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To sling or not to sling?

(67 Posts)
Rosenip Fri 02-Aug-13 16:41:51

What are the pros and cons? I am a clueless first time mum!

Also, which one should I get, it seems there are so many options...

Xmasbaby11 Sat 03-Aug-13 21:45:13

I didn't really get on with the sling with DD - out and about the buggy was more practical as you can get your shopping in it (maybe I just lugged around too big a changing bag!), and in the house DD was always happier lying down.

Having said that, I had a Baby Bjorn, which seems to be getting a bad rap on here. And I feel so inspired by the positive stories, I think I will go to a sling session when DC2 is born and see if there is one that works for us. Very useful thread!

dizzy77 Sat 03-Aug-13 20:33:58

Hi shreddies - sling using ff'er here grin. I wonder if it's one of those things, like people often assume I'm vegetarian and would like a skinny decaf latte. Doesn't seem to be a cloth bum thing round here but a bIT aspirational/NCT, I suppose based on my circle. Causing consternation as while ff'ing ds2 now using cow & gate rather than the expected aptamil as I poured too many unnecessary ££s down the sink with Ds1!

I didn't use a sling much with DS1 - like many had a second hand Baby Bjorn which I used when hanging washing etc, when he was outgrowing it at about 4mo I came on here to find a replacement and learned how bad they were blush.

Got a second hand ergo and love it, used for practicality rather than full on "babywearing" eg at groups/coffee meets where there would have been a buggy pile up and again for housework and short errands where not worth getting the buggy out.

Borrowing a Kari-me now for ds2 (8wo) and about to take plunge to buy one (ebay resale values are good) until he's big enough for the ergo. Would strongly recommend if only to get your hands back!

pookamoo Sat 03-Aug-13 19:42:31

Aww, shreddies I didn't mean to suggest you weren't bonded, just that the sling gives even more bonding time, even when you're not feeding the baby (however that may be!) smile

It's sooooooo lovely having them tucked up next to you!

PurplePidjin Sat 03-Aug-13 19:03:52

Definitely, minstrels although John Lewis now do Ergo iirc smile

Mothercare did a webchat a while back and got an absolute hammering over slings and cloth nappies! grin

No worries Clare - they look a lot better than when I had one - mine was thick jersey these look quite different and the colours are great grin

minesapackofminstrels Sat 03-Aug-13 18:28:34

I opened this as it was on most active. Sadly my sling days are pretty much over as my youngest is 2 and a half and would rather keep up with her older brothers than go in the ergo.
What I have noticed here is that people favor the slightly more obscure brands that would have to be ordered online rather than found in the local mothercare. I agree with everyone that the Baby Bjorn is uncomfortable. I loved my ringsling and my ergo even more. My middle child was a lazy wotsit and I remember using the ergo when he was 3 and he is a big for his age child.
What a shame the better brands are not more widely known.

Thanks for the zulily tip Hamwidge I had just decided on a close caboo carrier after loads of deliberation so have got myself a snazzy purple number smile

http://www.hipdysplasia.org/developmental-dysplasia-of-the-hip/prevention/baby-carriers-seats-and-other-equipment/

Sorry I can't dm the link properly. This was a quick google but its actually a v good explanation grin

afrikat Sat 03-Aug-13 18:09:57

Hi sorry to hijack but my DH is really set on a baby bjorn (a couple of our friends have them and like them and he has seen quite a few people using them so thinks they should be good) but have seen a few people on here commenting that they could cause hip / back problems etc.

Have any studies been done on this / can you link to any evidence they are not a good option?

Thanks!

MrsHoarder Sat 03-Aug-13 18:09:16

Shreddies I would have thought front-carrying was easier in the early days for ffers. No engorgement...

PurplePidjin Sat 03-Aug-13 18:02:54

My dp has a Rose and Rebellion in red with little jolly roger skulls on, he prefers the "pretty" side to the plain black one grin

Ipp, ds is 8 months and loves being on my back. I just turn my head and we have a wee chatter! He has to be in the right mood for the buggy but the sling puts him in a good mood as soon as he's sat on it ready to go up!

