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Fantastic, fabulous 40+ Mums-to-be! Part 4

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rosiedays Wed 01-May-13 09:30:08

as i filled the last post on old thread it seemed only polite to start the new one. hope i've done it right confused

To those who have just found this thread, Welcome and congratulations on you BFP. please feel free to join this amazing supportive group of 40+ mums to be. A very nonjudgmental and friendly place to hang out and share your pregnancy.

Blundermum 40, DC2 due early May?
Lotsofcheese, 40/41, DC2 (girl) due May (DS 4y)
Onemoreforgoodmeasure, 40, DC1 due 06/06
cyclecamper, 42, DC1 due 14/06
Newchoos, 40, DC2, due early July
Blueeyes1970,42, DC1 due on 8th July
BadMissM, 45, DC2, due 22/7
Rosiedays, 43 DD3 due 23rd July(ish)
ScubaSarah, nrly 40, DC1?, due July 22-Aug 1
Iclaudius,45, due 29/07
LottieH, 44, DC5, due mid August
Sparklysapphire, 44, DC2, due 28/8
BuzzBee, 40, DC2, due Sept
Notsoold, 41,DC3 due end of October
Animol, 42, DC5 due 13th
November

Eyeslikeraisins Thu 02-May-13 10:06:43

Hi girls,

Can I join you? I'm almost 20 weeks preg with number 3 (2 DDs age 6 and 3) and turn 44 in August. I feel ancient but my midwife assured me that i'm not unusual. Not sure I believe her.

Animol Thu 02-May-13 10:25:54

Welcome sorry and eyes - congratulations!

cyclecamper Thu 02-May-13 13:40:37

Hi Eyeslikeraisins You certainly aren't unusual, especially round here. Welcome!

Animol Thu 02-May-13 16:22:33

How's it going cycle - any news?

Tamof4 Thu 02-May-13 16:45:38

Cyclecamper, it prob comes as no surprise that 4 babies from our small town have been born on the way to hosp since the closure!
My good pal has just given birth to her 5th at home, which I thought was ruddy brave esp since umbilical chord was wrapped several times round baby's neck. All was thankfully well in the end.
Taking all those buses must be a heck of a chore. How far along are you?

cyclecamper Thu 02-May-13 17:42:52

33+6. I've found buses are actually the easiest - cars have been too uncomfortable and the local train seats are ok if they have the flip up ones by the bike space: they have flat backs. The normal seats are painfully uncomfortably shaped. It's only one bus here from round the corner from our house then a ten15 minute walk at this end. I've just been here and back twice and then here a 3rd time.

I don't seem to be getting anywhere at the moment, which is a good thing because then the baby will stay put until at least tomorrow when I will be 34 weeks. Even one day before 34 weeks means the baby will automatically be transferred to special care, where as one day after it will depend on the baby and if it seems fine, we will be transferred to post natal together, which is the opposite end of the corridor I am on now. I would like it to arrive before they induce me though! I'm basically vegging around and eating everything they offer! The highlight of my day was the nicest shower I've had this year: lovely and warm (after about 10 minutes) and good pressure - it was fab!

rosiedays Thu 02-May-13 17:52:28

Cycle glad nothing is happening... i'm SOOOOO excited for you!!! (weird!) i'm away all weekend but will try to keep checking on my phone.
I have a 40 min drive to hospital across centre of city... if trafic is bad it can take FOREVER... i have joked with Dh about baby being born on the ring road but really i'm very concerned... my last 2 were very very quick pain free (only felt the last couple of contractions) birhts.
i've run through 'emergency home delivery plan' with Dh and will be calling 999 LOL

SorryMyLollipop Thu 02-May-13 19:22:56

Rosiedays, I like Safia, Amina and Shazia.

notsoold Fri 03-May-13 00:48:01

Welcome to all the newcomers!!!

Rosie I loved Amira....sounds so delicate!!!

Cycle...I am very glad that the hospital is 1.5 miles from our home...as public transport here is not good!!!

I am 14 weeks today and still worried that things will go wrong like my mmc last year....it doesn't help that is early for movements ( although I swear I was feeling them last week) and since Saturday... Nothing....
Sorry...rant over

lotsofcheese Fri 03-May-13 05:15:37

Notsoold: congratulations on 14 weeks. I also had a mmc & while everyone else relaxed after the 12 week scan, I still worried. And I felt movement at 14/15 weeks - but not consistently.

