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Is anybody NOT scared of giving birth?

(112 Posts)
shniper Sat 20-Jul-13 12:37:38

With my first I wasn't worried/scared a bit. My antenatal classes didn't mention anything to do with labour and nobody wanted to share their birth experiences with me so I really didn't have a clue what to expect!

My friends dad asked me if I was scared and I said no, he called me a liar because everyone gets scared hmm

This time around I feel exactly the same, only I know what to expect and it still doesn't bother me.

Oh asked if I was scared and I said no, he said 'not even a little?' no.. its not a feeling I choose to switch off I'm just not worried, end of.
In fact, I have my dd name tattooed on me and I'm more worried about having my sons name tattooed on me because I had such a traumatic experience with my last!

I get this reaction a lot when I tell people the truth, I feel as though I should lie instead and say yes I'm bloody terrified just to satisfy them!

anaotchan Sat 07-Sep-13 20:11:13

It depends what you mean exactly - I am not really scared of the pain for myself. I am, however, terrified that something may go wrong for the baby.

Right now I'm associating childbirth to finally meeting my baby, so the prospect of pain... meh. By FAR the biggest worry on my mind is, will the baby be born safe and healthy.

I realize I'm likely to change my mind in the middle of labour and absolutely hate the pain, but I figure there's no point trying to scare myself in advance - may as well approach it with a positive mind, at least I'll spare myself useless mental agony in the coming weeks waiting for the birth!

RNJ3007 Sat 07-Sep-13 20:23:59

I was a tad nervous the first time as I was induced, and I'd been told induction would be grim.

For my second, I wasn't at all scared. Was totally excited for my waters to go, and high-fived my husband when I had my first 'need to breathe' contraction (incidentally, my son's head delivered about 5 seconds after the high five... Whoops!)

BreeWannabe Sun 08-Sep-13 10:52:29

Well said, Daisy. I wasn't scared (what's the point? Won't help) til I read this thread! Seriously ladies, why are we posting horrendous things on here? All that will achieve is to frighten those of us about to go through it. The thread is "anyone not scared?" So why are people trying to scare each other?! sad
I just think, nobody else's birth experience is relevant to me in any way. Easy or hard, it will be what it will be. But seriously, please think and be sensitive before posting about horrible things which have happened to you/your sister/your colleagues sad

ZiaMaria Sun 08-Sep-13 10:56:45

Umm. I wasn't scared either. I'd read up on the process so I knew what might happen, and I rather thought that it would be fine. And if it wasn't I'd be at the nice hospital with the nice doctor with his nice knife who would do the job for me if required. I didn't really think too much beyond that. Seemed a waste of energy to get scared - the baby was presumably going to have to exit regardless.

greentshirt Sun 08-Sep-13 11:52:29

im not scared of labour or the pain, but I am scared of needing intervention or something going wrong. As someone else said upthread, a few too many people I know have ended up with still borns at my local hospital due to lack of monitoring in labour so thats my major worry. im considering a homebirth at the moment as I know I will get the monitoring I want and im not far from the hospital so if I needed to be transferred it would only take 5mins.

Is there a homebirth thread anywhere?

hamncheese Wed 18-Sep-13 08:05:53

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/pregnancy/1850098-Home-birth-with-number-2

Sure there are others too though.

I wasn't scared first time, couldn't wait actually. this time I'm sat here saying I wish I could have five labours and no morning sickness. To give context my labour lasted three days and wasn't all that easy!

IndecisivePramBuyer81 Wed 18-Sep-13 10:24:54

I wasn't scared before I got pregnant and I hated pregnancy so much when I was pregnant that I couldn't wait! it was the easiest bit of the whole pregnancy/giving birth/newborn process for me and despite DS being back to back I'd happily do it again!

NomDeClavier Wed 18-Sep-13 10:48:25

I was scared with DS but more about the lack of control/the medicalisation.

This time I'm not scared at all. I'm really looking forward to it and I have every confidence that the medical team will respect my wishes because I know that they can keep their hands to themselves when they need to! Also I've done it once and although I know that no two labours are the same there are definitely lessons identified/lessons learnt for me, and for DH too.

JoJoManon Wed 18-Sep-13 13:07:10

I'm not remotely scared because I am having an ELCS. If I were to give birth naturally I'd be sh1tting myself. All the horror stories I've heard make it sounds like hell on earth.

Frecklesandspecs Wed 18-Sep-13 18:43:10

I was scared before my first but very calm about my second. This time I haven't had time to think about it! :-\

Xmasbaby11 Wed 18-Sep-13 23:06:14

I wasn't scared with my first as I thought I was prepared. However, it was hell. Luckily I am having a c section this time (well, not exactly lucky - it's only because last time caused me so many problems) otherwise I would be dreading it.

BadlyWrittenPoem Tue 08-Oct-13 16:14:54

I'm not scared - I'm looking forward to it. I really enjoyed my last birth and would honestly have preferred to give birth every day for eight months to the pregnancy I had. One of my early thoughts when I found out I was pregnant this time was how glad I was that I will get to give birth again.

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