 months of speculating!

I'm proud to report that the lady garden is sort of tidyish.

keepitgoing Thu 15-Aug-13 13:45:36

I think we have a higher rate of not finding out the sex than most. I wonder if it's from having had so much knowledge that we like a surprise. That was true for me, I always thought I'd find out, till after the ivf worked.

MW appt went well. She didn't balk at our hall full of boxes, and I heard the lovely HB smile

Nokkie73 Thu 15-Aug-13 13:58:26

shaz you mentioned that when we met-up. It's irresponsible of her to open her big trap and say that sort of nonsense, in my view. Honestly, anyone would think that you were wandering by yourself into the fecking bush to give birth by the big oak tree. You're having a home birth, it's not that bloody 'woo'.

In an effort to cheer you up, I am making a special award.

Drum roll, please........

And the inaugural Yoscar (Oscar for Yoni's) goes to........Shazza. For having a beautifully tidy and well manicured Yoni Garden.

The next Yoscar award will be for the best foof in a 'topiary' style design. apparently the smart money is on buzz for this one

keep yay for hearing the heartbeat. I agree with the surprise theory. I now know more than I ever cared to about my innards. It's nice that some things are still a surprise.

eurochick Thu 15-Aug-13 14:28:50

This just popped up on Active and I can't believe how many familiar names there are here.

Dildals I've just seen your news. Bella is incredibly beautiful. I hope she will be home with you soon. I just shed a tear for Georgia. What an incredible rollercoaster for you.

Good luck to you all. I hope I will be joining you one day!

Nokkie73 Thu 15-Aug-13 14:52:52

euro ! We are all willing you to join us here very soon. What news from the eurofoof ? Are you onto your next cycle ?

keepitgoing Thu 15-Aug-13 14:57:12

euro!!! Hope you are OK. Are you doing another natural cycle? Masses of good luck, can't wait for you to join us too

keepitgoing Thu 15-Aug-13 14:58:25

PS I often see your invariably sensible replies on some crazy threads and it makes me smile. They just annoy me smile

I'm thrilled with my yoscar. Thank you. It has pride of place in my newly painted lounge. I'd like to thank my bump for not being too big and firm that I can't hold it back to get to those awkward areas, darling DP who will think that tonight is Christmas Eve if I can keep my eyes open long enough to look alluring wink, Noks for setting up the awards and all the girls who voted for me.

I choked at the aside for buzzy wink

Euro we are very active over here! Lovely to see you. How is it going? Loads of luck for your new cycle. We're keeping your seat warm over here ready for you.

Well done for the appt keep. Good news. Did you get bounty at your booking appt? I've never gotten over the fact that dildals and someone else i think got free stuff and I didn't get so much as a 10% off voucher. smile

Am loving skivving. Just had a nap X

eurochick Thu 15-Aug-13 15:40:47

Thanks all. Yes, it's another natural cycle. IVF#3. EC tomorrow. Here we go again... I've had hypnotherapy so hopefully I will be able to get through it without streaking out of the clinic in my hospital gown...

This is a lovely thread. I hope I get to join you for real one day. It's so encouraging to see so many of you on the other side of the IVF fence.

Buzzybee123 Thu 15-Aug-13 15:41:40

keep yay to heartbeats smile

noks grabs yoni award with both hands, my fooof has indeed been poofed up recently, although the more you trim the quicker it grows, have yet to introduce Barry to my weedwacker grin

I admire anyone who can wait until they pop it out, I am so imaptient hmm

shazza angry at stupid sil you need to be polite and assertive when you tell her that you are an intelligent woman and do not need advice, that this is YOUR baby and you and your partner will know what is best, if she carries on then let her have her say then follow up with now we have finished discussing my parenting skills lets talk about about yours or the lack of wink

euro good luck for this cycle and we shall see you in a couple of weeks on here

oh feck I was fiddling with my work computer and now my m is a 0 so now I can't log on hmm

Found you!

Thought the Epi-Noooooooo! had killed the thread.

Back later...

(ps good scan news noks)

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