Cycle: yay, 34 weeks! My 35+6 DD initially started on the postnatal ward but was unable to maintain her temperature or blood glucose so had 8 days on scbu. Every day inside counts!

scarecrow22 Fri 03-May-13 06:48:48

cycle 34 weeks - hurrah. Hope you not going stir crazy in hospital and getting some sleep.

Rosie I adore name Amira.

welcome all new joiners. Really look forward to following your journeys.

SorryMyLollipop Fri 03-May-13 07:35:48

Rosie - Amira is the prettiest name! I was trying to think of similar ones to suggest as well.

I feel sorry for those of us with nightmare journeys to hospital. I am very spoilt that my local maternity unit is literally around the corner, 10 minutes walk AND on a bus route if needed. Sometimes city living has its advantages.

cyclecamper Fri 03-May-13 07:36:06

Thank you everyone. I've been having a wobble - it dawned on me in the middle of the night that I'm not going to get to do any shopping for the baby or any more sorting out at home before I take the baby there! I've only done the first of 4 antenatal classes, 2 pregnancy yoga classes and no aqua natal at all. I think it's shock! I didn't get to discus birth plans with the midwife (that was next week), although I'm not going to get much choice, so I suppose it doesn't matter. I'm hoping that the current emotional wreckedness means that something is going to start soon - I really would rather not be induced: I reckon I can manage a 5lb baby, but I'm not sure about induced contractions! I'm generally an un-rushed person, and I fully expected to be being induced at 42 weeks, not 34!

Deep breaths! Sorry for the whinge blush

Animol Fri 03-May-13 08:52:23

Rosie - oh yes Amira is lovely

Brilliant that you've got to 34 weeks cycle - congratulations! I was induced for DC1 when labour just stopped - it's not pleasant - but it's another step towards holding your baby in your arms - and it's worth it!

All your baby is going to need is you - he won't care about yoga - he just wants you - prepared or not! All the best cycle

Hope you can relax soon lotsofcheese - it is weird isn't it not feeling sick but not feeling movement yet either.

Animol Fri 03-May-13 17:36:10

Any news cycle - thinking of you

cyclecamper Fri 03-May-13 18:12:05

Still here! Nothing much happening. I saw the lady from the neonatal ward today, and cried all over her! blush She was lovely and listened to me being self obsessed for ages. I have got myself a bit more together now. I'm gradually getting my head around the idea that the baby might not get to stay with me straight away and we are going to be in here longer than the few hours after birth that I sort of expected. I think in some ways it is because I'm so healthy that I'm being so rubbish- I'm with not used to dealing things when they don't go normally! I've been reading the premature baby literature that the lady gave me, but a lot of it is about the really, really small ones and there wasn't a lot about what is likely happen with a less early one. It seems to be a bit borderline - could need help feeding and breathing, could be fine. Could be with me after birth, could still be in the neonatal ward when I go home. I'm going to look on the bright side and assume it's as healthy as a horse, like me!

Sorry, I seem to still be self obsessing! blush

notsoold Fri 03-May-13 19:03:41

Cycle....don't apologize... We are here for each other and I know it cannot be easy for you ....but I am sure things will go well in the end...just hold on thanks

Lotsof thanks for your post....I read it few times to remind myself that things can go well...

lotsofcheese Fri 03-May-13 19:11:39

Oh Cycle, I really feel for you - having had 2 early babies, it's a lot to come to terms with, even if you have preparation. I was so shocked when I had DS, even though I had a few days notice. And the uncertainty is difficult too, of not knowing if you will be taking a baby home when you go, or later.

I wish I had some wise words - all I can say is prepare for all eventualities & take it a day at a time. Rest up, take it easy & keep posting xx

blueeyes1970 Fri 03-May-13 19:22:23

Hello All,
Welcome to new 40+ mums to be
Thoughts especially with cyclecamper. Hang in there. All will be well. You sound super healthy, optimistic, and generally relaxed (if not now).
My friend had twins at 32 weeks in Feb (had planned ELC at 38w, but didn't go that way) - 5lb each, Twin 1 fine and home in a week, Twin 2 a little longer in NNU but now both home and thriving!

