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BEST TIME FOR A SIBLING

(35 Posts)
starchildmum Tue 16-Jul-13 11:06:06

Hi

Obviously it is down to a lot of things.... being ready, work, health, whether it works or not.... etc. but I was wondering:
When is the BEST TIME to have a 2. child?

My daughter is now 10 month and I think it could be nice for her to have a sibling soon.

What is your opinion?

MortifiedAdams Thu 18-Jul-13 14:58:11

DD will be 2.3 when this baby arrives. Initially, pre dd, I wanted to wait til she was jn FT school.but the more I thought about it, the more I wanted them closer to share stuff together. For instance, I want to take dd to Disney/Florida when she is 10/11, and id rather take an 8/9yo too than a 5yo grin

PetraBaelish Thu 18-Jul-13 20:03:54

DS1 and DS2 are 27 months apart would have been 26 months if DS2 hadn't insisted on baking two extra weeks.

I was scared of having them closer than 2 years together (thought it would be a lot of work with DS1 still being so babyish and dependent on me), and I didn't want him to have to share his birth month so I wanted 25 months gap minimum. Then I had to get DH on board which took another month grin.

I think this gap works out well for us, but in hindsight I think slightly under 2 years gap would have been even better (22m +). I like how close they are emotionally and how well they play together.
So for the gap between DC2 and DC3 I would have liked under 2 years; sadly DH didn't agree at all with the concept of having a third. Now we're having DC3 anyway, albeit not planned, and the gap will be 2 1/2 years. Not as close as I'd have liked, but not too bad either.

ishchel Thu 18-Jul-13 20:15:59

After your dc is sleeping through reliably. At 4y 10 m dd2 is just about doing that. :-D

workingonitagain Thu 18-Jul-13 20:52:34

24 month between ds1 and ds2 and it will be 25 month gap between ds2 and dc3.it worked out fine and im sure dc3 will fit right in smile good luck

RichManPoorManBeggarmanThief Thu 18-Jul-13 21:01:20

There is no perfect gap. It's as much about the personalities involved and your circumstances as anything else. I have 22 mo between mine and that's perfect for me but my best friend has 5 yrs between her's and thinks thats great.

Oubliette0292 Thu 18-Jul-13 21:08:30

Mine are 19m apart. I love the fact that they are close in age, although it was hard when they were small (they are now 7 and 9). However, as one was a summer baby (July) and the other a winter baby (February) I struggled to re-use baby clothes.

Jojo3737 Thu 18-Jul-13 21:47:39

Mine are 9 years apart! DS1 was 9 in May and DS2 arrived in June.

DS1 had reflux so was not an easy baby and looking back I think I had a bit of PND plus had only been married a year when he arrived. Its much different with DS2 we are older, more patient and its easy because DS1 is quite independent. Personally I would have struggled with two little ones.

Queenie72 Thu 18-Jul-13 21:55:33

I have a 26 m

Queenie72 Thu 18-Jul-13 22:02:15

I have a 26 month gap , first year was hard as ds1 wasn't in nursery until he did 5 hours when ds1 was 7 months. I found it quite hard emotionally that I didn't get much time alone with ds2. Thank god ds1 slept in the afternoon for almost the first year ! Now at 3.7 and 16 months I am so so glad I didn't wait any longer they are little mates ( with the odd bit of heavy handedness and non sharing !!!!) and are into similar things and I can see them sharing friends and makes life easier for days out etc. each age gap had pros and cons for me it was important that my 2 got to spend lots of time together when they were little ! Do what feels right for you and your family.

diamondsneezer Thu 18-Jul-13 22:05:36

18m between DS and DD (best friends)

nearly 3 years between DDs 1 and 2 - good relationship but not fantastic. They would be fine though without their brothers for comparison...

2y 4m between different DD and younger DS (best friends)

Can't really remember what it was like for me!

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