Has anyone else's OH completely lost all interest in them and stopped being affectionate (even verbally) since you got your BFP? We planned to get pregnant so it's not as if I've trapped him. No sex or any type of play for going on 3 weeks now. It's the longest we've gone without since getting together (though I know it's not long in the grand scheme of things). Starting to feel quite unwanted.
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welshfirsttimemummy ·
06/08/2013 20:16
Why don't you try talking to him about it? Some men are worried about having sex when they know their partner is pregnant in fear of "hurting the baby". Maybe he just needs reassurance that it would do no harm 
JodiLeighLeigh ·
06/08/2013 20:23
Hi welshfirsttimemummy
I did try that already unfortunately. He is denying that he's normally affectionate rather than denying that he isn't being affectionate now, is acknowledging that we've not been intimate, and says the reasons are that he's tired and that because I have sore boobs, we can't do it 'the way wants'. We like it quite rough but it honestly seems that softening down the boob play is a deal breaker 
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JodiLeighLeigh ·
06/08/2013 20:34
I might just need to give it more time and shelve my feelings if I can manage it.
I think he might be having a bit of a panic about things that will no longer be possible once we have children (we've certainly lived our pre-baby lives to the fullest). He's bipolar and talks similarly to this when he's in phases of pulling away. I suppose timing is everything
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ccsays ·
07/08/2013 03:08
Bipolar or not, saying he doesn't want sex because you have sore boobs and it won't be the 'way he wants it' seems very selfish to me. Is it really that much of a sacrifice for him? 
Even if he doesn't feel like sex right now, there are other ways to show affection to you, especially when you're in early pregnancy and are likely to be feeling a bit vulnerable.
JodiLeighLeigh ·
07/08/2013 12:31
ccsays - being quite a selfish person is unfortunately one of his less dignified traits, though he'd never admit it.
He started telling people yesterday evening and has actually been quite affectionate after he came home. Think someone may have given him a reality check and he has had a rethink about how bad the earlier weeks of pregnancy can make you feel.
Providing I get affection at least...the sex will follow. He'll only get jealous if I go and treat myself to a better vibrator for my birthday next week 
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