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can anyone actually describe what pushing a baby out feel like

(57 Posts)
stephbecominglittler Tue 09-Apr-13 21:47:10

Hi title says it all realy but can amyone pls describe what pushimg and crowning feels like very anxious to no xx

2Labradors Fri 12-Apr-13 23:10:21

I've heard that you can have post labour amnesia and I think that's what I had with my DS ( my 2nd pregnancy). First time I had epidural and forceps and didn't feel anything really (until the epidural wore off).

With my DS I had gas & air, and I can remember the midwife holding one leg and my DH holding the other but I don't remember pain as he came out. I remember the labour pains but when I actually gave birth I really can't remember any pain.

It is the most amazing moment in life though.

I needed only 4 stitches with DS. I'm hoping that its not amnesia at all and that it really doesn't hurt, as I'm doing it all again later this year wink

TooYappy Wed 10-Apr-13 16:09:09

Like pushing a football out your bottom, by this time the pains are better as they are pushing pains (if you get them I didn't with DS2 so just pushed randomly).

The worst part it the skin around vagina stretching grin It's all good though, 5 mins later (ish) you have a baby, it's the pain before the pushing pain you want to be worrying about, it's agony but I somehow managed it with no pain relief at all.

glorious Wed 10-Apr-13 16:04:54

Pushing was the hardest physical effort I've ever made and felt like you'd imagine except nothing down below. I didn't feel crowning or my tear (and wasn't using any pain relief at the time). I may just have been too exhausted! So it looks like it varies a lot.

plantsitter Wed 10-Apr-13 13:46:33

Crowning stings like a bastard, but you know it will be over at some point because you know that a head turns into a neck if you see what I mean. Then the pain is all worth while because the relief when it stops is the best feeling IN THE WORLD. Oh yeah and having the baby ;)

Its a build up of pressure and pain. Someone had told me your know your nearly there when the sounds you make sound primevil. I told the midwife at one stage I wanted to push but she told me no. Then a little while later my body knid of took over I started screaming/straining in a very low gutteral tone, I didn't even realise I was pushing with the contractions. It hurt but part of it was enjoyable, its hard to discribe, I want to say its similar to the feeling of sex, but obviously different.
I'm 11 weeks pg now and kind of looking forward to the birth, I want to know if that enjoyable feeling was real or not.

AmandaPayneAteTooMuchChocolate Wed 10-Apr-13 12:56:27

Ha ha Starlight. I posted that on a thread the other day too. Great minds grin

PickledInAPearTree Wed 10-Apr-13 12:50:23

Starlight that's brilliant.

skratta Wed 10-Apr-13 00:49:59

I don't know how to explain it but you know when you poo something big...and afterwards there's kind of like a relief (yep...had constipation recently...TMI) well, that's it...

Like pushing out a pumpkin. Like sore and hurting but you can't stop it exactly and I was too drugged out and hazy tbh.

Gorjuss Wed 10-Apr-13 00:43:41

Like passing a red hot bowling ball that's covered in sandpaper. But it only lasts a second. X

Fakebook Wed 10-Apr-13 00:29:32

It's like doing a big poo and then this sore feeling like someone has battered your vagina as the head comes out. But I felt a strange relief whilst the baby's head was coming out too. I can't explain it. Like the head coming out was satisfying my urge to push. But that was my second baby so I was already quite stretched. Dc1 was born with an epidural so I felt nothing when she was coming out. I also had second degree tears with both.

willyoulistentome Tue 09-Apr-13 23:20:03

Epidural!!!!!!

JassyRadlett Tue 09-Apr-13 23:14:40

My mother likened it to trying to poo a watermelon. Sounds about right to me.

Pushing for me was much, much better than 5-10cm. Completely manageable.

Xmasbaby11 Tue 09-Apr-13 23:05:22

Like period pains times a million. It's pretty awful to be honest. Don't hesitate to get pain relief if you're struggling. You can still feel to push with an epidural.

Not everyone feels that amazing surge when they give birth, so don't think you're weird if you don't. It can take a while to bond, and for the pain to subside!

This is an illustrative video of contraction experience

Though they didn't do the crowning I think you can understand why the crowing is at that point, not big deal.

cupcake78 Tue 09-Apr-13 22:19:05

I also remember thinking it can't be right as I felt like I was pooing my insides out not pushing out a baby.

Crowning stings and is hot but you just know there is only one way for it to end and your body just does it.

My head screamed no but my body just rid it! Such a relief when its over!

PickledInAPearTree Tue 09-Apr-13 22:17:56

I lay on my front flat and refused to move - what an idiot!

Quak Tue 09-Apr-13 22:17:07

Another vote for staying more upright. I was in a sort of doggy-style position - on my hands and knees. It felt the most natural and comfortable at the time. Early labour was the worst but the contractions got less severe towards the end. Pushing dd out was not that painful from what I can remember through my rose-tinted specs. Just REALLY intense. The sense of relief is what I remember most. She was coming out!
It's different for everyone and I really hope you have a wonderful birth smile

Mumcentreplus Tue 09-Apr-13 22:16:15

Mahoosive poo feeling, stinging pain around the edge of the vagina and major relief afterwards...plus a lovely baby to cuddle while you contemplate if your fanny will ever be the same again grin and tea and toast afterwards...the best tea and toast EVER!

PickledInAPearTree Tue 09-Apr-13 22:15:28

An immense pressure, the sensation of someone inserting something up my bum but not as painful as the transition stage.

I went a bit feral think it was the pressure and the fact the buggers sent me home once and I therefore had only two paracetamol. And I'm a big baby.

emsyj Tue 09-Apr-13 22:11:38

I had a VBAC 9 weeks ago and it was a lot less painful than the c-section recovery!

I would agree with the poster who described the sensation as like the same feeling you get when you're throwing up - but in your fanjo. That convulsive feeling, you can't control it and it just expels the baby. I don't feel that I actively pushed. I was upright if that makes any difference.

I felt a vague hot stingy sensation but I had thought beforehand that it would just be around the opening of the vagina, but it was sort of all of the inside of the whole passage if that makes sense. It wasn't horribly painful or unbearable by any means. It was a strange sensation but not awful - just weird!

EugenesAxe Tue 09-Apr-13 22:08:20

Not really, I can't remember in detail, but it wasn't a trauma for me compared to the first contractions.

I remember really wanting to push for DS, having to force myself to push for DD. You have to pretend you're doing a big poo and get really into it; use all the pelvic floor.

Didn't really notice crowning or tearing, which I did with DS. It was a bit more noticeable that it was happening with DD, but she popped out in a flurry with a 'graze'.

Honestly it's fine and you can't really do much about it, unless you have an emergency caesarean.

LoganMummy Tue 09-Apr-13 22:07:57

Forgot to say - I didn't realise that the contractions continued (although a lot weaker) to deliver the placenta. I was completely out of it and thought I was having another baby that hadn't been picked up in the scans!

sjupes Tue 09-Apr-13 22:07:17

I'm looking forward to giving birth this summer confused this pregnancy lark isn't as much fun third time round - birth was pretty easy for me the last 2 times but even if this time blows i just can't wait to do it so i'm not flippin pregnant anymore nit pissed off about finding loads of new stretch marks this morning. On my bloody back!!

stephbecominglittler Tue 09-Apr-13 22:06:04

Aww thanku so mucb guys really helped me xxxx than u for ur positive comments x

The only part that's unbearable is the point of no return when babies almost out and at that point all your instincts are to push as hard as possible because as soon as baby is out it will be over. And it is smile

Honestly... A tattoo needle on a bony part of you is worse, if you managed to stay still for that you can do pushing a baby out no bother.

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