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I am 10wks pregnant. Scare me into stopping smoking please.

(76 Posts)
JumpingJacks Mon 08-Jul-13 14:46:01

I stopped when I found out I was pg with dd1 and gave up for 5yrs.

Stupidly started again last year and have found out I am pregnant with dc3. I have dropped to one or two fags a day but need to stop. Now.

Tell me the worst. Tell me what I am doing to this poor baby. Make me stop.

xmarksaspot Mon 08-Jul-13 14:50:13

Stopping smoking is the best thing you can do for your babies health

Call your practice nurse and get a stop smoking appt or the midwife team they all want you to stop and will help you

find a stop smoking buddy

Good luck take it one fag at a time

FobblyWoof Mon 08-Jul-13 14:57:02

What xmarks said. I found the stop smoke service really helpful

JuliaScurr Mon 08-Jul-13 15:01:33

will they give nrt to preg women?
if not, then cut down as much as poss. roll ups with 3 filters were a limitation method for me, til I stopped

JumpingJacks Mon 08-Jul-13 15:05:42

I went to the stop smoking just before I found out I was pregnant. I failed on the course so have to wait 6 months before I can get anymore help.

JumpingJacks Mon 08-Jul-13 15:06:22

The midwife didn't seem that interested tbh. She wrote it all down but didn't say anything about it.

MrsWildermac Mon 08-Jul-13 15:08:13

Putting aside what it does to your baby...have you looked into what it does to you?! Having worked in a respiratory dept and seen so many, many patients crippled by emphysema, not to mention lung cancer, I just don't understand why people do it - do you want to end up on oxygen and in a wheelchair, gasping for eachbreath?! Also...passive smoking, even if you think it's not having an impact on your kids, will be. My auntie had a post mortem when she passed away and cause of death was lung disease, she had never smoked in her life but her husband had, outside, and never in the house, and her lungs were as damaged as if she had been smoking 40 a day.

Sorry this all sounds brutal...but you said to scare you :-D! Google images of smokers lungs and then have a look at the charts that show you how quickly your health improves and I dare you not to be inspired!

CruCru Mon 08-Jul-13 15:39:52

It's such an ugly, common habit. People will think you are ghastly if you are out smoking while abviously pregnant.

Doogle2 Mon 08-Jul-13 15:48:34

Go to the specialist baby unit and see a baby that has a low birth weight and additional complications. If something went wrong that could be attributed to smoking you would never forgive yourself.
You clearly care about it as you have up before. Find that strength again.

Ps not normally this harsh but you did ask and if you were a friend of mine I would want what was best for you and your baby x

ilovemulberry Mon 08-Jul-13 15:53:08

I smoked before pregnancy but stopped straight away, I could never bring myself to have a cig no matter how much I want one.. the guilt of the poor baby inside wouldn't let me. My friends mum is a midwife and told me she can tell a smoker from the placenta, it should be a dark red colour, but a smokers will be black, disgusting. Just think that it what your baby gets all its nutrition from and you are polluting it for the sakes of a cig.

Plus i second what CruCru said, if I saw a pregnant women smoking I would instantly judge her parenting skills. My younger sister smoked throughout her pregnancy, and wanted to attend my graduation, The rule was that if she wanted to smoke there was no way she was doing it 1 - in front of my friends and 2. Anywhere near me.

Its only for 9 months, it's not that hard, once its out of your for three days i have heard you are no longer addicted its just the habit you miss!!

fanjobiscuits Mon 08-Jul-13 15:56:57

The majority of cot deaths are due to smoking. Is the riskmof killing your baby really worse than not smoking for some months? Ex smoker myself - find another habit to replace it with is my best tip.

soundevenfruity Mon 08-Jul-13 15:57:38

I think practically all primary care organisations used to offer free smoking cessation counseling which was specifically aimed at pregnant women. They have all the scary babies floating in brown murky stuff so are well qualified to scare you into stopping but also can address the underlying addiction. I would go through your GP as the counselors are probably attached to hospitals now as PCTs no longer exist.

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Read the allen carr book to stop smoking if talks about the psycological reasons of smoking its really good.

