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Young mums-to-be?(31 Posts)
I'm just new to this so bear with me :P
I was just wondering if there are any young mums-to-be on mumsnet? I'm 18 and recently found out that I'm two months pregnant and I would like to chat to other people in a similar situation.
So... yeah, that's all I have to say.
I'm 21 and 20 weeks pregnant.. Just found out we are having a girl - so excited!
How is you're pregnancy going so far?
Congratulations! I don't know why but I'm totally convinced I'm having a girl - can't wait to find out! Had a wee bit of bleeding around week six but the hospital had me up for an emergency scan and everything's fine
What about yourself?
I was 19when I had my first in now 24 and expecting my third. Anyone had any of the stereotypical young mum comments at all? Congrats to you all
I had no idea but I had alot of people tell me they had an 'instinct' so you might be right! I had an early scan too at 8 weeks because of bleeding - the difference between that (a blob!) and the 12 week scan (like an actual baby) was amazing
I've got 3 friends all my age who had babies last year.. Think there is something in the water!
No comments so far except the sonographer said today "how are you feeling.. You must be really scared because you're so young!" I thought 'no not really' lol! Have you had any?
I had a few comments from my college tutors to the like of "so you're not going to university?" (I have a place in uni for September) and "HOW are you going to cope?!" And when I was getting my scan I was really upset and crying and the sonographer wasn't telling me anything so I asked "does it sob have a heart*sob*beat?" and she said (quite sharply) "OF COURSE it has a heartbeat." Which made me cry more and made my boyfriend burst into tears too haha :P
I really REALLY can't wait for my twelve week scan, I'm booked in and everything already :P
Waynetta, you'll fair have your hands full! Congratulations!!
I'm 18 and due in 2 days! I had the exact same thing at college, but I've been accepted to go to university in September and I can't wait to start! The thing people don't seem to realize is that the degree that I want to do is only three days a week for three hours! They ask 'who's going to look after the baby?' When they know me well enough to know that I have a boyfriend who is already in university who also attends just three days a week on different days to what I will be doing! Sorry for the rant but it really frustrates me that people think I will not cope with university which is soooo much less hours than people who go back to full time jobs and cope!
Oh my god! That's exactly like me! I'm going to uni three days a week, starting September and my boyfriend goes to the same uni for three days too but we can't really work out childcare yet because we don't know my days and he works part time when he's not at uni but wow! What course are you doing? I'm studying to be a nurse and I'll have placements away from home which I'm worrying about with regards to childcare but we'll work something out
Also, congratulations :D do you know what you're having?
Hi, I'll be 19 in June, 27 weeks PG tomorrow, first baby (a girl) with my boyfriend who's 22. I've had all the comments & dirty looks under the sun, working full time at the moment but planning to go to uni in September 2014 to study to become a midwife.
I had my DD when I was 20 and have done a degree alongside having her. People tell you can't, but you can. I've also been a single parent for my final year, so you can do it if you put your mind to it
It's so nice to know I'm not the only one going to attempt a degree with a baby
Congratulations I was 17 when I fell with ny first child, I looked really young for my age so got sniggers n stares and comments but just ignore all that I'm now 22 and 24wk pregnant with my 3rd little boy. Good luck with everything and welcome to the site, you will get plenty of support on here xxx
Congratulations! Im 18 but will be 19 when dd gets here i find its only strangers who make comments, all my friends and family are very supportive
The main thing that we found - which bothered my mum more than me - was people saying 'oh my god how did you react to THAT?!' And shes just like 'er how would you react to becoming a nana?! I was happy!' Xx
I was pregnant at 16 with my first boy, got my own house etc, I had him at 17 split up from his dad soon after he was born and done it all myself I left college and uni to do it and could not be happier, I have a great career as a consultant at 21 and I am 11+5 with my second child, my partner and i are very excited! my first will be 4years old later in the year and I have always had speculation, even when I take him to nursery now I get weird looks ha can't wait until they see my bump!!!
Young mums are no different from older mums and by the time I'm 30 I will have my life back to myself more or less while my old school mates will be just starting their family...
Hope you girls have excellent pregnancies and if you have any questions please ask I love being a young mum and have so much respect for you all!
Oo, another young one here! I've just turned 22 and I'm 32+3 so down to single figures!
I work full time as an assistant building surveyor and I also attend uni doing a surveying degree one day a week.
I'm deferring for a year and taking 12 months maternity too, I actually can't wait.
Had a few judgemental looks because I do look quite young but no one has said anything to me.
I'm a so called young mother too.
I love being a mother. I don't care about age. 40 or 16 that doesn't matter. What does matter is that you're a good parent.
