15 weeks and not 'feeling' pregnant anymore :-(

[MissyTJ]

I'm hoping someone else can understand what I mean by this, I feel really sad and bit scared today. I saw my beautiful baby on my scan a few weeks ago and heard his/her heartbeat, and felt elated for a while but in the last 2 weeks all my symptoms have gone - no nausea, boobs seem to have deflated, no tenderness, no tummy cramps or twinges, and where I thought I was starting to get a bit of a hard bump, I just have a very flabby belly. I can't believe how emotional this is making me, I'm really scared. People keep saying 'oh its normal, the placenta is taking over' but I feel useless and also convinced this is not right. I also feel almost depressed at how fat my belly is when there is clearly no need, when the baby is only the size of a lemon...Does anyone else feel like this? The only thing I seem to have is horrific heartburn, which could be from me eating like a horse because I'm so nervous all the time. I've already gained about 7 pounds which is also making me miserable since allegedly I'm not even supposed to have gained 4 pounds yet....sorry to moan, I really hope you don't all think I'm ungrateful, its only because I know how precious this baby is that I'm going a bit mad I think, and the weight gain thing is just an add on.

I'm sure in a few weeks the bump will pop out and once I feel the baby moving I will know all is ok, but if anyone else due in October is feeling like this, please let me know I'm not going mad! Hope you're all doing well xxx

[Guntie]

I felt the same way at the same time... I really think it is normal. Although I know it is very worrying. I am 31 weeks now.. It wont be long before you feel really pregnant

[TheCatInTheHairnet]

Completely normal. I didnt likd the teen weeks of being pg as i didnt feel as if I was. It wasn't until the start of a bump and feeling the baby kicking, I would relax again.

Good luck and congratulations!

[BabyHMummy]

It is probably just the placenta taking over hun but if you are really worried then ring ur antenatal clinic and ask them to run a check on you. Hope you are ok

[MamaWren]

I'm 17 weeks with my 2nd and also don't feel pregnant. I've started to feel the odd wriggle though so pretty sure all is well. Not sure much will properly reassure me before the next scan, but I'm trying not to worry. Sure I felt like this the first time too. Try and relax and enjoy your pregnancy.

[Rockchick1984]

Most midwives will listen for the heartbeat at 16 weeks - it's amazing to hear it for the first time and also so reassuring!

Don't worry too much re baby weight - when I had DS I'd gained over 2 stone by 20 weeks and managed to lose it all eventually after the birth with only a little effort. If I had bothered to diet or exercise I'd have lost it pretty quickly!

[MissyTJ]

Thanks everyone, knowing people further on/with kids felt the same way is reassuring, and hi mamawren, glad you're starting to feel things. It must really help.
I have a midwife appointment next wednesday so maybe she can try and listen to the heartbeat? That's all I really need, to hear that little noise again!

Thanks babyHMummy, I do worry about 'bothering' the clinic when they probably have actual emergencies, not just some paranoid first time mum. I've had no bleeding or severe pains so I will try to have faith. It's so SO nice to have the mumsnet peeps to just pat you on the head when you're panicking and say 'you're alright'.

Thanks guys, I was feeling rather emotional sat at my desk, but feel a bit more able to breathe again now! Might go for a walk in the sunshine. xxx

[BabyHMummy]

Hun they would rather you bother them and there be nothing wrong than you sit at home and risk something being serious. Ringing them for advice won't hurt and will help reassure you. Alt ring ur GP and see when mw is available to check for heartbeat

[SeriousStuff]

Definitely normal - I'm 14+3 today and I keep forgetting I'm pg! For 6 weeks I had terrible nausea and was having to nap for 3 hours at a time during the day because I was exhausted.

This all stopped 2 weeks ago and since then (apart from a stinking cold) I feel absolutely 'normal'.

The only thing I have is a thick waist and what is developing into a paunch. It's completely understandable for you to worry and the 20 week scan seems so far away! But I think but this stage, you would know if something was wrong.

But, if it still worries you, do call the MW as they're there to reassure you.

[MissyTJ]

Thanks BabyH, I do feel like I want to do that, I do feel a bit funny. Thank you. xx

[june2013]

All my symptoms went at about 10 weeks and nothing happened again til after 20 weeks. I also worried quite a bit. Also my pre-pregnant belly flab just seemed to be pushed forward, so I was getting bigger around the waste but it was definitely not a bump! That said I was showing quite early relatively, I think. Definitely around 20weeks.

