I'm 33 weeks pregnant with our first baby, and am SO LUCKY. Everything important has been going well - conceiving was easy, health has been great, baby appears to be a perfectly average healthy model, and I have a loving, supportive partner with a steady job who is much better at housework than me, is excited about the baby, and we're communicating well whenever something is not perfect. I promise I know how lucky I am.
I'm also feeling totally feckless and panicky about money. We both want (and planned) this baby, but what we DIDN'T do is plan for it financially. I'm self-employed and have had hardly any work for the last couple of months - before I got pregnant, I was earning about the same as my partner, and we got by. Obviously now I'm earning much less and we have more expenses (including all the rising bills, food & rent everyone's struggling with). We are already getting to crisis point and the baby's not even here yet - and soon there will be childcare to worry about! We are both struggling with the guilt of having thought 'oh it'll all be OK, people work this stuff out' beforehand, and now suddenly feeling like we're bringing a baby into the world that we can't provide for.
Don't know what I'm asking for here really - just support on the emotional side I think. We're working on the practical side and I know there are so many people who are worse off and coping. But I can't stop feeling guilty about what an irresponsible idiot I've been and it's making me tearful and even more useless. Anyone felt the same? Everyone? x
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AuntyDiluvian · 19/03/2013 10:06
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