PopcornGrace Sat 04-May-13 06:17:24

Hello ladies
Can I join please
I am 40 and have 1dd who is 2 in July.
And now after 5 miscarriages and surgery for uterine adhesions I am now pregnant due around December 24th shock. I have to thank mumsnet because when i was having the miscarriages I decided to go to see a fertility specialist as my gp wasn't really in a rush to help me out and I found a recommendation here for a doctor. Obviously I didn't know what my problem was but turned out that this doctor (dr trew) was one of the 2 best surgeons for my particular problem.

A question - anyone have recent experiences with st Mary's nhs or Lindo wing? I'm trying to decide which to go for.

cyclecamper Sat 04-May-13 09:55:25

Good morning everyone. Welcome PopcornGrace and congratulations smile

I'm feeling a lot more positive this morning, which is nice. I'm rubbish at not coping. Everything seems to be fine, if not moving, so I'm just waiting it out (and sitting on the pregnancy ball - to the alarm of the night duty midwife who said to make sure that if I started things off, to give them plenty of time to move me upstairs! grin)

BadMissM Sat 04-May-13 13:32:57

Well, 28 week scan yesterday.... he's going to be a big boy, well up the centiles (owch!) Apart from that, all fine!

Welcome Tamof4.... old? I'm going to be 46 before LO is born, and my DD is 14!

Animol Love the name suggestions!!!

Sorrymylollipop Well this is my first with DH, DD was with my STBXH too.... Mine was a bit of a surprise too!

Cycle that's disgraceful...they were going to do the same around here, close Barrow and leave just a MW unit (with no consultant support) at Kendal, and only Lancaster would have facilities....that means women travelling 50 miles and they are already full to bursting point! We've even been told if Lancaster is full we might have to go to Barrow....

Rosiedays Hmmm, names difficult. Aaliyah? Saima? Samina? Zahra? Seena? Mina? Nazia? Safina? Samira? Hasina? Naznine? Aleesha? Hena? Razia? Rosheda? Mariyah? Farzana? I've always like Shazia too (used to teach Muslim girls!). Girls names much easier!

Tamof4 where are you? Sounds like what's happening here! I dread to think of going 50 miles....

Waves welcome to eyeslikeraisins!!!

cycle and babycycle hang on in there, sounds like you are both doing well and having a good rest!

Rosie Took me and DH 90 mins to hospital the other day as they are digging up centre of town for next 2 YEARS! I dread giving birth in rush hour....

Notsoold I also had an MMC 2 years ago.....keep believing!!!

Lotsofcheese it made me nervous too, I couldn't begin to relax til much later....

Waves to Scarecrow

Sorry I live in a city, but one divided in two by one stupid bridge, so it snarls up....

Animol It's terrible when you are in that 'am I really pregnant? stage'

Cycle DD was born at 31 weeks, not in SCBU, fine after about 5 minutes, now about a foot taller than me.... It's just so dependent! Feel free to have a rant and rave all you like!

Waves to blueeyes1970!!!

PopcornGrace Welcome, and, wow, what a journey! I wish I had found Mumsnet when I was TTC, they wouldn't refer me anywhere from here....

Cycle Sending many hugs xxx

somewherebecomingrain Sat 04-May-13 21:43:59

Cycle wishing you luck and thinking of you. 34 weeks
Is good - praying it all goes as smoothly as possible xx

ClaraColomba Sat 04-May-13 22:14:03

Hi ladies, can I join your thread? I'm 40 & expecting no. 2 in November (12/11). My daughter will be 2 in July. I'm having a really anxious time of this pregnancy. I had a mmc in late October. It was a horrible time - at the time my brother-in-law was in intensive care and I found out about the mmc in the week before he died & had an ERPC the week following. Been seeing a counsellor through the hospital to try to unravel the grief. So far so good with this pregnancy, at least all was well at the nuchal scan at 11.5 weeks last week, but I'm finding it so difficult to relax into being pregnant, despite knowing the odds should be reasonably good at this stage. Is anyone else still feeling SO tired at almost 13 weeks?

cyclecamper Sun 05-May-13 08:47:26

Hello Clara, welcome. that sounds like a very stressful and sad time, it's not surprising that you are anxious. I was definitely still tired at 13 weeks - it was going back to a different dr at 16 weeks to find out what was wrong with me, that made her tell me to do a test.

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