But now I'm 31 weeks and all is well!

Have you checked out the antenatal thread for October? It's under the same head as the pregnancy one. I find them really supportive and always find lots of people going through the same stuff.

Also midwives and GPs are great and mine have never made me feel like I was worrying for nothing or bothering them for nothing...

Good luck & take care x

[BabyHMummy]

How you doing missy

[MissyTJ]

I'm ok today thanks, I feel very re-assured by all of you! Plus by the end of yesterday my tummy was a bitharder again.
I think I'm just at a funny stage and it will get better! Thanks so much again all of you :) xx

[MissyTJ]

*bit harder! Lol!

[PenelopeLane]

I'm 15+6 and don't feel pregnant either! After a couple of months of being ill, I am ashamed to say days can pass at this stage where I almost forget I'm pregnant

[harleyd]

i think its pretty normal for symptoms to come and go, i had a few weeks feeling great before sickness and sore boobs came back again, now ive no symptoms except a huge bump and wriggling baby
if you are still really worried then ring your midwife for reassurance

[HeffalumpTheFlump]

I'm 14+3 and like seriousstuff I keep forgetting I'm pregnant! Then it all comes back and I'm like 'holy crap there's a baby in my belly!' so I think it's pretty normal to not feel pregnant at this stage. Also when I went to my 12 week scan my symptoms were really dying down and i worried myself silly that something was wrong. The doctor asked me if I had had any pain or bleeding at all and I hadn't and he said why on earth are you worrying then?? He also told me that babies are very resilient so I've tried to keep that in mind when i start to worry. And about the weight, your baby may only be the size of a lemon but your uterus is the size of a large grapefruit!! It would be odd if your belly wasn't growing! I'm really trying to be proud of my flabby belly because something amazing is happening inside it. I know it isn't easy though. Hope ur ok :)

[Annie082]

Hi @MissyTJ,
Was everything ok for you after this? I am currently 15 weeks pregnant and am going through the same thing. This is my second baby and i felt sick for about 26 weeks on my first but the sickness has gone away and im so worried i dont feel pregnant :(

[Unexpectedpregnancy33]

I'm roughly 7+5 weeks and I had really bad nausea until today when I am SO hungry I could eat a house! I'm still waiting for my first midwife apt so need reassurance. Still have sore boobs and get tired but apart from that nothing. Am I being silly?!

[ChantelleCutie19x]

i feel like i have a bump am also 15 weeks 5 days #1st Baby i keep feeling like popping feelings on the left side of my belly but above my belly button anyone else getting this? getting abit stressed trying to wounder what it could be any ideas?

[momma0105]

hi, I feel the same exact same and posted a chat similar to this today.
I am 18 weeks pregnant, had no symptoms of pregnancy, no sickness, no pains no bump and I forget I'm pregnant and finding it hard to emotionally attach myself to the baby inside of me. I am also due in October.

I feel so un maternal to my baby because I don't feel pregnant at all.

[ChantelleCutie19x]

ive had sickness a few times its not gas but just little poping noises that i can also hear really loud when i lay down i can feel my belly hard at the bottom but doesnt feel like a bump :/ just want that baby bump to hurry cause i really dont feel pregnant atall

[Leavesandburies]

The baby may be only a lemon but you've also got a big placenta and amniotic fluid in there too! So of course it takes up space!

[EnoughAlready999]

Momma0105 I felt exactly like you especially as my baby wasn't planned. My bump wasn't obvious until about 25 weeks either! I had my baby in October last year and love her to bits. (Just reading these posts to reminisce!)

[EnoughAlready999]

I was only thinking yesterday that it'd be so useful if you could fast forward to quickly meet your baby then go back. I felt very distant from my baby.

[SnapAttack]

Totally normal haha. I am 19 weeks now and fibally feeling some movements but from 16 to 18 weeks I was really unsure.

This is in spite of having hyperemesis and havibg a big bump haha. But same thing with just not feeling pregnant any more amd bump was softer etc.

Have scan next week and really nervous but the few flutters have helped a bit