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Sex in Pregnancy - a survey!

(46 Posts)
FoofFighter Wed 08-May-13 11:05:06

I am up for it. [bites knuckles and tears hair out]

He is not, it appears, although he won't say, is just avoiding the issue I think.

We've had sex once since the baby was conceived, last week.

Are we normal? How often do you/did you have sex in pregnancy?

SuffolkNWhat Fri 10-May-13 15:23:43

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TalkUsernameYoudLike Fri 10-May-13 15:14:55

All couples are different.

I know of couples that didn't do it at all because their (male)P's were to scared of harming the baby, or it just didn't feel 'right'.

For me, I couldn't get enough! Around 4-5 times a week!

chattychattyboomba Thu 09-May-13 22:33:24

I had zero sex drive- DH too as he felt weird about it. i was fine with that...we had no sex (that's right- none) when i was preg.
Our relationship had never been better or more loving and supportive.
He watched me give birth and 6 weeks later whammo- everything back exactly the same as i left it.

ElBombero Thu 09-May-13 22:17:42

Yeah everything back to normal after birth x

Elton535 Thu 09-May-13 18:38:47

For the first trimester of my first pregnancy, I was ever in the mood for sex. By the third trimester, my sex drive was crazy and we had sex very often. I'm now 5 months along with DC5 and I've been super horny since conception. For some reason, DH loves having sex when I have a huge bump, as he made clear during my last 3 pregnancies.

BraveLilBear Thu 09-May-13 14:30:21

Foof I can but pray... I'd say everything crossed, but then, that's counterproductive confused

HadALittleFaithBaby Thu 09-May-13 14:23:14

Foof my DH stopped being funny about sex by the second trimester. Now he is asking when it might be on the cards because apparently it's been a while hmm I had a tear so it'll be a while longer still til it's all healed! smile

RoxyLady Thu 09-May-13 14:02:36

We've had no sex since finding out im preg. This is mainly because i had three miscarriages before and we were worried about something happening.
I miss sex!

FoofFighter Thu 09-May-13 13:46:45

For those that OH's weren't interested, did things go back to normal after the birth?

ElBombero Wed 08-May-13 23:08:57

None here �� DH'a decision not mine. Was same with DD, sex once during the pregnant which I bullied him into, and his heart was obviously not in it so I stopped. 23weeks now see hasn't been mentioned or tried. confusedconfused Frustrating. I actually watched some porn the other day!!

bogwoppitinatree Wed 08-May-13 22:51:28

Mostly none in 1st tri as we had had a miscarriage before and were both scared of the same, 2nd tri was fantastic(!) and third trimester has been none existent. My libido has tailed off a bit and I think both of us are a bit unsure re positioning with me being so big! Getting a bit frustrated now to say the least. I'm 36 weeks so would like to get some in before the big day!

Cavort Wed 08-May-13 18:47:02

My libido has gone completely and I could not feel less sexy, but DH seems unaffected by my new whale-like form (33 weeks) so we probably DTD once a week, which is a lot less than 3/4 times a week pre-pregnancy. I never really feel like it at the moment but I do enjoy the intimacy and I feel complimented that he still seems to fancy me.

Smerlin Wed 08-May-13 17:44:34

About once a week during 1st month but 2nd and 3rd months had a winning combination of constant bleeding / spotting and terrible sickness and generally feeling rubbish so nothing at all.

Finally starting to feel normal again during 4th month so a couple of times so far - holiday planned soon so hopefully will feel energetic then wink

DH is finding my pregnancy a massive turn on so feel I need to try and let him indulge - just a shame I'm always so knackered from work [frown]

Bunnychan Wed 08-May-13 17:32:17

37+6 still having it a couple of times a week. Can't say it's the best ever as its getting more awkward but I like how close it makes us feel. We used to do it a lot more though x

Andcake Wed 08-May-13 17:20:30

I was cautious in frst tri due to previous mc although its not meant to have an impact. DP went off it 3rd tri when he old see/feel baby move. Afterward DP wanted it at 3 weeks ended up at 5 weeks.

CuteLittleToes Wed 08-May-13 17:17:03

I'm just 11 weeks, but first few weeks after we found out I was super horny (DP was super happy about it), but then tiredness kicked on, so we dtd maybe once a week now on the weekend...

Dillydollydaydream Wed 08-May-13 16:54:34

I haven't really felt like it at all in the first 2 trimesters. Now I'm in the 3rd trimester I suddenly feel like sex again, much to dhs pleasure. Not sure why as I'm bigger and it's a lot more awkward!

megarobotdiscoparty Wed 08-May-13 16:50:45

am waving to foof and sneaking some saucy love potion into her OH's porridge.... glad I'm not alone ladies!

GrandPoohBah Wed 08-May-13 15:39:52

About weekly in the first trimester (all day queasiness). Pretty much every second day from then on, until the night before being induced.

Nothing like that much since though. Tiredness, hormones and stitches have had their affect.

KatieLily12 Wed 08-May-13 15:16:30

We had no desire to for most of pregnancy

Then we did

Baby arrived 24 hours later......

GingerDoodle Wed 08-May-13 14:55:01

My lord I was horny as hell when pregnant! DH loved it.

Kelly1814 Wed 08-May-13 14:45:18

Like Pizdets, I have a stitch, so cannot at all.

Am devastated, I always have a high sex drive so the fact we haven't been able to since 10 weeks ( am now 17) and can't until the baby is born is literally killing me.

I dream about it every night, I so miss it and the intimacy.

Was also advised no climaxes becaus of stitch, so can't even indulge in other things, alone or with partner sad

picnicbasketcase Wed 08-May-13 14:40:19

As often as when not pg, maybe a bit more actually.

Cheffie100 Wed 08-May-13 14:36:39

Gone off it since 25 weeks and wish I hadn't. Feel unattractive and frumpy and not that turned on. Keep making the effort once a week but DH isn't too bothered either. Roll on things getting back to normal

FoofFighter Wed 08-May-13 13:52:23

That's how I feel megarobostdiscoparty (cool name btw!!).

I know rationally that some men find it hard (forgive the pun!) and I can understand their reasons and appreciate their point of view, but it just leaves me feeling fat, frumpy, unattractive, and unloved.
He's not a particularly demonstrative person and pretty much the only time I get affectionate intimacy with him is during sex/just after, so I miss that part a lot too. Probably more than the actual act of actually.

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