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Happy stories following mc please

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Discolite Mon 04-Feb-13 22:53:15

MMC at ten weeks last March. Conceived again the third cycle after the MMC. Now 35 weeks pregnant and the baby is due in March!

The MMC was the worst thing that has ever happened to me and took a long time to get over (still not quite there I think). I will never forget hearing the heartbeat of this baby at the 12 week scan.

I wish you luck OP.

Springforward Mon 04-Feb-13 22:39:29

Also agree with the PP about the early knowledge these days and especially the tests which don't require you to wait until your period is due. Same GP also pointed out to me that in my mother's era, a 6-week pregnancy had a very good chance of going undetected, and that the medicalisation of early miscarriage can sometimes be unhelpful emotionally, as it's so remarkably common in otherwise healthy and fertile women as to be pretty much normal but still has to be grieved for once the loss is known.

(I'm making him sound awful - he's a fab GP, just rather honest!)

Springforward Mon 04-Feb-13 22:31:55

Me: DS, MC 6 wks, MC 6 wks, currently 20-odd weeks and all is looking good.

My friend: MC, MC, DS1 (at age 38), MC, MC, MC, DS2 (at age 42).

My GP was very matter of fact with me (which suited me - others might have found him a bit blunt I guess, so sorry in advance if this comes across that way, it's not my intention to offend) and told me that it can be a case of keeping going until one is viable. Doesn't make the grief any easier to bear though - I'm sorry for your loss.

Ninjacat Mon 04-Feb-13 22:28:27

37+3 after ectopic.

Fingers crossed for you.

Pontouf Mon 04-Feb-13 22:15:34

I lost my first at ten weeks - mmc. Went on to get pregnant with DS 3 months later, started trying for number two and mcd at 6 weeks in March last year. Am now 31+2 with DC2. Wishing you all the luck in the world. I know how should destroying it can be. You put one mc down to being bad luck and just a very sad situation. Not meant to be etc. Then when it happens again it starts to leave doubt in your mind. It is so so common though and you never really know that until it happens to you because people don't talk about it. I'm sure you will get our DC2, just keep going smile hope you're ok.

Whydobabiescry Mon 04-Feb-13 17:50:54

Sorry to hear that you've had a mc.

I have 2 dc's and after DS was born I had 4 mc's, we basically gave up after that as it was so traumatic, especially as I haemorrhaged after one of them. Then out of the blue I found myself pg and very very apprehensive and totally terrified. We had great care from our hospital and after each early scan we were amazed that things were ok, and now we have an adorable 6 mo dd who we never ever thought we'd see. smile

Moominlandmidwinter Mon 04-Feb-13 17:41:31

I had DD1, DD2, CP, CP, DD3, CP then a horrible MMC, baby died at 7.5 weeks, didn't find out til I should have been 13 weeks. Had an ERPC, then had retained products, which eventually came out of their own accord. Just after this, I got pregnant again, and was terrified, especially as I was sent for early scans, but nothing was seen except for a suspicious-looking area near my ovary, which they thought could be an ectopic pregnancy. Thankfully, my baby was finally visible at the seven week scan, and she's now 4 months and smiling at me from her activity mat.

Hope all works out for you. x

lovethesun1 Mon 04-Feb-13 16:25:19

I'm so sorry this has happened to you. I had one dc, then 1 Mc at 8wks, 1 Mc at 5wks and am now currently 29wks pg. I do think its more common for this to happen than I realised,but hey,its still crap. Be v kind to yourself smile

AmandaPayne Mon 04-Feb-13 16:20:32

I have had DD, MC, DD, MC.

How early was it? Both mine were at or pre the 8 week mark. I do think that maybe early testing kits add to the pain in these situations. A generation ago we'd have been wondering if we were pregnant, then when our 'period' turned up thinking it must have just been a missed period. Sadly, statistically, those early miscarriages are so common that the majority of women will have one or more in a childbearing history.

Doesn't make it any easier to deal with though.

