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Been told my weight gain is excessive :(

(30 Posts)
Ls271082 Sat 03-Aug-13 17:50:31

I'm so upset sad feel so crap about myself and was before bing told this tbf but now feel even worse. I'm 33 weeks and put on 2 stone 1lbs, anyway went to doc yday and he weighed me and stated my weight gain was excessive for my starting weight, height and I should have been aiming t 2 stone altogether. I feel so awful about myslf right now, don't want to go out crying all time just feel hideous. I started at 7 stone 7

cupcake78 Sat 03-Aug-13 17:59:15

They made me feel terrible as well! I put on 4 1/2 stone with dd who is only 5 weeks. I've lost 3 of it already and been back in my jeans for the last week, they are a little snug but wearable!

All you can do is try your best to eat well. Dd is my second baby and the weight dropped off with ds as well. I know its hard but please try not to stress out to much.

CheeseFondueRocks Sat 03-Aug-13 18:11:43

Tssss. Don't get upset about this. Overweight people are meant to put on less than people of normal weight but you don't sound overweight to me. It might just be that you put on most of your overall gain on now and it will slow down. If you're eating healthily, you're ok.

There's a calculator here and it tells you, dependent on your height and weight pre pregancy, how much you should gain and in which time frame. I really like it as it helps me to keep track of things.

www.kidspot.com.au/weightgain/pregnancyweightgain.asp

Where are you anyway that the doctor is weighing you? I didn't think this was done anymore in the UK...

Teaandflapjacks Sat 03-Aug-13 18:20:03

Yes Cheese I was going to ask that - I live in germany and get weighed every 4 weeks here, but was told by UK chums it does not happen there anymore?

OP you were 7 1/2 stone starting weight? How tall are you?!

LemonPeculiarJones Sat 03-Aug-13 18:22:54

Omg don't worry! That doctor was full of crap.

I put on 4 stone with DS1. Not ideal but whatever. Lost it before his first birthday.

Honestly do not worry and do not watch your weight right now!

Listen to what your body needs, even if it is cake. Take as much exercise as you feel you want to (I just mean walking/swimming, gentle stuff). But equally rest and rest and rest if you need to.

Enjoy the rest of your pg guilt free!

I don't think that 2 stone on at 33 weeks with a starting weight is excessive....I had a starting weight with dd of 8.5 stone and was weighed at 40 weeks at 11 stone. Nothing was said about that. (lost it all and more 8 mths after she was born).
Are you outside UK? Or is your gp particularly old school? Ask your midwife at next appt, I bet she is more than reassuring & says something about his comments
smile

forevergreek Sat 03-Aug-13 18:43:26

I was 7stone 10, at beginning of pregnancy with both children. Gained 2 stone, but was told anything up to 4 would have been average for my height/ weight.

Was back to same weight after both pretty quickly ( babies both 7-8lb, plus placenta/ fluid)

mrspaddy Sat 03-Aug-13 18:48:55

I wouldn't worry about 2 stone.. you are not that far from full term.. my GP weighs me.. I don't even look down so I don't know but she says everything fine.
If you know you are eating healthily and you feel good - try not to worry.

g0ldie Sat 03-Aug-13 19:11:14

i'm sorry your doctor said that! that was about the same as me and no one said a thing!! I think they were just being mean. I also know many people who put on more. By the way 6 months post pregnancy i'm about half a stone less than when i started so seems about right for me??

ChristineDaae Sat 03-Aug-13 19:16:56

I put on 4st in my pregnancy, by her 1st birthday I weighed about a half a stone less than before getting pregnant. Ignore them!

ChunkyPickle Sat 03-Aug-13 19:20:52

The UK HCPs are obsessed with weight in comparison to health professionals I was looked after by during my last pregnancy (in 2 other countries, private and public systems).

Obviously risks are increased, but they seem to have completely got it out of proportion to those risks from what I can see (as a very obese woman, who reads studies to get a more realistic view rather than the hysteria I get from the consultants over her enormous stomach)

fishandmonkey Sat 03-Aug-13 19:21:01

i was told that too. not what you want to hear is it? make sure you're drinking plenty of water as some pregnant women retain water if they're a little dehydrated.
try not to worry - lots of people put on lots more than that and loose it very quickly after they've given birth, especially if they were very slim to begin with.

NatashaBee Sat 03-Aug-13 19:24:45

Sounds like you were small to start with so its right that you have put on slightly more than average. You'll probably find that your stomach gets squashed up over the next few weeks as your baby grows so you won't put much more weight on anyway...

I put on more weight than that at 33 weeks but didn't get told off. I was weighed and my booking appointment and not at all after that. Two stone isn't excessive IMO, especially when your starting weight was only 7st 7lb. Please don't worry.

perfectstorm Sat 03-Aug-13 19:37:21

I was 8.5 stone when I got pregnant with DS. I was 14.5 the week before he was born. I had issues with eating as an adolescent and it wasn't until pregnant that I consciously realised that, though a normal weight again, I was reducing sensible food to compensate if I ate an ice cream or cake or whatever. Obviously you can't do that in pregnancy, and as I had horrible SPD and work was stressful I was comfort eating, too.

