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Annoyed by peoples comments... Anyone else ever get annoyed?

(65 Posts)
NxYxC Wed 26-Jun-13 13:50:38

Long story short, when I had DD EVERYONE was 'It's a boy, it's a boy, it's a boy'. Clearly they were all wrong.

I am now pg with dc(?)2. Yet again 'its a boy, it's a boy, it's a boy'.

I swear, people can be so annoying! Anyone else it's 'oh it's a girl' but with me all I get is 'its a boy'.

Now don't get me wrong I will be happy whatever the baby is, but I just can't help feeling annoyed when people are adamant they 'know' what it will be. Especially when all people EVER say to me is 'its a boy'. The baby will be whatever it is! grr! lol

As much as I would love a son a part of me wants it to be a girl just to shut everyone up. I know it sounds petty, but it's so frustrating! lol.

rant over lol.

Kayls93 Wed 26-Jun-13 14:35:45

Annoying isn't it? Being pregnant seems to make you public property all of a sudden! My mum keeps commenting on the shape of my bump..."it's pointy today" " it's smaller today than last week" grrr shut up!!

Futterby Wed 26-Jun-13 15:03:23

"Do you know who the father is?" Yes. He's my fiance of four years, sitting in the waiting room you stupid cow.

"Was it planned?!" x200

"That sucks!" Don't think so.

"Are you getting rid of it then?" Of course, because I would be happily announcing my news if I was having a termination.

"So you're not going to uni then?" Yes, I am.

I'm 18 and the baby was unplanned. I'm going to uni in September and my age and my plans seem to give everyone the opinion that it's their right to comment on my situation.

HazleNutt Wed 26-Jun-13 15:07:05

How can anybody think it's appropriate to ask if you know who the father is? shock

So basically they are suggesting that you habitually sleep with several random strange men per day?

Gerty1002 Wed 26-Jun-13 15:13:49

Futterby I'm 25, engaged and the baby was planned... and I still get similar comments. People actually accuse me of lying when I say my baby is planned, as apparently because I'm not 30 and not yet married a planned pregnancy is a ridiculous notion. People also keep saying "are you sure there isn't two in there?". Well if another baby has managed to evade three scans I'll be bloody impressed! I'm not even that big! Rant, rant, rant smile

BeQuicksieorBeDead Wed 26-Jun-13 15:17:34

I have been asked if it was planned. I am 35. Been with dp for years and years.

I have been told with quite authority that it will be girl boy massive tiny * autistic* lively...
People are so rude. And yes, everyone thinks you are public property if you are pregnant.

Futterby Wed 26-Jun-13 15:18:42

I have no idea, I was totally shocked!

I've been with my partner since I was 14, engaged since I was 16 and he is the only person I've ever slept with and I still get asked if I know who the father is.

MolotovCocktail Wed 26-Jun-13 15:21:20

Well, it's not really relevant to a pregnancy thread, but I get sick of people telling me how tall my dd1 is.

Yes, she's tall. Well done for spotting that.

I love that she's tall; she's so elegant and graceful. But I do wish people would stop pointing it out!

Kayls93 Wed 26-Jun-13 15:33:06

Asking if you know who the father is is shocking!! It annoys me when complete strangers touch my bump, happens regularly!

Madratlady Wed 26-Jun-13 15:36:05

I've been asked a few times if it was planned, all of the people who have asked have then been surprised when I've said it was.

Goodness knows why. I may be fairly young but I've been married for 8 months to a man 9 years older than me and we've never made a secret of the fact that we want children although we didn't go round telling people we were ttc.

TakingTheStairs Wed 26-Jun-13 15:45:00

When people told me they were sure it was a boy/a girl I'd smile and say "well you've a 50/50 chance of being right" It's not outright rude but does make them think a little.

I had an a really tough time in my first trimester and a few people would say "oh that means it's a girl" as if it was fact rather that an old wives tale. I'm expecting a boy. hmm

Lydia161290 Wed 26-Jun-13 16:00:21

"Oh, your life will be over once he's born."

