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Worried about 12 week scan

(19 Posts)
materrules Mon 29-Apr-13 19:47:48

Hi all, this is my second dc but i am so much more worried about the 12 week scan. I have had morning sickness and sore boobs and no bleeding or cramps but have a real fear that when i get there the baby will have died. I think its because so many friends have suffered so much heartache in recent months i dont think i can believe it will be me of all people to have something good happening.

Anyone else felt the same? Or am i just being daft?

JennaRainbow Mon 29-Apr-13 20:38:28

I'm feeling exactly the same! I'm having mine at 13 weeks, and have already had 2 scans so I know there should be a baby there but I can't help thinking everything's going to go wrong. I've also had loads of blood tests for various things and am convinced that I'm going to get horrible news. Like you I've had so many friends where things have gone wrong, it makes feel like things can't be this easy.

We both need to try and relax smile

SourSweets Mon 29-Apr-13 20:42:31

Snap! I felt like as soon as I got pregnant all these horror stories started coming out and it just terrified me and made me feel like something was definitely wrong. I am about to enter my third trimester though and baby is totally healthy and happy. I am sure it will be the same for you! Congratulations and good luck!

Lj8893 Mon 29-Apr-13 20:46:26

I was exactly the same!!! I had even come to terms with the fact that the baby had died, I had even convinced my dp!
Anyway I'm now 14 weeks and have had 2 lovely scans and have suddenly grown a big bump overnight!!

Good luck smile

I feel the same, this is my 1st pregnancy. I did have to have a scan at 6wks & another at 7 because of spotting, we saw a heartbeat but they did see blood next to my sac left over from implantation. I'm terrified about going for my 12wk scan in 2wks bcus my friend suffered 3 miscarriages last yr & another friend also had one last yr. The only pregnancy symptom I really had was achy breasts but my friend who had the miscarriages is always telling me she knew when lost baby as soon as her breast stopped hurting, so now every time mine stop i freak. This pregnancy wasn't planned me & my BF don't live together & have only been together coming up to a yr & my friends were both married & had been trying for ages, i know its silly but I feel guilty. The friend who had the 3M knows i'm pregnant & trying to be supportive but i can see shes not overly happy about it, the other friend i'm not ready to tell. I had my booking appointment yesterday, the midwife didn't seem at all worried about the spotting i'm getting or lack of pregnancy symptoms, it says on my notes i'm low risk which should be enough for me to relax but i'm so scared when i go into the scan they wont see a heartbeat. This is going to feel like the longest 2wks ever.

willoughboobs Mon 29-Apr-13 20:48:20

I'm the same, iv had 2 scans so far and I go for one tomorrow at 13 weeks but I am so nervous. My other 2 dc want to come to the scan but I'm worried that there won't be a heartbeat. sad

Loftyjen Mon 29-Apr-13 21:28:24

Understand the feelings on here. I've got my full 12wk scan tomorrow having been here last in November when I found out the baby had severe hydrops (less than 50% chance of surviving the full pregnancy) & we had make the difficult decision to end the pregnancy.
Ironically, the pressure was lifted yesterday after I found had a v small bleed, advised by MW to get to A&E and from there ref'd up to EPU where they scanned, found a baby wink and (to me most importantly) told me it didn't have hydrops.
Obviously I've still got to have bloods/Nuchal screening, but my biggest psychological barrier has now been removed.
I remember being nervous for DD's scan too - it's completely normal & fingers crossed to everyone xx

Alexandra6 Mon 29-Apr-13 22:11:37

Me too! Mine is in two weeks, at 11+5. Had an 8 week scan and if went really well with a heart beat but time seems to be slowing down again! It's my first. Can't wait for the scan now!

materrules Tue 30-Apr-13 07:10:31

Thank you all so much for replying and your stories, the relief that im not the o ly person feeling like this has made me sob a little (bloody hormones!) my scan is later today and am in full panic mode. I too have alteady convinced myself the baby has died. I had lots if dreams about the scan last night amd none of it good. Roll on 4pm!

Alexandra6 Tue 30-Apr-13 07:12:42

Good luck lovely and come back on to let us know all went really well, the chances are on your side x

RJM17 Tue 30-Apr-13 09:47:06

I've had 4 scans already starting at 5 weeks because of bleeding and the laser one at 9 weeks I saw the baby moving around and a strong heartbeat. However I am still terrified that when
I go next week for 13 week scan (they had no appointments for 12 weeks) there is going to be something terribly wrong! I am scared to even think that I am pregnant and keep trying to convince myself I'm not incase it goes wrong. I can't even bring myself to write baby's due date on our calendar!! Crazy I know but can't help these feelings. Good to see we not alone though and we all go through this x

LandsN Tue 30-Apr-13 10:00:46

I was the same and told midwife at scan that i knew baby was not alive and I am now 14 weeks and worrying about not hearing heartbeat at 16 week appointment dont think u stop worrying and this is my 3rd good luck hope all is well x

BroodyAndMoody Tue 30-Apr-13 10:12:47

Feel the same, just 12weeks with first baby and bricking it about scan later this week.

Constantly thinking the worst and get worried that I am not pregnant enough! No morning sickness, just tired and sore boobs. Although they aren't sore today...

Convinced we are going to get bad news at the scan, DH is being great though. Think it is natural to worry but will feel better when I have seen baby for myself!

TobyLerone Tue 30-Apr-13 11:18:58

Good luck, OP. I know exactly how you feel. I'm only 5 weeks, so I have aaages to wait (although we're going to have a private scan at 7/8 weeks for reassurance).

It's completely normal to worry when there are no absolute ways of telling that everything is ok. Later on you can hear the heartbeat or feel the baby moving, which is so reassuring. But for now, it's really hard.

wifey6 Tue 30-Apr-13 16:12:45

Good luck op..
Your worries are perfectly natural & as others have said, until a Doppler can be used or movements felt - it's a very anxious time.

materrules Tue 30-Apr-13 18:17:48

Well after all my panicking and worrying the baby was fine and wriggling around all over the place! I burst into tears as i was so convinced it was going to be bad news but now i look like this grin thank you so much everyone for your kind words an best of luck to everyone else waiting for thier scan- now to worry until i can feel movements...

TobyLerone Tue 30-Apr-13 18:51:40

Yay, congratulations!

Loftyjen Wed 01-May-13 18:12:42

My scan went well too, weirdly had the same research fellow as we'd had in November but it worked out well as he was able to reassure us that all really was well grin

The strange thing is its now made me realise how much I wasn't letting myself enjoy/get excited about being pregnant - I'm finding myself having to remind myself that all's ok & that I can start to look forward to the coming months.

TobyLerone Wed 01-May-13 18:15:37

Excellent smile

I know what you mean about not letting yourself enjoy it. Hope you can now smile

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