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Early pregnant and worried(29 Posts)
I am 4 weeks 6 days pregnant and am terrified something is going to go wrong. This is my first pregnancy. Can anyone relate to my worries and/or offer advice? x
I found out yesterday and I'm 5 weeks already! This is my second but first ended in MC at 12 weeks . I have sore Hobbs and feel a bit sick and I panic too about not having symptoms. I get a pain sometimes which make me think its all going wrong but everything is ok so far.
I will query it- but it means my scan isn't for 3 weeks now! Its annoying, I must say. I worked out I was 4 weeks 5 days when I did the test, which means I am now 5 weeks 1 day! Frustrating. X
That information on dates does seem odd.
I had my pregnancy blood test on day 9 post 5 day transfer. On test day when I found out I was exactly 4 weeks pregnant.
Can't believe they made you wait until 14 days post 5 day transfer - though actually I sort of get why, as it saves the heartache of knowing about very very early losses, like I had with my first cycle. Anyway, on test day I'm pretty sure you would have been 4 weeks 5 days.
Maybe query it again when you have your scan?
P.S huge amounts of luck to you all x
Thank you ceara- yes I had a 5 day transfer. My clinic said that the day you poas- 14 days after transfer- you're only 4 weeks! When I questioned it on the phone, they said that's just how they date it. Don't get it!! Thank you for replying
In fact thank you all for your lovely replies. It's so fab to see how all early pregnant people are such worriers. That 8 week scan seems like a million years away. Need to keep busy!!!! X
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You're not alone. Worry is part and parcel of pregnancy. I've just found out I'm pregnant (about 5+4 but I don't have regular cycles so it's hard to date!) My last 3 pregnancies ended in MC so I am convinced my lack of symptoms means this one won't stick However, I am still cautiously optimistic and this time when nobody knows except me and DH is great - like we have a really exciting secret
Congratulations by the way!
Just a thought.. Wh don you have a nosey on the Februray antenatal thread. Lots if ladies the same number if weeks as you going through the same worries...
London I am 11+1 and I have been terrified since getting BPF. I still find myself constantly knicker and toilet checking when I go to the loo. It's normal! I am on the antenatal thread for babies due in January2014 and most of the ladies there have been exactly the same.
With regards scans. DF and I have had private scans done every two weeks since six weeks and I get really worried every time we have one. But it's soo amazing seeing our baby with a heart beat. At 8 weeks we saw the heart beat, arm and leg buds and the baby was jumping around...
Good luck and congratulations.
Hi again, yes I remember your thread a couple of weeks ago on the other board - so glad they were indeed fighters and you've come this far.
I think like me you had a day 5 transfer? So on that day you were 2 wks 5 days. Egg collection day counts as 2 weeks pregnant so easy to work it out from there. The date of your last period isn't relevant for ivf-ers' 0 weeks is instead taken as the date 2 wks before egg collection. Your dates shouldn't change with scans further down the line which would normally date based on size of the baby, as your dates are fixed and known.
Good luck and fingers tightly crossed for your scan. It seems so long to wait but the time will go. Things to distract the mind are your friend in these next weeks!
Ceara I am also an IVF pregnancy so have a 7-8 week scan on 8th July. Can I ask how your clinic dated your pregnancy? I feel sick already about that scan- I dread to think how I will feel 5 minutes before!! I can't cope with the thought of having to do IVF all over again...
MrsRV I can't wait to get to the kicking stage- finally evidence a baby is actually in there!! But I imagine I'll only worry everyday about that too!! Indeed it IS enough to cause a breakdown!! Will keep on touching wood and crossing fingers for us all x
P.s. when you start to feel the baby move (and you'll worry about when that's going to happen! DD first movement was 23 weeks so don't panic!) that's very reassuring too. And a bit weird. But then you'll worry about "counting kicks" (I always forgot) and then you'll not feel the baby move and worry some more.
Thinking about it all its enough to give you a feckin breakdown really. And I'm going to do it all again!?!?! Arrrrrrgggggghhhhhhhhhhh!!!
Are meant not stress-am on silly phone!
