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SO worried about scan :(

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Londongirl84 Tue 02-Jul-13 16:46:11

I'm having a scan next Monday to check if my pregnancy is viable and I will be just over 7 weeks. I have had IVF. I don't think I've ever felt so worried in my life about anything and can't stop feeling so depressed sad This waiting is like living in a nightmare. I haven't had many symptoms so am even more worried. Any success stories/ words of advice?? X

Oh love, have a hand to hold!

I so hope everything will be okay for you - no experience of IVF pg here, but if it helps, I just had my 12 week scan and I was utterly shitting it before I went in - it was fine (check my profile pics grin). I'm sure that will be you on Monday. Take care of yourself in the meantime and fingers crossed for you.

Sanch1 Tue 02-Jul-13 17:02:51

I had no symptoms at all until gone 7 weeks so I wouldnt read much in to that.

Stay positive, youve had no reason to believe all is not ok I take it? I'm sure that all will be fine,

Londongirl84 Tue 02-Jul-13 17:11:13

Thank you Humpty and congratulations- that's lovely news.
Thank you Sanch. I'm just so worried after reading stories where a heart beat couldn't be found. Lots of our embryos died before transfer too so I'm worried these to have or will sad I can't bear the thought of bad news. X

Londongirl84 Tue 02-Jul-13 17:46:28

Anyone else? X

blondebaby111 Tue 02-Jul-13 18:41:57

Good luck to you, I think its natural to worry. I have my 12 week scan tomorrow and like you I haven't had a huge amount of symptoms (not compared to some people) so pooping myself too. Hope it all goes well.

Frizz1986 Tue 02-Jul-13 18:51:24

I haven't had ivf myself, but my cousin has had numerous attempts. The first few died before transfer so they had to pay privately. Eventually they got one implanted and she was very nervous about her first scan as she had been through so much.
She is due to give birth in a month!

On a symptoms note, I didn't really have much except some cramping until 7 weeks and then right before honeymoon the sickness kicked in.
I think everyone is terrified of their scan however they got pregnant as it is always so important. I had a private one at 9 weeks but was still petrified for my 12 week one yesterday. Just remember that each pg is different and you might be one of the lucky ones who isn't sick at all.
I hope that you are able to relax and your scan brings you good news.

Londongirl84 Tue 02-Jul-13 20:27:39

Good luck tomorrow blondebaby.
Frizz that's a lovely story about your cousin- I hope I have her happy ending too. And congratulations to you for your lovely news.
Wish poas was all we had to do to guarantee a baby 8 months later! X

Londongirl84 Thu 04-Jul-13 06:56:31

Any other successes/words of wisdom?? X

Sluggers Thu 04-Jul-13 07:21:18

Hi, I am now 26 weeks & pregnant through IVF and the same as you - I worried before each scan. I think with IVF there are so many points along the way where it could possibly go wrong you learn to take it step by step and don't think about the end - just think about getting past the next point. Making the time immediately prior to each point a bit of a worry zone.

I completely understand you're worried about the scan, like I said I was too. But it definitely gets easier as you go along through the pregnancy. X

Chickpea1983 Thu 04-Jul-13 07:30:13

I think everyone (nearly) freaks out about the first scan, so it is totally normal. However, I can understand your increased anxiety.

I was so worried there would be nothing on the screen and that it was all in my head!

I personally found it very difficult to visualise myself being pregnant, so until it was on the screen, I was doubting a lot.

SandraClegane Thu 04-Jul-13 14:22:20

Good luck, and congrats on the pregnancy!
I've never had IVF but I'm a worrier by nature so I know how you feel.
Here's one thing that helped me: I bought a Doppler. I found a place on eBay that sold brand new ones for cheap (think I only paid a tenner, including the gel) and from around 9 weeks I managed to pick up the HB (with all my pregnancies). I found this very reassuring - I'm 13w now and even after I've had my 12w scan, I still like to listen in to baby until I can feel regular baby movements.
Now I know some people will find this the opposite of reassuring as there's always a chance you won't be able to find the HB and then worry even more; but for me it works well so I thought I'd share.