That is by far the most irritating comment I have ever received. How can anyone say their child being born is the end of the world?! Jesus.

roofio87 Wed 26-Jun-13 16:09:03

me and dp got engaged on my birthday then announced our pregnancy 3 days later, and at least one person said "oh that explains the engagement!" yes, that's the only reason my partner of 5 years proposed, I trapped him with a baby!! (who was verge much planned!)

Madratlady Wed 26-Jun-13 16:09:53

"You'll soon get rid of the rats when the baby is born"

Actually no, they are my pets and I love them. They are in a cage not scampering around the house so despite what people sen to think they will not be harmful to a baby. People also seem to assume that they are a funny quirk/phase which I will grow out of when I have a baby.

"What will you do about the cats when you have the baby?"

Well I'll have 2 cats...and a baby. What a silly question.

MrsWolowitz Wed 26-Jun-13 16:14:06

Try being pregnant with twins - then you'll experience a whole new aray of rude comments.

Yes, some people can be very rude but most people though are just trying to make conversation and getting snotty about it smacks of 'precious pregnant person'. Of course if they are being blatantly rude then get as snotty as you like! grin

I got a "was it planned" from my MIL. I was 33 and had been married for three years and known my DH for more than 20 years.

TakingTheStairs Wed 26-Jun-13 16:26:47

Oh yes, I've had "what will you do about the dog" too. I said we were getting a harness made so he can pull the pram.

My FIL, upon DH and I announcing our pregnancy said "Oh, we presumed you'd wait until you could afford a house before you had a baby" Eh excuse me? Our ground floor, no steps, two bedroom flat is more than adequate thank you. Sigh.

LabradorMama Wed 26-Jun-13 16:38:02

I got very annoyed yesterday at work when a supplier emailed my boss to ask if he would be outsourcing my role when I go on my 'extended holiday'. Had to write a very sniffy email back, which prompted my boss to ring me to see if I was alright! I've had hyperemesis and now got SPD, I'm in agony and that's before I've given birth. Squeezing a small human out of your vagina and attending to its every need 24/7 does not strike me as a holiday. I've certainly never seen it in the Thompsons brochure.

lockie1983 Wed 26-Jun-13 16:54:08

LabradorMama I HATE that ! Left work today for maternity leave & they've written "enjoy your year off!" Inside, like I'll be painting and reading books and going for long lunches ... Or maybe I'm just heavily pregnant and cranky smile

TakingTheStairs Wed 26-Jun-13 17:00:41

That is SO rude of them LabradorMama I would have been raging too.
As for your year off lockie.. the cheek! seriously how rude can people get ?! angry

BroodyAndMoody Wed 26-Jun-13 17:02:46

My favourite so far is 'just in the nick of time'

I am only 34 you dried up old hag (not on that account anymore....)

BeQuicksieorBeDead Wed 26-Jun-13 17:13:00

How can people be so rude?

Mind you, some of my replies give them a run for their money. Hormones! But I just dont think it is acceptable to tell someone they look massive, or that their life is as good as over when the baby arrives. Some people really enjoy sharing their own misery around!

shellandkai Wed 26-Jun-13 17:20:43

I had that with my ds and now I'm
Pregnant again I got people saying to me it's a boy again my dp's sister actually said that to
Me without even looking at my bump
Or knowing anything about my pregnancy needless to say we are having a girl this time so everyone was wrong although I knew from the start I was having a girl but it is annoying because I just wanted to scream at them and say shut up you know nothing grin

I don't get annoyed with the 'its a boy/girl' stuff or the comments on my bump as im proud of it but the 'is it planned' and 'why have you gone and done that' comments are just blatantly rude and im just shocked peoplw say things like that

twintrimum Wed 26-Jun-13 18:19:55

Me too. I agree with MrsW, having twins adds a whole world of 'oh, are there twins in your family?' meaning 'did you have IVF?' (no I didn't and none of their business - I did have other treatment and they don't need to know). Luckily there happen to be twins in the family too & that seems to deflect them.

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