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Texts and phone calls begin!

(35 Posts)
cupcake78 Tue 25-Jun-13 20:55:18

Yes I've had my baby, not told anyone and hidden it up my top so I still look very pregnant! hmm

I'm not sure why people even do the phone calls and texts of are you still waiting, any signs, any twinges etc. My body shape was even openly discussed in the school playground today. Ooow you've changed shape during the day. I felt a bit violated and just wanted to go home fast.

Is it not obvious that baby will come and when it does it won't be hidden in a draw or cupboard so everyone can guess but it will be seen.

I get really pissed off with people discussing me, stating the obvious and thinking they have a right to know or have an opinion over when and how baby will be delivered.

Pil have called and dh refuses to answer the phone. I can't help thinking this is making it so much worse.

NewChoos Wed 26-Jun-13 14:19:44

oh god full sympathy and I am already dreading the 'any name yet' texts.
I am also getting worked up about having to wait on family when they come and see baby and getting all the tea/coffee/cake supplies in - isn't is supposed to be the other way round?
Yep I am a grumpy cow at 37 weeks - I only wish I had a bit more vague re dates now!

gruber Wed 26-Jun-13 14:25:48

I took matters into my own hands. Every day over 40 weeks I put an update on Facebook every morning. Day 1, day 2 etc. basically variations of "still no baby". That way people didn't bug me but felt "in the loop". Saved a lot of hassle, no one asked!!

Thinkingof4 Wed 26-Jun-13 15:59:53

I've started getting the 'Any signs/twinges' type texts and comments and it's starting to get a bit annoying. I'm 39+1 but have gone overdue with my previous 3 so I've been quite explicit to everyone not to expect anything to happen for another 10 days or so!
At least the tennis is on to stop me getting fed up grin

wispa31 Wed 26-Jun-13 18:51:30

newchoos
adopt a stretch or starve policy once home with your baby. thats what i shall be doing and they wont be coming unless it suits me anyway, no turning up and hanging about all fucking day while im trying to get bf established.

NewChoos Wed 26-Jun-13 19:28:34

Stretch and starve? Sounds interesting...
My family are not one bit helpful, they come round my house 'for a break' Haven't seen either sister for weeks even though am 37 weeks and have a 2 year old to entertain. They will like 'playing' aunty though.

I am so moody - I might ban visiting!!

cupcake78 Wed 26-Jun-13 19:42:24

Have told my friends and family to not mention it if they want to talk to me because the waiting is driving me nuts as it is. Still getting them from dh's side. Only spoke to them last night at 9.30pm and asked them not to go on about it. Text at 10am from pil 'any news?' I sent one back saying 'nothing to tell you. We will tell you once baby is here!'

Sorry but seriously I can't help it angryangryangry.

didireallysaythat Wed 26-Jun-13 19:49:45

Ah ha ! The mistakes you make with your first.

Next time, you'll know why you're supposed to tell everyone you are due 3 weeks after your true due date.

Good luck !

grin

syl1985 Thu 27-Jun-13 00:20:36

A bit of attention is nice, but my family is the same. It's now my 4th pregnancy and when I get to the end and want to enjoy my last peaceful moments.... Everyone is calling, texting and e-mailing me.

Not that I'm not happy with the coming of the baby. But in those last days I try to get and enjoy my rest, because I know I won't get much of that in the next couple of months.

My family also wants to know the second the baby is born that he's born. I never understood that.
What are they thinking? Kids do grow up pretty fast. But relax. If he's a day or a week old. It's still a new born baby.

There's no need of coming to the hospital to see it when it's born. Just wait until I'm happy to have visitors in the hospital or at home. Not come to the hospital or ask me a million times if you could come over. Because for some silly reason you want to see the baby asap.

I often tell them:
You do know how a baby is getting born, right?

answer: Yes, I know.

My: Then you also understand that I just don't want to have any visitors at the moment.
I'm not feeling well. The baby needs all my attention. I'll let you know when you're welcome to and have a look at the baby.

wifey6 Thu 27-Jun-13 06:26:22

Can relate to this completely! Have a DS1 who is 3 soon & DS2 is due in 8 days. The FB messages, texts & daily phone calls are getting beyond a joke now!
Obviously I'm excited, but anxious too & don't want to feel 'pressurised' - if that makes sense?
I have 3 DSis and not one of them in this pregnancy has offered to help with my DS, despite me having quite a tough 6+ weeks of it. But watch them all come running for cuddles with the newborn confused

syl1985 Thu 27-Jun-13 13:45:40

@wifey

Same here. My last weeks of pregnancy have always been hard for me. But barely any of my family came to help me. They said they'd come and visit when the baby is born.
(they meant: preferably one minute after the baby is born)

I wasn't interested in having lot's of visitors just after birth. Everyone had to make an appointment. So I didn't end up with lot's of visitors during the day.

I was very clear about my wishes and still my mum and grandmother just came in when my brother and his wife and kids were there.

Thinking back at it, just makes me furious again!
What the hell are some people thinking!!!

Like I just have to accept that everyone thinks they have the right to come in whenever they feel like it. Regardless of my wishes.

My brother was even angry at me after the birth of my 1rst child. He wanted to be the first one to know that the baby was born. What we did was one text message and we send it to everyone at the same time.

He didn't like that.
Well at that moment I had other things on my mind then calling you to tell you the baby is born. Idiot!!!!

(friends were really nice and family on my partners side did help me when needed during those last weeks.)

I now live in England and not in Holland anymore. My mum wants to come over for a holiday when the baby is born.
Mum, that's not going to happen. First of all our relation is not one of the best and second I'll come in the next year on holiday with the kids to Belgium. You can come and visit us during our holiday.

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