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Annoyed by peoples comments... Anyone else ever get annoyed?

(65 Posts)
NxYxC Wed 26-Jun-13 13:50:38

Long story short, when I had DD EVERYONE was 'It's a boy, it's a boy, it's a boy'. Clearly they were all wrong.

I am now pg with dc(?)2. Yet again 'its a boy, it's a boy, it's a boy'.

I swear, people can be so annoying! Anyone else it's 'oh it's a girl' but with me all I get is 'its a boy'.

Now don't get me wrong I will be happy whatever the baby is, but I just can't help feeling annoyed when people are adamant they 'know' what it will be. Especially when all people EVER say to me is 'its a boy'. The baby will be whatever it is! grr! lol

As much as I would love a son a part of me wants it to be a girl just to shut everyone up. I know it sounds petty, but it's so frustrating! lol.

rant over lol.

Gerty1002 Fri 28-Jun-13 16:36:28

Well I had to come and share today's inappropriate question of the day... "are your boobs leaking yet?" ...from a middle aged bloke. Ffs.

ReikiMummy Fri 28-Jun-13 17:22:32

Sat in MaccyD's this lunchtime with my DP, (not a frequent event, but the hungries attacked as I was outside....) to sit eating ones chicken legend with the conversation going on behind us - across the width of the restaurant...

Couple 1 with Grandma and what looked to be something like a couple of days old baby (tinnnnyyy and wrinkly... i'd hope it wasn't hours old but it was very wrinkly and tiny and sooo cute...!)

Lady 2 with toddler and grandma....

Bearing in mind - across the restaurant..... Lady 2 shouts asks lady of couple 1.... "WAS IT A NATURAL BIRTH?"

I almost choked on my Legend!!! What the flip business is it of anyone elses??!!

luxemburgerli Sat 29-Jun-13 10:28:24

Some of these are corkers... I've had:

"Are you emotionally prepared to get really fat" from a colleague, and

"When you move house, what will you do with your child?"?? erm, take them with me? From FIL.

BeQuicksieorBeDead Sat 29-Jun-13 18:18:10

People are astounding.

I hope you are all feeling well and enjoying this special time! Ha ha!

Couple of comments I have had this week:
Pray that baby isn't a girl - followed by stories about a teenage daughter and how she has to have her face slapped.now and again! Nice!
Step mother told me the baby was going to be massive - right before my lovely meal arrived at the table. I polished off the lot and had pudding just to show her I didnt care, then cried most of the way home!
Apparently breast feeding is a stupid idea and I will soon give up on that. This was the general consensus of my workplace, despite me not having asked for opinions! One colleague commented that my plan to breast feed until six months was laughable and that I would be lucky to manage for a day! I thought this attitude died out in the seventies?!

Champagnebubble Sat 29-Jun-13 18:39:51

I got asked at work by colleagues if it was planned. I didn't want to be rude but I was totally taken aback and didn't know what to say. On one hand it was planned, I'm married (for 3 years!) so sure people were expecting it I am sure, but I feel weird saying that to work as it's quite a cut throat environment and it is still before 12 weeks so only a few people know out of necessity and it feels strange telling people that, just in case. So what did I do? I muttered not really, well kinda. Agggghhh! I can't believe people are so rude and ask that question. It really annoys me the kind of questions people feel are acceptable to ask pregnant women. I wouldn't dream of asking some of the things people have mentioned!

plieadianpony Sat 29-Jun-13 22:31:38

I am still reeling from a very senior colleague (who i previously had massive respect for) asking me whether I was worried that my baby would be born with a learning disability and whether i think my service users (families with children with learning disabilities) 'were worried for me' because my child might ave a learning disability too!

WTF???

BeQuicksieorBeDead Sat 29-Jun-13 23:13:54

pony I am a teacher and have had a couple of comments about my unborn child probably being autistic. I find it completely mindblowing ... And disrespectful to all concerned! I mean, what do you say in response to that?! My friend who said it could see I was gobsmacked and said ' oh because you are good with autistic kids'. Hmm thats alright then, if it if going to enhance my cv!

Gerty1002 Sun 30-Jun-13 17:43:53

Got another great one today from the man who asked about my boobs leaking... "You know before when you used to bend down to put glasses away I used to have a peek and think you were quite sexy. Now you're pregnant, it's just not sexy."

Lost for words.

TakingTheStairs Sun 30-Jun-13 17:53:36

Gerty he sounds like a total creep. Yuk!

luxemburgerli Sun 30-Jun-13 18:20:44

Erm... good (???!!) I suppose, Gerty...

Futterby Sun 30-Jun-13 19:14:01

I've just had from DP's mother - "so you're just eating anything and everything now?" after she saw me eating some strawberries. It was closely followed by "you know it took me eleven years to get the baby weight off, and I wasn't even eating for two!" this was all said in a really patronizing way, like she was trying to make me feel bad for eating. Oh yeah, she never did actually lose the "baby weight".

ineedduckie Sun 30-Jun-13 20:11:45

I work in a veterinary hospital and we had a 6-week old kitten come into the office for cuddles. I was told very sternly by one of my colleagues "you can't go near her ineedduckie". I have a cat at home and you know it you stupid cow (the cow in question is a spinster who hates the idea of having kids and knows nothing about pregnancy btw...). What is it with ppl thinking cats are your/your baby's worst enemy?!

Gerty1002 Sun 30-Jun-13 21:02:24

Yes, I won't be crying myself to sleep that he won't be leering at me anymore. I'm well aware it's not sexy when I take 60 seconds and a fair bit of groaning to reach standing position again haha. Creepo.

Andanotherthing123 Sun 30-Jun-13 21:30:14

Here's my pet hate 'bet you're hoping for a girl now, after 2 boys'. It really makes me want to shout out 'no, I'm hoping for a healthy baby'. Particularly rankles as both my DS have additional needs, which puts something as trivial as gender into perspective.

Also, I find it so offensive that friends think having another baby makes me a mad woman. I really, really love my kids, they make my life wonderful, why wouldn't I want to add to that feeling with another baby?

I'm 20wks with my 1st. My DP mother says to me yesterday 'I think its a girl' my DP asks 'Why?' she replies 'bcus shes put all the weight on her arse' i say 'Thanks DPM!' then she goes 'but I could change my mind bcus i don't know how big your arse was to begin with'
I'm finding it hard enough at the moment bcus i'm at that stage were I look fat rather than pregnant & didn't need to hear a comment like that.

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