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Sex during pregnancy

(34 Posts)
DevonianMummy Thu 11-Jul-13 21:22:03

I've been scouring the internet to put my mind at rest about this...but all the answers just focus on whether or not it's possible for a man's penis to reach the baby and hurt it....now I know THAT obviously can't happen, what I'm worried about is whether my partner's weight pressing against me (he's a pretty hefty guy) could squash my baby and hurt it. I'm currently 35 weeks pregnant. We're trying to choose sensible positions, of course, but there are still some bumpy-grindy moments which always make me so paranoid afterwards. I'm sure I'm just worrying too much (first time mum) but can anyone out there reassure me?

Franykins Tue 01-Oct-13 15:58:41

I'm with JoJoManon I'm afraid sad I am so up for it (when I have the energy) but at 31+3 with twins am massive and since DP felt them move he has gone right off it sad that must have been about 8/9 weeks ago. I AM GAGGING!!!!!! Ended up buying a lil something in Ann Summers to keep myself going haha. I really miss the intimacy though and keep thinking oh I'll pounce on him just once more before they arrive but by the time the boys are in bed or things have been done after work I'm just knackered sad will have to be a morning I think, maybe he will still be sleepy enough to not think about it haha.

EileenDovers Tue 01-Oct-13 13:16:31

grin

EileenDovers Tue 01-Oct-13 13:16:12

I'd just like to interject and remind you ladies that yes, you can say cock on mumsnet.

Manzanita Mon 23-Sep-13 08:08:53

Hi I'm 17 weeks and doc said at scan last week that DH & i need to be 'extremely careful' with sexual relations as the placenta is in wrong position (apparently too far down). Annoyingly I'm now finally over the morning sickness and now libido is right up, but I'm a little paranoid about what 'careful' means and how gentle we need to be. Sounds really silly but any recommendations / has anyone had a similar experience? Don't want to abstain, but equally don't want to put baby at risk...

sprite25 Thu 19-Sep-13 17:09:57

I wish I could be as adventurous as you ladies! Im at nearly 29 weeks and would love to feel close to DH and have some fun at least a few more times before baby comes but cant help feeling like i would feel disgusting and wrong if we were in the middle of things and baby started wriggling sad

JoJoManon Wed 18-Sep-13 15:16:12

You're all so lucky ladies, I've had no action at all since finding out I was pregnant, my OH is convinced the baby will know what's going on.

FitzgeraldProtagonist Thu 15-Aug-13 10:37:08

Can't be bothered with the additional hardware. But despite sickness, preganancy thrush, we are still annoying the neighbours three times a day. Must be the extra blood flow (10 weeks). All positions up for grabs, sometimes pressure on top makes me feel uncomfortable. Still can lie on front and am enjoying it whilst I can!

toni1bump Sat 20-Jul-13 19:24:04

Haha! Thats why i do it myself cause i know that its definately in right place then! Plus it puts him off if.he concentrates on too much at once! Hes a special individual! 8) :p

And DP likes the c ring. I prefer the bullet but weve compromised and use both! He likes the ring turned round so that it goes down his jingle bells! Lmao! The vibrator on.t c ring is very long an thick so goes quite far down. And then id just use my bullet whilst its on. Its like a big vibrating mess in our bedroom haha! Just experiment with then see what u like :p x

Newmum0113 Sat 20-Jul-13 18:14:17

Cantdecide I normally like my DH to control it and he is good. He's only ever stopped too soon once and he knew about it for days smile

toni I'll keep an eye out for that one. What does your DP think of if? Mine's never been keen on toys for him but we shall see!

toni1bump Sat 20-Jul-13 15:34:35

Well i just put it inbetween me and him (obviously on my erm.. 'button' lmao) and it usually stays in place.smile. Much easier with girl ontop. Or doggy. Obviously you have to.control it then smile x

cantdecideonanewname Sat 20-Jul-13 15:28:21

I was looking at cock rings when I went to look at the bullets, found a vibrating one on honeylove that also goes round the back of the balls for £10.

newmum and toni do you control the bullet or does your partner?

toni1bump Sat 20-Jul-13 11:15:50

Theres a big blue rubberc* ring..its on a wire an takes 2.AA batteries. I cant remember the name but u cant miss it lol. Was £21 when i bought it. Thats decent.too! Seems to take ao much longer whilst pregnant but thank.goodness for these lil guys lol!!

