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The next person that asks how i'll cope......

(27 Posts)
Kayls93 Fri 28-Jun-13 14:01:28

Grrangry
Is this a normal comment to make to someone who is heavily pregnant?! "How do you think you will cope once the baby is here?" "Do you think you'll manage?" "At least your mum is around to help you cope with the baby...." WHAT?
I think I'll cope just fine thank you very much! Yes, I expect it to be hard, yes, I expect it'll probably take me a while to get into a routine etc, doesn't EVERY new mum? I have plenty of experience with babies and young children to know that it's not going to be easy but I will certainly "cope" just perfectly, thank you very much.

Sorry. Needed to rant!!

therumoursaretrue Wed 03-Jul-13 17:55:30

I had this too from a few people...because shock horror I was 22 and unmarried when I had DS.

I mean really!? I do not know what goes through people's heads.

I used to just pull people on it..."oh would you have asked someone who is 30 and married that? No?! Well then why the hell are you asking me? I'm just as capable as any other ADULT woman."

workingonitagain Wed 03-Jul-13 20:09:34

i agree it puts such a negative tone on the whole thing. im expecting dc3 and after the comments of "but you are happy right?" or " was this planned?" with the first one it's "fantastic" second one it's " brilliant" with the third one it's "oh my god are you crazy?" why is it such an extreme. then when i say i think it's another boy i get the " never mind" " are you gutted?" and im just getting really fed up with keep having to explain that i really don't mind what it is and if it's another boy it's great. such a different reactions people have to 3+ children... very disappointing!

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