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Anyone else had to go on long term sick what pregnant??

(16 Posts)
Lovemyprincess4eva Mon 05-Aug-13 17:42:19

So basically I have had a few issues recently with this pregnancy and now at 24 weeks my doctor and midwife have basically said that I won't be going back to work. I have been put on sick leave and then I am due to finish work at 30 weeks anyway because my contract ends then. So basically I am now finished and my baby isn't due for another 15 weeks!!

Has anyone else been in this position? I just don't know what to do with myself and feel like I am being so lazy not working as I feel fine in myself most of the time then I try and go to work and something goes wrong so end up off again.

I don't really know what answers I am looking for I am just so confused about how I feel at the minute xx

impatienttobemummy Mon 05-Aug-13 17:49:39

Relax start to get things ready! Join some antenatal classes hypno birthing yoga etc? Go for walks, your're not lazy your making a new life it's hard work!

impatienttobemummy Mon 05-Aug-13 17:50:45

It's hard not being at work as it goes against the grain but as long as you slot in regular activities and visits you will be okay!

fatfingers Mon 05-Aug-13 17:57:25

Yes, I did but I was in and out of hospital and when I was at home I was on bed rest so no time/inclination for worrying about work! Relax, take things easy and make the most of your time before the baby arrives! Do you have any friends that don't work?

Lovemyprincess4eva Mon 05-Aug-13 18:22:47

Thanks for replies. I have a couple of friends that have young children so will be able to spend some time with them but I have always worked since being 16 even part time whilst at college and uni so this being at home all day is really strange to me x

Mogz Tue 06-Aug-13 10:24:36

I've been off now for... Gosh I've lost count! ... Well since the beginning of May due to hyperemesis. As it looks like I won't be going back before I start maternity leave either as the doc just signed me off for another month.
This left me feeling very lazy and guilty but you have to realise that you need to do what is best for you and your baby. It does get bloody boring though.
Look in to some online courses, start some craft projects, read good books, indulge in DVD box sets and try to keep in contac with people in the real world as much as possible, phone calls have been my lifeline as I've not been able to leave the house much.
Good luck with everything.

Lovemyprincess4eva Tue 06-Aug-13 11:12:13

Thanks mogz! I am trying to keep myself busy but I am so used to going to work it is really strange not doing so now. Although it is all new so I am enjoying the peace at the minute haha. Xx

Writerwannabe83 Tue 06-Aug-13 11:46:52

I am newly pregnant and I have epilepsy and some issues with my heart. I had my risk assessment with my line manager at the end of last week and she told me in no uncertain terms that if in any way my health becomes compromised she will make me go off sick - no arguing!

I was a little surprised that she was so adamant about it, but also very glad as I am very anxious as to how the pregnancy will affect my chronic problems.

My advice is put your feet up, relish in the peace and quiet and just enjoy it!!!! grin

I'm 27 weeks and on my 3rd week of sick leave. I have a bullying line manager and despite me complaining about her and asking them to sort it out so I could stay in work they haven't. I got awful palpitations and my doctors were worried about stress affecting my baby.

I'm finding it odd at the mo too as I feel lazy for not being in work! But then if they'd sort out the stupid bully I could go back!

Mogz Tue 06-Aug-13 15:53:18

Aren't line managers wonderful Fairy, mine hasn't said a single word to me since I let work know I was pregnant, then in hospital, then on long term sick. Didn't even sign the card my other, lovely, colleagues got for me.

Writerwannabe83 Tue 06-Aug-13 16:08:03

They both sound awful!

Mine is really, really lovely so I'm grateful she is willing to support me should I need to go off sick. When she was pregnant herself with twins she was signed off sick when she was 17 weeks gestation so I think she has the empathy that others might lack smile

I'm finding that loads of people are in a similar position to me as regards line managers! So many seem to be horrible!

I'm not going back unless they sort her out and they think she's wonderful so I guess I won't be returning!

Writerwannabe83 Tue 06-Aug-13 16:17:34

I work with a team of Health Visitors, including my Line Manager being one, so I guess that helps smile They have been nothing but supportive from the start and we will be meeting fortnightly to review my Risk Assessment. I'm under the care of 3 different Consultants and 2 Specialist Nurses due to my health and now, due to the pregnancy I have a LOT of appointments coming up with them all, so I'm glad I have my Manager's understanding, as opposed to people complaining that I'm needing time off work to attend them all smile

maggiethemagpie Tue 06-Aug-13 16:53:40

I'm 32 weeks and been off since 25 weeks, and on restricted duties since 12 weeks. They couldn't restrict my duties any more so I had to go on sick leave at 25 weeks. I'm getting a bit bored now, but not complaining as I got full sick pay. I'm now on annual leave as we have to use up all our holiday before starting mat leave, which they can enforce at 36 weeks if off for a pregnancy related reason.

I don't feel at all guilty as my employer tried to get rid of me (redundancy) whilst all this was going on, but I managed to get it overturned on appeal by making it very clear an employment tribunal would be the next step. I'm just a bit bored now, and ready for the baby to come along but also relishing the calm before the storm!

posybunchof Tue 06-Aug-13 17:35:34

I've more or less been off since 25 weeks, and my mat leave kicked in at 29 weeks. I don't feel guilty at all, have enjoyed having some time to myself. If you're not well enough to work, you'll need the rest. Get some boxsets and good books. Find an aqua-natal class or yoga to give your week a bit of structure. Sign up to an ante-natal class and get some pregnant friends to have coffee with. And remember, in the seventies they all gave up at six months!

Lovemyprincess4eva Tue 06-Aug-13 18:20:18

Thanks ladies feel a bit better about it all now.
I have been trying to keep myself occupied and at the minute its not too bad as I have a few teacher friends so they are also off at the minute.
Wish I was getting full sick pay though, wouldn't feel as bad if I was but I am depending on DH a lot at the minute.
Think I need to find mum to be group or something so meet people going through the same as me xx

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