Newmum0113 Sat 20-Jul-13 09:12:29

Ditto toni definitely best fiver he ever spent on me lol!

My sis was telling me she got a vibrating c* ring (are we allowed to say that in here?!?? blush ) and it makes her DP last longer and is pretty good apparently.

I'm trying to get one this weekend as I'm getting bigger and fear I will lose all inclination to DTD soon. Will report back! wink

toni1bump Fri 19-Jul-13 11:06:20

Reccommend* oops

toni1bump Fri 19-Jul-13 11:06:01

Cantdecide, newmum . . . I swear by mine! highly reccoment. £5 Ann summers. smile x

cantdecideonanewname Fri 19-Jul-13 09:55:46

Newmum No I haven't, will have a look at it, thanks.

Newmum0113 Fri 19-Jul-13 00:56:06

cantdecide have you ever tried a bullet - you can get them from Ann Summers - my DH bought me one for Xmas (wtf!) and it can be fun to use during sex.

I felt really embarrassed at first but when you're frustrated you'll try almost anything!

cantdecideonanewname Thu 18-Jul-13 22:16:22

I'm getting quite sexually frustrated now, 35 weeks and I can't reach orgasm anymore because the bump gets in the way of the position I need. DH has said it just feels wrong to have sex with me from behind while I'm pregnant wtf. We do the spooning position but it doesn't really do much for me.

With my last pregnancy I found it much easier to orgasm than usual, haven't been so lucky this time.

The baby will be fine just do whats comfortable for you.

toni1bump Thu 18-Jul-13 16:01:41

Im 20 weeks and still doing most positions. Only one we cant do is me lay flat on my front.

Unless YOU feel really squashed with your DH on top then your baby will be fine smile he/she is protected by lots of flesh and organs so dont worry!

obviously just do what feels most comfortable. I find me on top the easiest smile and doggy (if im feeling generous) haha. Just case we're big preggy heffas doesnt mean we cant enjoy sex like we used to :D x

Newmum0113 Sun 14-Jul-13 10:13:05

I've actually lost weight since bring PG so feel happier about my body than I did pre-PG. it's not me it's him lol smile

It seems he's had the opposite effect - he normally can go for about an hour if we feel like it but last night was literally 5 mins of foreplay, and not even 2 mins of actual deed sad

On the plus side I guess he must find me incredibly sexy atm ?!?

Hahaha!! grin

Bunnylion Sun 14-Jul-13 09:59:14

newmum it takes me a lot longer to orgasm since I've been pregnant. I don't know why, I think I might be self conscious about how I look, be aware of the baby jiggling about in between us and it all generally feels a bit different. More for-play must be the answer grin

Bunnylion Sun 14-Jul-13 09:55:53

yellowsnow lol grin

Im 35 weeks too.

Going on top works, if you have the energy.

Or siting/laying back on a table with him standing.

Or similar on the bed with him kneeling on the floor.

Or from behind, but I think that one can feel a bit lonely sometimes.

We've abandoned missionary as I'm just thinking about his weight on the bump all the time.

Newmum0113 Sun 14-Jul-13 08:06:06

I've been one of the lucky ones and kept my libido (after ms went away at 13.5 weeks)

Unfortunately DH seems to be over excited and although he is very much enjoying it he can't seem to wait for me to finish. blush

It feels like I'm never gonna get mine angry

Anyone else?

NoisyBrain Sat 13-Jul-13 21:21:49

YY to spooning. Definitely my position of choice now I'm 32 weeks. It helps if OH is er, good with his hands wink

DevonianMummy Sat 13-Jul-13 20:56:33

Thanks so much for the advice ladies. Creativity indeed needed at this 35 week big-belly stage! And for all of you in early pregnancy feeling horrendous - at the time it feels hard to imagine feeling well again, but you will: blooming is just a few weeks round the corner!smile

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