Ipp3 Sat 03-Aug-13 17:46:57

You need both. I actually think ds prefers the pram as he can see me and we can interact and have a laugh and smile together and he likes looking up at the trees overhead. He can't do this in a sling. Sling is great for newborn or for older child when you need to negotiate stairs but frankly my ds looks a bit 'meh' in the sling now!

AnotherStitchInTime Sat 03-Aug-13 17:36:12

Hi enormous, I had a Baby Bjorn, but hated the weight distribution, plus it is bad for the baby's hips and spine.

DH was the same and didn't get on with the wrap, but happily wears the Manduca (it has a newborn insert as part of the carrier, you don't have to purchase it separately). We have a navy blue one, very masculine.

Danilou22 Sat 03-Aug-13 16:04:33

I did like my sling but my partner used it more that I did. I found them difficult to wear as I have big boobs normally let alone when I am breastfeeding!! I just couldn't make the baby comfortable and it felt like he was miles out in front of me!!!

Good luck I hope you find one you are happy with x

enormouse Sat 03-Aug-13 14:38:59

*manduca damn autocorrect

Ergos come in khaki grin

enormouse Sat 03-Aug-13 14:25:41

It's the look hamwidge. I think he finds the wrap style a bit girly and he wants something more blokey. I'm against them for the reason everyone's given but I'll definitely check out the ergos and Mandriva. Thanks! smile

RNJ3007 Sat 03-Aug-13 14:12:36

Go for it! I have a moby, an ellaroo woven wrap, a hugababy ring sling and will soon have a boba 3g!

Just make sure they keep bub's hips in a suitable position!

Is it the look or the comfort of the baby bjorn. They really arnt great for babies as thru do not sit knee to knee. If he prefers more structure with secure looking buckles have a look at ergo and manduca - both come in lots of muted masculine colours and are v comfy and supportive. I know lots of dads who use them inc my dds dad - v blokey bloke - ergo fan grin

enormouse Sat 03-Aug-13 14:00:33

Thanks hamwidge. Just a general question, is it worth getting his and hers slings? My DP prefers the babybjorns and I really don't like them (prefer caboos and kari mes). We already have a toddler and don't have the room or patience to go down the double/tandem buggy route.

Caboos down to 40 on zulily in some fab colours grin

BlackholesAndRevelations Sat 03-Aug-13 12:51:39

Blimey, shreddies, I never would have linked using a sling to only bf. Bizarre thought that ff babies can't be carried/worn!

Anyhow... I loved my moby and can't wait to use it again with number three. Takes a little practice to get it tied on correctly- I watched a vid on YouTube and practises infront of the mirror a couple of times! Will be investing in a woven wrap too as they can be used longer than a stretchy.

InMyShreddies Sat 03-Aug-13 11:39:16

Yes I'm sure none of my mummy friends believe me that I've never left DS to cry and yet he just loves his own company, spends ages chatting to himself in his cot and looks quite annoyed when I go to get him up confused

I do hate saying I ff, I wish I had the courage of my convictions the way people who do other 'imperfect' mothering stuff manage to.

I don't get the all or nothing either and it annoys me quite a bit. I use a sling and I bf but my two sleep in Moses baskets and cots without any fuss at all - I have had the folk described in my lady post utterly aghast assuming I must have done cc to achieve that - ESP if I say they mostly sleep through....I Leto meaning to start a thread moaning about this kind of judgement.

InMyShreddies Sat 03-Aug-13 09:35:45

Ah well I BLW and SAH and am sometimes usually quite gentle so perhaps I'm allowed to use a sling although I ff grin

I'm just so used to judginess from people who do subscribe to an all-or-nothing type parenting strategy. As soon as I mention ff with some people on here and in rl it's like I need to be saved or fixed. I don't really subscribe to attachment stuff that with DS1 at least, might have stopped him being such a good self-settler, but I hope lots of sling cuddles won't impact that! Although probably DC2 will be an awful sleeper since we've been so lucky with DS...

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