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Three misscarriages ..any advice on how to have a healthy one

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wannabemommy Sat 13-Jul-13 11:02:10

Hi
It is the first time im writing about my experience over internet. And it is purely because I see that there are lot of people who had similar experience and feel im not alone and itt would feel better to discuss with you all. I had my first misscarriage three years ago at 17 th week. I have no children yet. I had started bleeding at 8th week and continued bleeding, was in and out of hospital several times. I had lost so much blood that it had become very dangerous for me to go without a blood transfusion, I was that weak. So the doctors gave me blood transfusion at 16th week and asked me to go back home and rest. In between these 8-16 weeks, the doctor was doing ultrasound almost every two days and I saw my baby growing properly and healthy. He would be jumping up and down smile. I got so connected to him.But when I went to the doctor in the 17th week he found no heart beat. I was very very devastated. The doctor did an mc and soon after that i got infection. So I had to be in the hospital for another five days. Cried for many months. And didnt dare to try again for next two years. Then I got pregnant again, but I was very scared. And it happened again lost the pregnancy at six weeks. Then after an year got pregnant again, tried to be as careful as I can, still lost it at eight weeks. I dont know what to do I am exhausted, have lost all my confidence. And on top of that people around me say all kind of mean things to me inspite of knowing my situation. For your info, I had taken folic acid and multivitamins for each pregnancy and the doctors could not find anything wrong with me. sad Any suggestion that will help is appreciated. Thanks.

Chocomama1 Sat 13-Jul-13 11:09:19

I had 3 miscarriages one after the other....i am now 9 months preg and ready to give birth. The only advice i can give is to not give up faith...give your body time to recover and communicate your feelings with your partner. I know how emotionally and physically traumatic it can be. Stick in there!

Chocomama1 Sat 13-Jul-13 11:15:37

With this pregnancy the only thing i did different was not have any sex at all. Not sure if this had something to do with it but it worked.... i had a small bleed at 8 weeks but they checked baby and all was fine.

wannabemommy Sat 13-Jul-13 11:16:36

That sounds motivating Chocomama1 smile congratulations!! I really hope one day I can say the same. Did you have to take any special medications?

cogitosum Sat 13-Jul-13 11:19:25

I'm really sorry for your experience it sounds awful.

Are you still having tests? Although they said there's nothing wrong I don't think they should just leave it.

For your subsequent pregnancies did you take baby aspirin or anything?

2kidsintow Sat 13-Jul-13 11:21:38

I had 3 miscarriages, one after another. Then the tests.
They said that there was no diagnosis and we should just keep trying.

I went on to have 2 healthy DDs, now 12 and 8. I did nothing different. It was just one of those things. smile

wannabemommy Sat 13-Jul-13 11:27:07

Ya now they have started with some blood tests. I lost my third pregnancy just last month. So they wanted to wait until my hormone levels become normal. Have another appointment next month. Lets see what they do.
Some how, inspite of these experiences, the urge in me to have a baby has only increased.
No I didn't take any aspirin before.

wannabemommy Sat 13-Jul-13 11:29:51

2kidsintow: So glad to hear your success stories. I wish I had posted this long back. Feel so much better already smile

Chocomama1 Sat 13-Jul-13 11:51:17

I had tests but they found nothing wrong. As awful as it sounds sometimes it is just bad luck....at the time you hear that you think what a stupid thing to say but im living proof. Keep your faith x

chilipeppers Sat 13-Jul-13 13:36:52

I had 3 miscarriages one after another all early thankfully. I then went on to have a normal heathy pregnancy my DD has just turned 2! Hang in there wannabe your time will come. Happy trying!

chilipeppers Sat 13-Jul-13 13:48:32

I had 3 miscarriages one after another all early thankfully. I then went on to have a normal heathy pregnancy my DD has just turned 2! Hang in there wannabe your time will come. Happy trying!

sazzle82 Sat 13-Jul-13 14:01:37

I had 3 miscarriages in over a 9 month period during 2008 & 2009, at 8, 5 and 9 weeks. They were all very different, in one I lost a lot of blood, another was a missed m/c. The tests DH and I had showed no reason and the consultant put it down to bad luck. His only advice was that next time I should take a high dose of folic acid and an aspirin a day.

