two pregnancies close together

[sweetninnocent]

My DS is 6 months old and I've just found out I'm pregnant again!:) has anyone else had two babies so close together?

[DramaAlpaca]

Almost! I got pregnant again when DC1 was 7 months, and there is a 16 month age gap between DC1 & DC2.

It was hard work for the first year, but lovely having two close together.

It's a long time ago for me - they are now 19 & 18.

Congratulations!

[goingdownhill]

I have 14 months between DS1 and DS2. It was and still is fantastic. When they were both babies they had the same routine, napped, ate at the same time it was brilliant. They are now 7 and 6 and the best of friends for each other when not beating each other up. We loved it so much we had DD when DS2 was 18 months so 3 under 3 for a while.

[kissmyshineymetalass]

Yes I have 18 mths between 1st and 2nd and 14 mths between 2nd and 3rd I found it easier having them close in age tbh

[DramaAlpaca]

Wow goingdownhill! I would've loved to have had DC3 sooner, but I knew I wouldn't have coped. There is a 2.5 year gap between DC2 & DC3, so I had 3 under 4 for a bit.

That last baby will be 16 soon...

[sweetninnocent]

Wow thanks everyone! Its very exciting and I'm glad u've all had positive experiences!:)

[feekerry]

there is not even quite 12m between my friends dc's! she found it hard for first 6m but great now. she has her body and life back whilst we are all starting on no2

[Ju1es22]

I'm18 weeks with dc2 my dd1 is 9 and half months:-) Glad I've read this quite a few people have been so negative about the short gap, although dc2's not planned we're very happy!

Good luck sweetninnocent it's going to be amazing i'm sure:-)

[QuietOldLadyWhisperingHush]

Congratulations!

Our DDs are 13 months apart and that's exactly how we wanted it. Both DH and I felt very strongly that we wanted children close in age. From our experiences with our own siblings, as well as what we observed with other families, we believed that closer age gaps work really well.

So far things are going great, DD1 is 20 months and DD2 is 7 months. It's certainly challenging but wonderful in so many ways.

As far as the pregnancy, you may have heard that the general recommendation is to wait 12 months before conceiving again, but I think this is erring on the cautious. Every woman is different and every pregnancy is different. Surely our bodies are designed to cope with 2 pregnancies in quick succession. I had 2 relatively easy pregnancies however, so I realise I'm incredibly lucky. Hopefully all will go well with yours, very best of luck and I promise you won't regret it!

[nipersvest]

there is just 10.5 months between me and one of my brothers, i was 6 weeks old when our mum was pg again! not planned, but as kids we got on really well and always played together.

[QuietOldLadyWhisperingHush]

Sorry also wanted to add that you may want to consider some extra help for the first month or so. Mum, MIL, just someone to help out. I have a great MIL who was readily available, AND we also hired a postnatal doula who was fantastic. I would definitely recommend this option as those first few months are hard work...

[EleanorHandbasket]

There are only 19mo between ds1 and dd and it was a doddle. Ds2 is seven years younger than dd and it was a real shock to the system.

You will be fine! And we're all here to help.

Love you, little sis xx

[Pinkflipflop]

Is the OP actually your little sister?!

[amazingmumof6]

17 months between DS2 and DS3

congratulations!

[EleanorHandbasket]

Yeah she is! I made her join mn to meet all you vipers...

[NandH]

I have a 22month age gap between dd and ds. Planned! I love it, ds is 4months and dd helps out alot, nappy changes etc, kisses and cuddles him and rocks his bouncer for him :) small age gaps are lovely, hopefully they'll be close friends!

[MooMa42o]

Congratulations! I have 11 months between my two, & i am not going to lie there were some really hard times but overall it has been lovely, they are very close & hopefully always will be, You are doing it anyway so might as well do it twice! And on the plus side they are going to be in the same academic year :) It was not planned but i would not change it for anything, be prepared to be asked a lot if they are twins, every new person we meet asks if they are twins, then you get the mental maths & they realise how quickly you must have had sex after giving birth...Good luck & ask for help if you need it, try & rest as much as you can, your body will not have had a chance to recover from the first pregnancy, Enjoy it! :)

[Boop33]

hey ! very similar ...my DD is 7 months and I am currently about 11 weeks pregnant ! was a shock a first and we hadn't planned it that way but now we have got our heads round it and all the positive responses we are very happy :-) i think it will be a good age gap ! Do you know when you are due sweetninnocent ?
x

[Nishky]

Not me, but I have two friends, one who had 3 under 3 (although only for a week!!!) and another who had 3 under 5- both said it was best way to do it!

Congratulations!

( not suggesting you have another straight after this - just coincidence they both had three!!!

[talsi]

12 month gap between my first two, it took us a long time to conceive first time round and then happened straight away.... It was hard work at times, but not nearly as hard as having my third two years after second as he was a v. Difficult baby and is now a difficult nearly three year old...

[Atomiksnowflake]

there are 50 weeks between my Dc.

Congratulations

[valiumredhead]

My sil was pregnant again after 2 months, totally planned

[mamachelle]

we have 12 months (and 5 days :)) between dds 1 and 2. I found it to be easier with a small gap than i do with the 3yr gap between dds 2 and 3.

They are also the best of friends and partners in crime.

[Tinwe]

Mamachelle! Snap, 12 months 5 days between my DD1 and DD2!
Would have been under the year but DD2 was very overdue.

I'm still in the "finding it hard" phase (they're 2 and 1) but I've got nothing to compare it to as they are my only DCs. DH is coping amazingly but finding it extra hard having to "worry about 2 other peoples bodies" as well as his own (they're both at the eat anything and bang into/climb anything stage). We wouldn't change it for the world though.

Advantages I have noticed- nappy/bottles/poor sleep phase over with almost at the same time, same toys/tv shows and interests on days out, same "toddler food/snacks phase, share clothes, same friends, same sleep times so we get a rest midday, very close and loving towards each other overall (never been a day apart since DD2 was born).
Disadvantages (other than the obvious) - DD1 isn't old enough to do things independently while dealing with DD2 (eg put shoes on, climb into car seat etc), hard to teach DD how to be safe around DD2 (ie don't climb in her cot and belly flop on her), both seem to get ill lots as they're both building their immune system at the same time (and one crawled and sucks her thumb), child care costs are v expensive for 2 babies at the same time and family aren't keen to have them lots as they're a handful, every waking moment is spent minding them both so any housework has to be done at night and there's a lot of housework with 2 v small ones

Basically it's brilliant and getting better every day but be prepared to not stop from 7am until 9.30 at night for several months.

[ruledbyheart]

There's 10.5 months between my two boys it was tough at first as they both needed so much attention and there wasn't enough hours in the day then 18mths later I had my little girl, that wasn't too bad as both my boys were walking and eating/drinking on their own and would entertain each other whilst I fed the baby.

[Branleuse]

theres 11.5 months between ds2 and dd.

It was tough, especially late pregnancy with a baby already, but theyre 5 and 6 now and the best of friends.