My mother raised it with a midwife who slapped her down sharply by saying I was doing really well with a difficult pregnancy, and weight expectations had altered since the 1970s.

I didn't diet after DS was born, but just by BF and eating normally I lost 2 stone in 3 months. I lost the rest over a year, down to 9.5 stone which I was when I got pregnant this time. At 9 weeks I think I am probably a stone heavier already as I am HUNGRY all the time! But that's an improvement on last time, when I lost weight that first trimester due to bad morning sickness. (Honestly, I think my eating so much better these days because I have to cook well and set a good example for DS is why I don't have such chronic morning sickness all day long.) I'm not going to worry about it. You know the actress, Jennifer Garner? She said she put on around 4 stone in every pregnancy, no matter what she did.

2 stone at 33 weeks is fine. Can I ask if your doctor is over say 50? Because my midwife told my mother that was very old-fashioned thinking, and these days they approach things in a far more nuanced way - that a woman who started out slim, fit and healthy and who had mobility problems, but whose blood sugar was fine, caused no concerns in gaining the weight, because my previous 34 years of living indicated I would shift it perfectly well, and I wasn't in a dangerous margin anyway. Bear in mind your baby, placenta and extra blood and fluid will be well over a stone of that weight, and the body lays in fat supplies for breastfeeding. I don't think a stone weight gain is a disaster for anyone, frankly. You're growing a human being from scratch in your body. Tell this man to try it and then get back to you on how the odd eclair is a worry. You weigh what, 10 stone at 7 months pregnant? How very dare you!

That's probably the national average weight for women these days. When not pregnant.

Queazy Sat 03-Aug-13 20:06:36

I've put on 2.5 stone at 37 weeks, nearing 3. Everyone is different and a lot of it could be fluid retention. All he's achieved is to unnecessarily worry and upset you. Please don't worry - you're normal and in fact have put on less than me and all the people I know who've been pregnant recently x

Monka Sat 03-Aug-13 22:38:36

I was told to only put on no more than two stone in pregnancy. I was 8 stone and 5'2 to begin with and at 39 weeks have only put on 1 stone 8 pounds. for ages I was paranoid I hadn't put on enough. But everyone is different. Some of my family and friends put on anything between 1 stone to 4 stone due to water retention and it was just the way their bodies changed during pregnancy. I did lots of running before I got pregnant so think my fitness may have helped me as I had loads of amounts of energy during my first trimester and do lots around the house even now. I can't sit still in front on the T.V have to do be doing something like knitting etc.

The priority is having a healthy baby you can always lose the weight afterwards besides you don't sound like you've put on loads anyway.

TeWiSavesTheDay Sat 03-Aug-13 22:42:21

How tall are you? I'm 5'4" same starting weight as you, gained 3 stone each pregnancy (on my 3rd now) and lost it all with no issues each time.

Ignore the doctor!

mamamidwife Sat 03-Aug-13 22:51:25

I would tell your gp/doc where to get off. Sounds like you we're ultra slim on your starting weight, don't worry about it.
It's nature

AlpenIsTedious Sat 03-Aug-13 22:58:08

I don't think your weight gain is anywhere close to excessive, seems very healthy to me. However, in general terms, let's be realistic - pregnancy is not a time to eat with reckless abandon and completely relax about weigjt gain. Too much food - in particular sugar - can contribute to GD and complicate delivery. I don't think anyone really needs to be gaining more than three stone generally. And before anyone thinks I'm preaching, sadly I speak from bitter experience (bad shoulder dystocia with a baby too large for my small pelvis - suspected GD though it was not diagnosed at the time). And I was 7 stone when I fell pregnant!! This pregnancy I've had to completely cut out junk and refined sugar, as I am basically addicted to it sad - hence my username!

ilovemulberry Sat 03-Aug-13 23:24:10

I'm 33 weeks on Tuesday and haven't been weighed twice, once at booking appt and once at 12 weeks scan. I know myself I have put on just over 2stone- started at 9st 10lb. It's really strange though as I am all bump pretty much. I have gained some weight on thighs and bum but look the same just with a bump!

ilovemulberry Sat 03-Aug-13 23:24:27

Sorry have been weighed

Ls271082 Sat 03-Aug-13 23:26:41

I'm 5'2, weight has been going on steadly or so I thought, my ankles are massive so maybe it is fluid. It's just made me feel so awful. I am in uk, think he weighed me cos I was talking about how big I'm feeling and he said 'let's have a look and we'll see' them said ooh it is a bit excessive

spaghettibolognese Sun 04-Aug-13 02:30:07

I've got small and/or slender friends who gained 20-25 kg over the course of their pregnancy. Most of it was fluid, and went away within 6-9 months of them giving birth. As long as you're eating decent meals I'm sure you'll be fine.

I started off at 8.5 stone when pregnant with ds and was somewhere around 11 stone when I had him. My midwife also mentioned the 2 stone "limit" when I was already close to it at half way through.
Ds was a big baby and I was absolutely ful of water. I couldn't believe how skinny my ankles were after I had him as I was so used to having swollen fat ones! Don't worry, so long as you are eating healthily and not loads of junk you'll be fine.

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