I didn't try again for 3 years. I went to my Dr when we decided to try and got prescription folic acid of 5mg (instead of 400 micrograms that you can buy) and aspirin - normal 300 mg not baby Asprin.

I'm now 31 weeks, still taking Asprin every day (until 37/38 weeks according to the consultant) and everything is fine.

I'm so sorry you are going through this, but there is hope. Good luck xxx

wannabemommy Sat 13-Jul-13 18:11:19

Hi chilipeppers,
Thanks for your wishes smile

ImNotCute Sat 13-Jul-13 18:21:16

I'm sorry, that must all have been so distressing.

Just to let you know of another success story- my cousin had 3 miscarriages in a row, followed by 2 completely healthy pregnancies. She is now mum to a beautiful girl and boy. I hope you'll have a successful pregnancy soon too.

wannabemommy Sat 13-Jul-13 18:21:39

Hi sazzle82, sorry for your losses.
But Im very glad to know that you are expecting a baby soon, congratulations.
For my last pregnancy, i did think of taking Aspirin but was terrified to take it without any assistance. I dont even know if we get 5mg folic acid where I live. I will wait and see what the doctors conclude after all the tests they plan to do.

Chocomama1 Sat 13-Jul-13 18:24:53

I know its hard but try not to obsess over it also... your body needs to be as stress free as possible. Give yourself time and pls keep us updated...fingers crossed for you x

wannabemommy Sat 13-Jul-13 18:25:22

I thank you all for your responses. All these years me and my husband felt alone in this, all my close friends had normal pregnancies so I knew they wouldnt understand. Thanks again.

wannabemommy Sat 13-Jul-13 18:28:34

Hi Chocomama1, Im trying my best not to get stressed over it. After reading about your successful pregnancies, Im very relieved. There is hope smile

So sorry to hear of your losses. That's heartbreaking. Def press for thorough tests to see if there is a hormone imbalance or a rejection issue.

If the hormone tests show low progesterone (which can be a factor in the womb lining not sustaining the implanted embryo) you could try 500mg vit c per day as its though to help encourage progesterone in some way. I'd be wary of progesterone creams tho.

I found reflexology helped balance my hormones and acupuncture helped get pregnant and I had it weekly till 13 weeks and now (finally) have our beautiful daughter.

Also fertilityfriends.co.uk and infertilitynetwork.co.uk have great info and forums.

Hang in there and good luck!

ceara Sat 13-Jul-13 21:39:21

So sorry to hear of you losses OP.

My mum had three successive miscarriages too. No reason was ever found or treatment suggested.

I was her fourth pregnancy.

I hope you will also have your happy ending.

AngryPrincess Mon 15-Jul-13 01:15:12

Hi,

I had one DS, then two MCs. This time I took low dose aspirin for the first trimester, and am now at 35 weeks. On the one hand it could be coincidence, but I couldn't find any drawbacks with taking the low dose aspirin. (Think it was 75mg).

recall Mon 15-Jul-13 01:24:27

I lost my first at 22 weeks, then had two more mc which were earlier at 7 and 9 weeks. i then had my daughter, a further mc at 5 weeks, and then my son and another daughter. All three are now thriving smile

Just keep trying..I wish you the very best of luck.

Oh yes, forgot to say, I was advised to take Asprin 75mg a day which I did as soon as I got the positive tests.

wannabemommy Mon 15-Jul-13 13:28:26

It makes me sad to think that probably an aspirin a day could have made the difference.
Anyways, I will wait to see what the doctors come up with. Hope everything is alright and like most of you I just need to take Aspirin smile.
Thanks again to all of you and congratulations, it feels good to know that there is light at the end of the tunnel and you guys are the best examples !!

MistressofPemberley Mon 15-Jul-13 22:26:47

I second taking regular low dose aspirin. I have also had regular acupuncture which balanced out my hormones. I'm 36 weeks pregnant after 3 first trimester miscarriages in a row. I also stopped drinking alcohol and improved my diet.

wannabemommy Fri 19-Jul-13 08:27:06

Hi MistressofPemberley congratulations to you too...did you have to take any bed rest? My mom tells me that next time I should take atleast first three months complete bed rest.

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