HighJinx Mon 08-Jul-13 16:06:16

Would you even consider giving your DC a cigarette?

AWhistlingWoman Mon 08-Jul-13 16:08:55

I second Doogle's suggestion.

Mama1980 Mon 08-Jul-13 16:17:11

My son was born at 24 weeks following a massive placental abruption, I don't smoke but the guilt that my body had failed was crippling. Smoking increases the risk of placental abruption, low birth weight complications, lung and heart issues due to damaged placental function......just imagine how you would feel if heaven forbid something happened and you hadn't done all you could to protect your baby. I agree with the earlier poster go to nicu, I promise if you see tiny babies like my son fighting for their lives you just wouldn't risk it.

You did ask for harsh, I wouldn't normally be so blunt!

GrassShopper Mon 08-Jul-13 16:40:02

The next cigarette you smoke could be the one that tips some tiny chemical balance in your body and pregnancy, and puts it on an irreversible path to an abruption (or some other problem).

It might not need all the cigarettes you might smoke over the next few months to do that. It might only need one more - the next one - to push your body in that direction.

Even if you stop straight after the next one it could be too late. (After all if even nonsmokers can sometimes get these problems and smokers just get them more, in some people it might take hardly any smoke to do it.)

So if you catch yourself thinking "I know, I know, I ought to stop but since I'm definitely about to stop just one more first won't hurt" - point out to yourself that it could be the very next one that does the damage to you or the baby that you can never undo, so even if you stop straight afterwards it could be too late.

Think of the lovely fresh air you could be breathing in instead of that smoke for the next ten minutes. Make yourself a really nice drink, something you really like. Sit with it somewhere peaceful and enjoy breathing in fresh air. Think of that fresh air going into your body, like medicine, all clean and full of oxygen, making lovely strong red blood cells that are going to your baby to help them grow.

Queazy Mon 08-Jul-13 17:12:15

Fantastic advice already, but if you were to post this on the main pregnancy area you'd get even more responses. I think the motivation really needs to come from you. If only you could feel the kicks and see a scan from day 1 to keep you going, as it doesn't feel like a real little person early on. You're going to save loads of money, alongside all the obvious health benefits for you and your baby. I think the very fact you're seeking supports shows you're geared up for this! Loads of luck - let us know how you're doing xx

JumpingJacks Mon 08-Jul-13 17:32:08

Thank you all. I knew if I posted MN would kick me the arse.

I need all the harsh advice. The abruption thing is just terrifying, I didn't know about that.

LunaticFringe- Sorry for you loss and thank you for sharing that to help me.

Mama - I hope your son is ok now.

I will think of this thread and everything you've posted next time I'm desperate for a cigarette.

There really is no excuse.

So if you catch yourself thinking "I know, I know, I ought to stop but since I'm definitely about to stop just one more first won't hurt" - point out to yourself that it could be the very next one that does the damage to you or the baby that you can never undo, so even if you stop straight afterwards it could be too late.

This is what I do. I think this will be my last one. Or on Friday I will definitely stop.

Its not good enough.

Mama1980 Mon 08-Jul-13 17:38:03

Jumping, yes my son is doing great thanks, he is now over 6 months and so far no long term complications grin

My grandad gave up smoking 30 odd years ago, my mum wouldn't let him near me as a baby unless he did! But what helped him was eating an almond when he felt he needed a cigarette kind of a replacement strategy.
Best of luck to you.

TeamSouthfields Mon 08-Jul-13 17:49:25

Ur baby could die because u smoke

sydlexic Mon 08-Jul-13 17:56:39

If your baby is born prematurely then it could be the difference between life and death.

Indith Mon 08-Jul-13 18:07:57

when you smoke the baby gets less oxygen. when the baby gets less oxygen his growth is restricted. when growth is restricted his body prioritises the most important bits so the head and upper body with the important organs get more blood and the lower body gets less. this means the head is proportionally bigger so a growth restricted baby has a massive head and arms and titchy scrawny legs. you can spot a growth restricted baby a mile off.

have you quit yet?

Indith Mon 08-Jul-13 18:11:08

well done on wanting to quit by the way, that's the most important step smile

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