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Do you actually enjoy being pregnant?

(111 Posts)
BadLad Wed 27-Mar-13 11:04:15

This question has been on my mind after reading the "Am I being unreasonable to want to be paid for being a surrogate mother" thread. In that thread the original poster said

I want to do it because I love being pregnant, and I love that i am able to help people who are not able to have a baby the traditional way.

The first part of that astounded me. I had always assumed that pregnancy actually felt like a chore, and was tiring and generally made life difficult.

Does it not? Is it actually an enjoyable experience?

We don't have any children, so I can't ask DW.

TakingTheStairs Wed 27-Mar-13 11:05:32

loads of people love being pregnant, just as loads of people have a really tough time with it.

Signet2012 Wed 27-Mar-13 11:06:39

I loved it but apart from spd I didn't have any problems and I managed spd ok because it's similar pain to I'm used to.

I hate being pregnant. Felt ill each time from around 5 weeks right through to the end. confused
The end product makes my suffering worthwhile though. I plan to do it again soon.

Dannilion Wed 27-Mar-13 11:42:39

Nope, hate it.

38+5 with DC1 and plan on getting another dog next time.

Haylebop12 Wed 27-Mar-13 11:45:34

I also hate it. I'm so grateful to be preg but my god I cannot wait for it to end. HG and generally feeling shite ALL the time is really exhausting! And I've got 29 weeks to go!

RJM17 Wed 27-Mar-13 11:48:05

I am not enjoying it yet! I am 7 weeks and so far have just felt ill and stressed and worried all the time!! Hoping I will start to enjoy it but so far no!!

Umlauf Wed 27-Mar-13 11:48:25

I really hate it. I feel so ashamed for doing so. I feel fat and disgusting, my back frickin KILLS, all the weight I lost for my wedding is now back with a vengeance. Throwingnup all the time, work with awful men who dont get it at all, live in a country i dont speak the language so cant communicate with my doctors properly. I've never done this before so I don't even know whether it will even be worth it in the end. Never doing it again either!

catlover83 Wed 27-Mar-13 11:48:30

Hate it hate it. (I like babies).

I don't think even if my nearest and dearest asked would I be a surrogate. I struggle to do it for myself. Can't wait to get to the stage in my life when I can say 'never again'. I'd love it if men could do it.

I have met those who bloom though. I can't help but secretly nurture a grudge against them, even when they are lovely people.

janey1234 Wed 27-Mar-13 11:49:53

Hmm, am only 25 weeks so is very early days but feel relatively indifferent to it (although not indifferent to the baby, of course!). Apart from the constant worry about things going wrong (due to lack of symptoms) it's been luckily pretty easy. Now I can feel the baby moving I'm actually quite enjoying it. However, I have an impending sense of doom that it's all going to get much, much tougher. And can't even bring myself to think about childbirth!!

LemonPeculiarJones Wed 27-Mar-13 11:50:04

Mixed feelings here. Sort of love it (the knowledge of the baby miraculously growing inside you, the excitement, the feeling of something really special happening) but hate the fatigue, the emotional dips, the discomfort, the fear of birth.

Is really strange and surreal.

willyoulistentome Wed 27-Mar-13 11:51:38

I hated the 1st 3 months ( sick!) loved the next three ( little kicks - able to have tummy sticking out and not be judged for being fat) hated the last three ( BIG painful kicks and karate chops to bladder, immobility, lack of sleep, knackered)

hotcrosbum Wed 27-Mar-13 11:52:56

I hate every second. Some women bloom when pregnant. I look like Mr Blobby on crack.

I feel fat, sick, useless, tired, stressed. I could never be a surrogate, the only upside for me is the baby at the end of nine months of sheer hell.

I am only 7 weeks gone with dc2. Its taken me 11 years to do it again, am dreading every second until when I am due in November.

ButteryJam Wed 27-Mar-13 11:53:01

No.

flipflump Wed 27-Mar-13 11:54:23

At 16 weeks, I'm now loving it, ask me again at 30 and it might be a different story!! I hated the first trimester and feeling rough every single day.

anklebitersmum Wed 27-Mar-13 11:57:34

Loved being pregnant. Not so keen on the stingy bit at the end of the 40 weeks though wink

AngryGnome Wed 27-Mar-13 11:59:38

Hated being pregnant, constantly ill, knackered, exhausted and at the end of it you have to give birth. It completely sucks.

cogitosum Wed 27-Mar-13 12:04:07

I've loved it so far (25 weeks) but acknowledge that I've been really lucky in that I#ve had no morning sickness (just a little bit of nausea at the beginning) I've quite enjoyed the tiredness as getting into bed at the end of the day feels so lovely and I LOVE LOVE LOVE the kicks! smile

EuroShaggleton Wed 27-Mar-13 12:08:13

I only made it to 8 weeks before I mc'd, but I absolutely loved those weeks. After more than 2 years of ttc I finally felt like a member of a very special club. I loved feeling the symptoms I had and the idea of growing a life. I might have felt different towards the end but right now I have some baby chub without the baby - all of the downsides with none of the upsides. Meh.

PandaWatch Wed 27-Mar-13 12:10:35

All the positives about pregnancy, for me, relate to the fact that our much wanted baby is growing inside me (the excitement of feeling the first kicks, knowing that me growing means our baby is getting bigger and stronger etc). I CANNOT imagine going through pregnancy in the full knowledge that I definitely won't have our baby at the end of it, unless I had a really good reason (like acting as a surrogate for a loved one).

I think women who are willing to act as surrogates for strangers are wonderful, selfless people!

hotcrosbum Wed 27-Mar-13 12:10:56

Euro - I am so sorry to hear that. Feel like a cow for moaning now.

GwennieF Wed 27-Mar-13 12:12:05

I loved it both times, but I was very lucky - had no morning sickness, loads of energy, great skin and hair.... And I adored feeling DS and DD wriggling around inside me - I even missed it a little once they were out...

Guntie Wed 27-Mar-13 12:14:40

I LOVE IT! Yes it has been a bit tough with feeling sick the first trimester and new bodily complaints but I still love it so much. I am obviously thrilled to meet my baby in a few months but I am looking forward to doing it again. I feel like it is the most amazing and incredible thing.

Gahhhh!

dinkystinky Wed 27-Mar-13 12:15:11

I love being pregnant - yes I find it hard, tiring, limiting etc but also really love seeing the changes in my body and feeling the new life growing in me. It brings out the hidden lentil weaver in me...

RubyrooUK Wed 27-Mar-13 12:17:06

Mixed feelings. Love the amazing feeling of a baby kicking you (although that always sounds gross to me when not pregnant). There is a weird nurturing feeling I get when pregnant when I'm generating a new life. That's pretty cool.

Hate the nausea, sickness and not having clothes that fit properly on an alien body. And my sudden devotion to bread. And hate heartburn, tiredness, less mobility etc.

But all in all, a pretty good swap for a baby. I wouldn't be a surrogate though as for me, pregnancy is something I do to have children and I prefer not being pregnant overall!

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