Im due tips summer and my foreign inlaws will be flying in from a long way away soon after to see the baby.
They are nice people but as I have only got to know them in infrequent short bursts, I find their visits (even when I don't have a baby) quite stressful. I am getting very anxious about the baby visit.
I'm quite a quiet person who enjoys my own company and when they are here it's... intense - they just don't stop talking, they also constantly micro managing how I look after my house and my DH and they always seem to be over my shoulder whem I'm doing anything. I find it very draining.
I saw them once during my pregnancy and they wouldn't keep their hands off my belly, so I can only imagine how much time I'll get to cuddle my baby when they come over once it's arrived.
They are planning to visit after my DH has used up his paternity leave, so it'll just be me, baby and them - 24h/day.
They have said they want to come for 2 weeks but MIL wants to stay on for a month or longer.
I have a history of depression and am at mid risk of postnatal. If I do develop it and am having a tough time early on, I'm so worried that their visit will not only drive me insane but be quite damaging to my early bonding weeks with my baby.
I also have my own mum who I want to spend a lot of precious time with during these early weeks, and it could be more difficult to talk to her if there are always other people in the room. My mum is currently going through chemo and this time will be precious.
But I know that they should and would love to spend as much time as possible with their first grandchild, I just don't know the best way to plan it all without driving myself to dispair.
Any experience or advice would be greatly appreciated!
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How long should my foreign inlaws stay when our first baby arrives?
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Bunnylion · 09/04/2013 08:44
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