I remember being 20 and pregnant with my first child. I've always looked younger then I really am. Also something that I love.
But people even asked me if it was an accident. People judged me on how old they thought that I was.
People looking at me, staring and someone told me she thought I was to young to be a mother when I was pregnant.
People totally don't understand how insensitive they are. How stupid it's to look down at someone, just because of their age.
In human history we ladies have been getting married around the age of 15 and between that and the age of 20 we got our first child.
At that time people treated you badly if you were an unmarried mother.
In the past it was the church that made people treat each other so badly. Now it's the media that makes people believe that a teenage mum can't be a good mum.
Or your life is over when you become a young parent!??!?!
Or not being able to pay for the child.
Does a baby need to have a bedroom full of the most expensive stuff?
My husband is 15 years older then me. He never got any of those comments.
Even some friends I had thought he was the one doing the house and taking care of the child, because how was I able to do that at my age?
As you can imagine these are now my ex friends. Never see them anymore!
My husband worked full time.
So who did clean the house, looked after the baby and everything? That was me afcourse!!! Idiots.
I was a stay at home mum. Something we both decided. We rather had less money and one of us staying with the baby then more money, both working and someone else looking after our child.
Some people thought that I was lazy, because I was a stay at home mum?
We believe that every parent must make their own choices and ours was that I stayed at home. But if someone else thinks it's better to work and have more money.
I would never judge them. Nothing wrong with either way, but why can't these people respect our choice?
How stupid can they be to judge someone else, simply because they aren't like them?
We wanted to have a second child quickly after the first one. We're happy that after a year I was pregnant again.
One of my friends said to me:
Again? Don't you know how to use a condom?
That was another friend I said goodbye to.
Not much later she called me.
She got pregnant by accident with her boyfriend!!!
I was supportive to her. I'm not the kind of person who would be horrible to someone, because that person was horrible to me.
But in my mind I thought:
Don't you know how to use a condom, bitch!
Every parent needs a thick skin, because of all the comments that we get. But especially when you look younger you do need an extra thick skin.
The problem is with these idiots and not with us ladies! Judge a parent on their parenting skills and not on their age, wealth, what they're or how they look.
I'm 18 and due my first in November
Im 18 due in December, first little girl! There's been some strange comments from people:
"Oh well....these things happen I suppose"
Yes they do, and my very much wanted baby did happen by some miracle.
Im 21.. Be 22 when dd is here.. due 21st December
When I spoke to my midwife when in was worried. As I thought I was too young to be a mum she said that she find that younger people cope with pregnancy and labour alot better than older people
Like someone said we will all have our life back in 16 years or so and we will still be young enough to do what we want
My Dr did ask me 'and where's the father!?' I said ' well at the moment he's at work but we are a couple and we do live together if that's what you're implying' bloody cheek!
I was 18 when I got pregnant with my first. Just turned 19 when I had him.
Then I was 21 when I had my second
And 25 when I had my third.
I'm now 26 with a 7yo, 4yo and 8mo
I love being a young mum! It rocks!
Oh and everything we have brought so far for baby has all been good quality second hand... No way I'm paying £140 for a cot bed.. Got one second hand for £40 bargain.
The most expensive thing we bought was the 9 in 1 mummas and puppas pram etc £1000 got it for £300!
I was 18 when I had my first born but 17 when I got pregnant. I'm now 23 and PG with #5 & #6.
I had every name thrown at me for being a teen mama and was labelled by midwifed and "supposed" friends as another government satistic. Why is totally hurtful especially when they haven't a clue of what you're going through or how hurtful their words are.
My son (firstborn) was planned - as in we weren't using condoms (our only birth control) and if it happens, it happens. And it did.
I'm married to the father of all my DC and we're doing great, I worked during my PG and have continued work (except from year off with every DC birth), I now work from home to raise them and earn a living. It's a big middle finger to those people who judge young mums on age not by their actions. Age has nothing to do with being a good mum. Their our babies not a figure on someone's stupid poll.
Wow, I'm hormonal today!
I'm 24 in two weeks and 38 weeks pregnant with my 2nd :D
I was 18 when I fell with my 1st bundle of joy, and had everything sinical and snotty said to me under the sun!
I didn't take any comment personally as I knew what I wanted and that I would be a good mother, I also worked and went to college whilst being a full time parent at a young age, and I did it with everyone telling me I couldn't all because of my age!
Now I am pregnant with my second people keep asking If I will cope and my answer is always the same
A mothers love for their children is unconditional and I would do anything for them so YES! I will cope perfectly fine thankyou
Sorry rant over
Hope everyones pregnancies go well
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