I'm so very pleased you got your positive result. Brilliant news. Welcome to the next bit of the rollercoaster! I decided obsessive worry counts as a pregnancy symptom and on that basis I am always having at least one. It's very early days for you at not quite 5 weeks to be feeling much and I'm told that every pregnancy is different so not to be too paranoid if you don't follow the schedule in the books even several more weeks down the line. Like you, this is my first pregnancy and I'm just 4 weeks ahead of you at 8+ weeks. I had zero symptoms to start and was convinced there would be nothing there at my 7 week scan (routine scan as it is an ivf pregnancy). But there was. Evening heaving (no mornings involved and no throwing up, and really it's pretty mild) started the next day. Still very little breast tenderness to speak of, but I've never had it with PMS, nor with the ivf drugs. I am now worrying frantically over my "reassurance" (hah!) scan next week. I think MrsRV is so right that it never stops. My mother says that nearly 4 decades after getting pregnant with me she's still waiting for the worrying to ease up...
I have my fingers tightly crossed for you and for good news at your first scan - when is it?
It's a big shock, no one tells you how anxious you will feel about everything, all you know is that you stress meant to be delighted. I felt delighted for about 3 days and then worried constantly
Valiumredhead that's very reassuring- thank you
MrsRV your reply made me laugh! Thank you for your reassuring words too x
I'm 4 weeks (found out Sunday!) and I must say that I am much more relaxed than last time... Exactly 2 years since I found out I was preggers with DD.
I remember sitting on the loo one morning thinking "please feel sick, please feel sick"!!!! I literally had no pregnancy symptoms apart from sore boobs for a few days.... I bled on & off from 8 weeks to 34 weeks and still all fine! Prepare yourself though.... You'll feel like this forEVER now, it just gets different. Once 12 week scan is out of the way you worry about 20 week scan, then you worry about the birth, then you worry about keeping them alive.... Then you have another one & it all begins again!!!! But at the same time it's completely and utterly ACE
Hope to hear how you're getting on over the weeks x
I felt the same, in fact I still do and ds is 12. Anxiety is all part of parenthood I think.
It's so funny to hear that other people are as mad as I am with the 'boob checking' etc. I was thinking that I was actually going crazy!! Thank you to you all for your lovely replies. I wish poas was a guaranteed baby and none of us ever had to worry. I thought as soon as I saw those 2 lines all my prayers would be answered- it only starts a new level of worrying!!!! X
Haha Cornish that's exactly what I'm like! Constantly touching my boobs at work to see if they're still tender and dashing to the loo every 5 mins at home when I've got mild cramps to check if there's any blood.
LondonGirl, not sure how reassuring this is to you but it definitely helped me, especially when I didn't know what was going on with my baby. I kept telling myself what is meant to be will be, and that if something did (and trust me, the odds are very much in your favour of everything going to plan) go wrong, then it's down to my body realising that something is wrong with the baby. I'm sure everything will be fine, it's always worrying before that first scan.
I felt exactly the same. Panicked when I didn't have symptoms, felt rotten when I did. Also constant checking, boob squeezing to see if they still hurt, googling odds etc etc...
It's so hard, but you just have to trust in your body. If your little bean is meant to be ok they will be. The odds are good, and there's not a lot you can do otherwise.
I followed the 'week by week' developments religiously and found that helped too.
Then if you really feel like you need reassurance, in a few weeks you can have an early scan, I paid about £60 for one at 9 weeks and it helped so much to see the little heart beating :-)
Good Luck LondonGirl - hopefully all will be well - enjoy it as much as you can, it's an amazing experience :-)
Thank you heidihole! Congratulations to you.
My worry was heightened this morning as I fell on my way to work (so clumsy today!!!) and spent the morning on the phone to NHS direct who basically told me not to worry as I landed on my hands, elbows, knees... my worry reached new levels!!!
I'm not sure I will stop worring until I have a healthy baby in my arms. x
Dont worry, symptoms didn't kick in for me until week 6 with my first. I'm now on my second and 5 weeks and still no symptoms at all. Don't worry...you'll be hugging the toilet bowl before long!!
Trust me I know the feeling! Even now when my symptoms go away for a bit I panic but it's normal for them to come and go, especially in the early stages. I'm sure you will!
I know exactly what you mean about not being able to believe there's something in there.. It didnt become real for me until I saw it on the screen!
Your body is growing another human being, there's nothing more amazing. So take care of yourself and try not to worry too much
Thank you Holly94. Congratulations to you too! How lovely that you've seen a beating heart. Hope so much I get to that stage.... x
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