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really pissed off with midwife

(41 Posts)
ditsydoll Thu 18-Apr-13 09:43:32

Just had a mw appointment and when she did thebabys heart rate she asked if we knew what we where having, I said no as we wanted a surprise and she told me it's a girl's heart rate. Does she not get the word surprise!
How reliable is heart rate for sexing? I'm feeling really miffed at her for even hinting at a certain sex.

HolidayArmadillo Thu 18-Apr-13 15:07:06

I think you're being a bit silly, the midwife has just made a guess based on absolutely nothing definitive, I bet other people have speculated on the sex and you haven't been this annoyed. She's got a 50/50 chance of being right, the same as everyone else.

rrreow Thu 18-Apr-13 15:10:14

Old wives tale. There's a 50% chance she got it right.

HullMum Thu 18-Apr-13 15:42:51

She's a midwife. She knows that's just an old wives tale and sharing in the guessing and surprise with you. Feel bad for midwifes they can't win.

ditsydoll Thu 18-Apr-13 16:11:19

If she had said it was just a guess I wouldn't have been upset. I had no idea it was just an old wives tale.
She said "Do you know what your having"?, to which I replied "no we want a surprise" she then Said "it's a girl's heart rate" so I had just assumed there was some way of her actually knowing.
She didn't say it in a kind of oh well you know what they say about higher heart rates light hearted manner she said it quite plainly.

isambardo Thu 18-Apr-13 16:40:05

When my midwife said this I wondered if she had some insight into these old wives tales, but I think they just enjoy guessing as much as the rest of us.
In hospital I was told it was a girl's heartbeat but a few hours later it was definitely a boy that arrived smile

Wishfulmakeupping Thu 18-Apr-13 16:41:36

It's not reliable at all I know at least 2 people who were told the opposite of what they had

MisForMumNotMaid Thu 18-Apr-13 17:03:15

My DD was meant to be a boy by heart rate and time of conception to ovulation wives tales. After two boys statistically she should have been a boy too.

She's the most girly girl I know, I'm not girly.

It's sad that this midwife caused distress by talking about and old wife's tale like it was fact.

SourSweets Thu 18-Apr-13 19:02:31

Total guess, my midwife said she thought I wa having a boy as he was very awkward and kept kicking the Doppler away. Turns out she was right, but she had a 50/50 chance! Sounds like an offhand comment to me, ignore it!

WitchOfEndor Thu 18-Apr-13 19:04:14

We were told that our babies heartbeat was most likely a girl. He wasn't!

PurpleStorm Thu 18-Apr-13 23:52:41

The midwife is talking nonsense. It's not possible to tell an unborn baby's gender from their heartrate.

And I totally agree that the midwife should not have been making guesses about the gender after you'd said that you wanted a surprise, regardless of how reliable or otherwise her method of guessing is.

HolidayArmadillo Fri 19-Apr-13 16:16:38

"And I totally agree that the midwife should not have been making guesses about the gender after you'd said that you wanted a surprise, regardless of how reliable or otherwise her method of guessing is."

I actual think this is one of the most precious things I've ever read on Mumsnet.

it's bollocks old wives tales. like people who guess based on how sick you were or the shape of your bump. ignore

ginmakesitallok Fri 19-Apr-13 16:26:33

At one antenatal check with dd2 a medical student was there. First he spent ages finding her heartbeat, when he did he said he thought something was wrong, it was the cord he'd found. Then he had a good feel, went a bit white and told mW he wanted a word in private. I was terrified, until I heard the mW say, "no, she definitely DOES have a head..."

RosinaCopper Fri 19-Apr-13 16:41:40

Sorry - have only read the OP, but wanted to say that my (very experienced) midwife told me that she thought my twins were b/g and when I said that we'd been told they were identical boys at the scan said 'scans aren't always right, you know!' And guess what - I have identical twin boys.

(so guessing based on a heartrate is sooo accurate, then!)

Rowboat Fri 19-Apr-13 21:35:20

Its a load of rubbish. First time my midwife did the heart beat it was a "boy" one, the second a "girl" one. It depends whether you are hearing directly from baby (galloping horse) or through the cord (train - the whooshing being blood rushing through the cord). I had a girl by the way.

378 Sat 20-Apr-13 13:57:12

My obstetrician and midwife both told me it was complete rubbish. Also, my DC and the bump both had exactly the same heart rate as each other - one is a girl and one is a boy!

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