Futterby Thu 04-Jul-13 14:43:08

I had no symptoms until 8 weeks gone. Surprise pregnancy, and even when I was taking the test I thought to myself "this is stupid, of course I'm not pregnant." had a scan three days after my bft (so I was 6+3) and saw my wee peanut's heartbeat and everything. I'm now 18+5 and heart peanut's heartbeat for the first time last night smile

More than likely, you'll be fine. Sending you sticky thoughts smile flowers

Futterby Thu 04-Jul-13 14:43:30

*bfp

Futterby Thu 04-Jul-13 14:44:31

*heard, sorry! Must proofread!

Londongirl84 Thu 04-Jul-13 18:42:59

Thank you for all your sweet replies. I hope to much that I have the lovely news you have all received. Have everything crossed x

Londongirl84 Thu 04-Jul-13 18:43:36

P.S big congratulations to you all x

StillPukin Thu 04-Jul-13 21:06:39

I have nothing practical to add to the above great words of support other than to say I am sending a hand to hold too - you're surrounded by virtual hands and Guardian Angels smile xxxx

Londongirl84 Fri 05-Jul-13 15:49:00

Thank you stillpukin. That's really really sweet of you x

smunkyvic Sat 06-Jul-13 21:10:13

I know how you feel. I had ivf earlier this year following a miscarriage the year before and I can't begin to tell you how nervous I felt before my 7 week scan, particularly as I had no symptoms at all- well, perhaps some breast tenderness and a sore tummy and back as if I was getting my period, but that only convinced me that I was going to miscarry again. In the end the scan was completely fine and I just burst into happy and relieved tears when they told me; they even offered to do another scan at 9 weeks to reassure me. I am now 19 weeks and have had virtually no symptoms at all. Many people say I should feel blessed and yet I still wish I had some kind if symptoms just to reassure me- even now I can't quite believe it and look to scans and midwife appointments for reassurance at every turn. I guess that's training for becoming a mum. At the end of the day no one can completely reassure you about any of this, particularly when you want this so badly. But just try to stay positive and strong in the knowledge that the stats are now on your side. Good luck mate, my fingers are all crossed for you.

Londongirl84 Sun 07-Jul-13 10:42:10

Thank you sooo much smunkyvic. I've never felt so nervous as I do right now and I'm praying I get the lovely result you did. Thank you for your crossed fingers. I hope everything keeps going well for you x

ceara Sun 07-Jul-13 12:25:21

My 7 week IVF scan was a month ago. I felt just the same, the hideous fear beforehand, the fretting about my lack of symptoms, and then the floods of tears when the nurse who had seen us through treatment said, "I can see baby, and there's a heartbeat". I really hope it will be happy tears for you tomorrow, too.

I think it is just so hard to believe in good news when you have been through so much and are so conditioned to expect disappointment. All we can do is try to distract ourselves during these excruciating waits, and keep as positive as we can. I will confess to having had two more scans since the first, and needing lots of extra reassurance - be kind to yourself and do what you need to do to stay sane. I will be keeping everything crossed for you for tomorrow.

Oh, and I'm another one who had zero pregnancy symptoms at 7 weeks - or at all really - despite high betas on test day, and a little one which has so far been growing as it should. Every pregnancy is different.

Londongirl84 Sun 07-Jul-13 14:45:07

Hi Ceara. Thank you soooo much for posting such a positive story. Praying I have the same wonderful wonderful outcome tomorrow as you had. Congratulations. The word 'nervous' doesn't even cut it- you're right, it's just a hideous hideous fear. Nothing seems capable of distracting me, not even the Murray final that I'm watching as I type!! If I have positive news tomorrow, I bet that just like you I will be asking for as many scans as possible to keep me going. X

curlywurlyllass Sun 07-Jul-13 20:24:48

Good luck for tomorrow smile

workingonitagain Sun 07-Jul-13 21:25:11

good luck have my fingers and toes crossed for you and your little one smile xx

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