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Anyone else thinking how to manage with a toddler/preschooler and newborn after a c-section?

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moremintsliceplease Sat 20-Apr-13 15:29:47

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PseudoBadger Sat 20-Apr-13 16:01:08

Snap! I can't post right now but will be back

shelley72 Sat 20-Apr-13 16:16:53

ok. i had an ELCS for DD when my DS was 2.9. i do remember having the same panics as you. as it was - i was in hospital overnight. he was at nursery whilst i had DD, my mother collected him and brought him in to see me as soon as he had been fed. he stayed until 9.30ish and then was back in first thing next morning with daddy. i dont think he missed me at all!!!

practically get all the help you can for the first couple of weeks, and your DH being at home will be a huge help. at 2.9 your DS is old enough for you not to need to pick him up - he can climb on sofa to snuggle you and he will understand that mummy has a poorly tummy. DD also fed like a fiend for 2.5 years. we had books, puzzles, colouring, DVDs (he liked/likes dinosaurs so a box set kept us going) or sometimes just snuggled up. i just made sure that when DD wasnt feeding (which tbh was rare) that daddy had her and i had time with DS. they both still need you, just in different ways.

we also made sure that we had trips out to local farm etc just so that he could burn off some energy and so that we had family time esp when DH was at home so that he could drive! it isnt necessarily the 6 weeks of hell that people describe.

i was very worried about sibling jealousy but he adored (and still does --despite the constant bickering--) his baby sister. they are very close - snuggled up in mybed together as i type!

honestly you will be fine. it cant be that bad - 10 weeks and im doing it all again. now im worrying about how im going to manage a 5yo, 3 yo AND a baby grin

good luck and enjoy those snuggles!

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