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TTC but feeling confused

(38 Posts)
Nicola290 Wed 08-May-13 11:09:36

Hi, I came off the pill in March. My last period was March 20th (withdrawal bleed) and I haven't had a period since. I took a test two weeks ago and it was negative so don't think I am pregnant but before the pill my periods were like clockwork so it's a little bit strange although I know it can take a few months for your body to find its natural rhythm again. This week, well I'd say last couple of days or so, I have felt really bloated like my stomach is totally bloated and I don't know why as Itill no sign of period. I feel really tired for no apparent reason either and my boobs are sore. I took a First Response test two weeks ago today and was totally negative so I don't believe I could be with child but I still don't feel like my period is on it's way either as I haven't had any cramping etc and I normally get that. I just wondered if anyone had any advice? I think I will start to worry if no period by July. Since I have had no period I haven't ovulated so I can't scientifically be pregnant. Am I right in thinking this? Any thoughts would be much appreciated! Thanks xxxx

FobblyWoof Tue 28-May-13 12:46:23

It depends on how your local hospital works. When I was pregnant with DD I had to phone the midwife until after seeing my doctor. Then I kept phoning them because I hadn't heard anything. I didn't realise it was normal for them to take ages! This time my midwife text me with my booking in appointment and scan appointment. I think I just picked a busy time of year with DD, so remember to be patient.

Congratulations

Nicola290 Tue 28-May-13 11:56:36

Thanks everyone for your messages. I haven't told anyone but my partner and parents and one friend. Difficult when you have a 101 questions going round in your head! Haven't heard anything yet but I expect the midwife will call me soon for a booking appointment and then let me know when the first scan date is. I still have pretty much constant nausea and I have started to actually be sick. At work today I have thrown up about 4 times and feel dreadful but I just have to manage as best I can! Just started this job a month ago so don't want to draw attention to myself but it's so hard to hide this constant sickness feeling and then actually being sick. I feel like I am permanently hungover!

Also, I keep stressing about whether my baby is ok and if it's healthy etc? I have read so many horror stories on pregnancy forums about miscarriages and missed miscarriages and how a heartbeat isn't always detected at the first scan. I think I am doing everything I can to ensure my pregnancy is healthy but as it's my first time I don't know if I am doing anything wrong?? Sorry I know I sound crazy xxx

knittingirl Tue 21-May-13 16:31:57

The midwife rang me to make a booking in appointment a week or so after the dr did a urine test to confirm the pregnancy. I suspect it works differently in each area, but if the dr said the midwife will call then I would give it at least a week or so before you ring as they will probably contact you.

Don't worry about sickness/other symptoms coming and going - it happens and is totally normal! And you can keep going with your normal exercise as long as you feel up to it, provided that the dr/midwife hasn't advised you against it.

TinkyPeet Tue 21-May-13 14:38:29

As far as I'm aware you have to make your first appointment with the midwife, just call your surgery and ind out

Nicola290 Tue 21-May-13 14:24:39

Hi everyone,

Thanks for the congrats! I went to see the doctor last Friday and she said the midwife will call me to book me in. She estimated I was 8 weeks pregnant (simply based on the day of my last period). I don't when the midwife will call or how long to leave it before I call the midwife (The doctor gave me a first pregnancy pack and it included the midwife's number) so not sure if you have any advice on this front?

I have had a number of symptoms. Really bad bloating, wind and also constant all day nausea (yes I am currently one sexyyy lady!). Haven't actually been sick but felt sick all day long and retched a few times. I also have a metallic taste in my mouth.

Sickness isn't as bad today as it has been the past few days. It was awful on Sunday and not great yesterday is this normal at this stage? It's so weird as you just want a scan asap to confirm things don't you! I just don't know when that will be. xxx

Congratulations!

At this point it's fine to continue your usual fitness regime. Your body will tell you when to slow down later (assuming no complications/issues that mean medical advice is to scale back).

weeblueberry Thu 09-May-13 12:04:32

Congratulations!! :D

MaryannM Thu 09-May-13 11:22:44

Hey congrats ;-) xx

Franykins Thu 09-May-13 10:32:14

Congratulations smile

Nicola290 Thu 09-May-13 09:28:26

Thanks. Earliest appointment I can get is next Friday! Guess it's only a week, suppose I can go swimming til I see a medical expert. Eeeeee god this feeling is mental! Doesn't feel real yet xxx

knittingirl Thu 09-May-13 09:14:58

Congratulations!!!