Lotta1234 Mon 04-Feb-13 16:14:48

Am really sorry for your loss. I had a mmc with my first pregnancy and it can still make me cry today. I have a friend that had multiple miscarriages after having two boys and then finally had a girl. Fingers crossed for you.

gemdrop84 Mon 04-Feb-13 15:20:06

Im really sorry for your losses, it's awful thing to go through. When dd turned 2 we decided to try for 2nd dc. Unfortunately I have suffered 3 mcs over 2 years, last one was January last year...was already to give up but we had a happy ending-after deciding to stop trying and no positive pg tests I finally got a bfp in may and gave birth to a handsome baby boy last Tuesday! Best wishes to you, understand how difficult it is.

CountryCupcakes Mon 04-Feb-13 14:28:23

im so sorry for ur losses. i have 2dd and am due to be induced with dd3 tomorrow being 10 days overdue. i mc in feb last year and again at the very end of march. we fell pg again the beginning of may and here we r now. it took me a long time to get over the mcs even being pg again quickly. be kind to urself and it will happen. goodluck!

Lifesfinebalence Mon 04-Feb-13 13:37:48

Thanks ladies. I am scared to wish for a happy ending and scared of the thought of trying again at the moment. I very much appreciate my little one so much more now and she is giving me strength to get through it. It's just hard getting knocked down again after having hope. Glad there is some light at the end.

I had a mmc in 2010 at 12 weeks, I didn't even want to ever think of having any more babies after that. I fell pregnant after a lovely boozy holiday 3 months later and our dd is 20 months, and now 26 weeks with dd2. I just found that being more relaxed about it all and by focusing too much on trying it worked both times. Both pregnancies I have worried the whole way through but think thats always gonna be the case if you have lost before.

shelley72 Mon 04-Feb-13 13:05:12

So sorry for your loss.

I had a MC after DS when trying for DC2. it nearly broke me. i honestly thought that i would only ever have DS and it made me really really sad (though he is completely fab). Had to have an ERPC and was advised not to TTC for three months after that (probably for my sanity rather than health reasons). Fell pg with DD on first month of trying. Had a v anxious few weeks waiting for 12 wk scan (they wouldnt scan me early) and luckily all was fine. She is now 2.8 and very lively. I am pg now with DC3 and whilst that fear of something going wrong still hasnt left me, all seems well so far.

I think sadly MC is far more common than we realise, but lots come out the other side. Good luck and I hope you can share your happy story soon.

BusyTiredAndLoveIt Mon 04-Feb-13 12:55:47

Mc, dc, mc, dc, dc for me

Fingers crossed you get some good news. Be good to yourself, maybe give your body a rest for a couple of months and relax as much as possible x

Jollyb Mon 04-Feb-13 12:53:59

Have a look at the pregnant after miscarriage thread-there are lots of happy stories there. I'm currently 15 weeks pregnant after 3 early MCs. still not confident enough to class myself as a happy story yet but things are looking promising. There is a poster on here called nananaps who has just had a baby after 7 MCs.

Sorry you've had such a difficult time and good luck.

ChildoftheMonkeyBasket Mon 04-Feb-13 12:52:50

I am so sorry for your loss. Be kind and gentle to yourself.

I had 2 MC between my two children, the second one nearly broke me but a year after my first MC I found out I was pregnant again and for me it was third time lucky.

I found the pregnancy extremely stressful but the midwifes and doctors I came into contact with were so supportive and I attended sessions with the woman's health counsellor attached to the hospital I gave birth in. My birth was wonderful, exactly what I wanted and it healed me, but it took 3 very long years getting there.

I hope you have a happy story also, very soon. xx

recall Mon 04-Feb-13 12:50:41

I had a mc at 22 weeks, and the baby actually lived for an hour...we were devastated, it was our first pregnancy. I then went on to have 2 more mc, and was thinking it was never going to happen for me. I now have a 5, 3 and 2 year old, and am very very happy with life. Just grit your teeth, and keep going.....it can be done. ( i had a very early mc in between my 1st and 2nd child at 5 weeks, so 7 pregnancies in 5 years ) You have a child, so you know you can do it, just keep on trying. I wish you the very best of luck too x

Lifesfinebalence Mon 04-Feb-13 12:45:05

Just had 2nd mc (have 2.5 year old already and was trying for no 2). Worrying this is it and looking for some positive stories to give me hope that there could be a 3rd time lucky when I am all sorted.

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