TinkyPeet Thu 09-May-13 09:02:51

Yeah book in with the doctors and they will most likely send you for an early scan. Ask about the cardio stuff too x

Nicola290 Thu 09-May-13 08:55:39

Morning! I took a clear blue digital test this morning and it was a BFP and said I was 3 weeks plus. Not sure how they will work my due date or conception date as my last period was march 20th but there must have been a few weeks before I conceived. V shocked this has happened so quickly! I guess I just need to book a doctors appointment now? I still feel ridiculously bloated even when first thing in the morning when my stomach is empty. I normally do quite an intense cardio and weights routine 4 times a week at the gym so not sure if I can continue with that? Haven't been this week as didnt feel my normal self (now we know why!!) but I would like to continue it still. Guess it's ok until you're getting big and heavy. Can't even believe I'm writing this, still so surprised! Xxxx

CuteLittleToes Wed 08-May-13 23:09:40

I think different tests work differently for everyone. There must be something in your urine that might affect test results slightly, but probably during research it doesn't make statistically significant difference for them to actually tell that. It seems like certain brands work better for some but not for others!

Anyway, a line is a line however faint it is, so once again, congratulations! grin

TinkyPeet Wed 08-May-13 22:22:17

Tbh I just find the first response tests to be shite. However a line is a positive, take your other boots one in the morning then call and book in with a midwife smile

Nicola290 Wed 08-May-13 22:20:07

Thanks guys!! I still don't quite believe it yet though. I took the First Response one and the pink line was quite faint so I don't know what that means! Going to take another test in the morning. The boots one at 7pm was a BFP but the First Response one was a faint positive which I took 2 hours later so still confused!! Xxxx

TinkyPeet Wed 08-May-13 21:28:09

Congratulations smile xx

CuteLittleToes Wed 08-May-13 21:24:37

OMG congrats on your BFP!!! flowers

Nicola290 Wed 08-May-13 20:22:25

Hi, yeh I know that but I thought id at least get one period after coming off pill but I haven't. Just took a boots own brand test there and it's a BFP but I'm going to do a few more as I have a First Response one left over and also two came in Boots packet. I don't quite believe it but both lines were super strong/dark. Took test about 7pm. I would never have taken one if those of you that said take one today didn't advise me to!

Fakebook Wed 08-May-13 20:16:05

Nicole, I think you need to read up about how ovulation and menstruation work.

When you ovulate and the egg is fertilised by sperm, you won't get a period, as you will have conceived a baby.

When you ovulate and the egg isn't fertilised by sperm, your egg dies and this results in a period, as the lining of the uterus is shed.

menstrual cycle chart

TinkyPeet Wed 08-May-13 15:43:21

Hun, If every ovulation was followed by a period, there would be no babies whatsoever! You said you have been having sex so you could well have ovulated, conceived and tested too early! Either use the other test you have, get another cheaper test or go get a test done by the doctor.

Nicola290 Wed 08-May-13 13:59:55

Thanks for that smile well it's been seven weeks since last pill bleed and the things I have noticed since coming off the pill is slightly smaller boobs but that's about it. Since Monday I have had this bloated feeling and sore boobs but as I took a test two weeks ago today I just don't know if I am wasting my money! It's been 50 days or so since that pill bleed! Yeh I knew I had to ovulate to have a period so I am thinking I clearly haven't ovulated as no period! xxxx

Ilovestackingcups Wed 08-May-13 13:23:06

I had sore boobs and bloaty feeling when I came off the pill and before I conceived DC1. I put it down to hormonal rebalancing. I was on Microgynon for seven years. Like you, I had fairly regular periods before going onto the pill. Afterwards, they were mental. Different every month, up to 35 day cycles.

However, that was me. You may well be pregnant. If it'd put your mind at ease, test again. Your period is your body ejecting an unfertilised egg along with the lining of your womb. This will not happen until after you have ovulated. If that egg was fertilised, you'd never have a period. Mind, it'll make working out your due date fun, but that's your MW's problem (plus you might get an extra/early scan out of it grin).

LemonPeculiarJones Wed 08-May-13 12:56:09

I think clear blue digital are v reliable. First response (which I used the day my period was due) gave me a false negative.

Nicola290 Wed 08-May-13 12:43:49

Thanks, appreciate this. Ah I thought First Response would have been one of the best ones to use, I might just go and get some cheap ones then from Wilkinsons or something! Reason I took First Response two weeks ago as I thought it would tell me even if I was only like days pregnant but it was resolutely negative!

The thing is it's been 7 weeks since my last period and that was the last pill period so I haven't even had a natural bleed yet. xxx

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