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Please help me with this xx(67 Posts)
I posted on here last week and got some great responses so wondered whether anyone could help me get through this newest development.
I have been quite anxious since getting my BFP - last week I requested another HCG test to make sure my pregnancy was progressing and the results came back that they had increased from 8137 on 14th Jan to 17866 on 30th Jan - the doctor was happy with this and said I was progressing fine. I have booked an early private scan (thinking I was 7 weeks) as I wanted to see the heartbeat for full reassurance which me and DH went to yesterday. When we got there the sonographer couldn't find anything doing and abdominal scan so he did an internal scan and could see the sac and foetus but couldn't detect a heartbeat he gave us a report (he had measured the foetus and it was 8.5mm which he put at 6 weeks 6 days) and some pictures and said to take it to my G.P - he said he was definitely sure it had died and the GP will start the process of removing the foetus from me. I was devastated - in tears and not really taking in what the guy said (thank goodness my DH was there). We phoned the local maternity unit and spoke to a midwife who was lovely - she said they couldn't see me but phoned through to the A&E department asking that they re-do bloods to confirm what the sonographer had said - they did this saying they expect the levels to be the same as 30th Jan or lower but they can back at 20202 - the nurse and doctor were quite shocked and said that either the baby died in the last 2 days and my body hasn't registered it or it was too early to see the heartbeat and the pregnancy may continue normally.
I don't know what to think - I don't want to give up hope but at the same time I don't want to cling to hope that isn't there. I have had no pain or bleeding since my BFP which the doctor said is a good sign. I'm not sure what I am asking really - has anyone been in a similar position or can anyone offer advice?
The doctor simply said go home and don't over do things - either your body will get rid of things naturally or it won't - I know that's all they can say but I am driving myself crazy thinking about things
Sorry it so long - I only meant to write a short post but it seems to have snowballed!, xxx
Really feel for you. This is such a difficult time. Remember to also give yourself time to heal emotionally as well as physically, you are grieving.
I'm so sorry for your loss.
Well done for getting through the night, hopefully the worst is over now, certainly sounds that way. Please remember if you're not sure about what's happening or have questions that you should be able to ring your early pregnancy unit or gynae ward for advice anytime, that's what they're there for.
You're completely right about small steps, just think about today for now and slowly you'll come round a bit & feel a bit less drained and awful. There's always the MN massive here if you need a bit of chat!
I feel for you, it is awful and can be incredibly painful (it was for me).
(hugs), look after yourself x
mummytothearkbuilder - Just wanted to send my condolences and I'm glad your husband is being so supportive. Take care of yourself, and give your DS lots of cuddles, they really do make you feel better (my DS is 2 and gives amazing cuddles ).
Oh I'm so sorry Thinking of you. Please take good care of yourself. We are all here for you.
Thinking of you Mummytothearkbuilder.
It has now come away - I have had the most painful and intense few hours of my life but really think I have got through the worst now. The size of the clots and the pain has really shocked me - it came on so suddenly and once it happened there was no stopping it. I am feeling a strange sense of calm - it maybe that it just hasn't hit me yet - it does all feel very surreal or it may be that there is no more uncertainty anymore and I know where I stand now - who knows either way it has happened now
Thank you all for your amazing support - I can't ever imagine feeling normal again - I have never looked or felt so physically drained in all my life - I guess it's just small steps xx
I have no advice but am thinking of you Mummytothearkbuilder, and wishing you the very best
Thank you ladies - it hasn't all come away - it's still pretty much in tact in there. I have to wait another week to see if it comes away naturally - if not then I will have the op to remove it.
It had grown since last Monday - I am glad it gave it its best chance at growing and feel like it fought hard. It also confirms that the private scan was completely wrong.
I am scared - i thought this week was bad but the worse is still to come - I still have to pass it
Thanks again for all your wonderful support x
Agree with greengoose the bleeding really can vary. Definitely bring your questions with you as it's so hard to remember them all when you get there. Good luck tomorrow.
It varies, but if you've passed clots it should calm down to a heavy period, but for some it stop starts a bit... Sorry I can't give definite answer. If they scan you they will tell you if you have passed everything... But the bleeding can be heavy for a while, with me at your stage usually like a long period that takes a while to properly stop.
I think you should take your list of questions, that's a good idea. Good luck tomorrow. X
The pain has started again and the bleeding is still heavy - how long will the bleeding go on for? Xx
I'm so sorry you're going through this. I've experienced similar and I remember that empty feeling. Just give yourself some time and space to recover physically and emotionally. Your partner sounds lovely, which is great. Hope you can give each other lots of love and support.
Thank you - the pain has been okay today but I am shocked at how heavy the bleeding is - don't know what I was expecting!
I just want to put it all behind me - I know I can rush the physical or emotional process but just don't want to feel this horrible sad emptiness I am feeling xx
Really sorry OP. hope all goes as well as it possibly can given the circumstances.
Thank you, I think it peaked last night as the pain really stepped up. It seems to have eased a bit this morning so I hope I am over the worst of it pain wise.
I am hoping that the EPU will still scan me tomorrow to make sure it has all passed. At least this time tomorrow we will have confirmation of the loss (which will be sad) and we can start planning on moving forward. I have stacks of questions - I might write them all down and ask them tomorrow - do you think that will be okay xx
You really aren't alone.
Hope you're coping ok, as well as you can anyway.
This waiting in limbo is such a difficult time. I know what you mean about needing to be in control but the thing is no matter how much you worry you won't change the outcome so try not to drive yourself crazy worrying.
Praying for your scan to give you positive news.
Thank you ladies - your advice and support is amazing. I have got some painkillers and hubby has dug out the hot water bottle. I'm on my own tomorrow as DH is at work and DS is at nursery (but don't feel truly alone as you guys are there - I know how corny that sounds!) and then the scan on Friday. I am a control freak so after Friday's scan at least I will have a bit of a plan of how we are moving forward (if I need medication / op) and then we can start trying to come to terms with things.
Sorry if I am repeating myself - it helps so much to come on here and write it all down. Thank again to you guys - you are all ace xxx
Are you ok? Is somebody with you? Take some painkillers, even just simple paracetamol will help. The pain stops very quickly once it's over. If you feel like the bleeding is too heavy, the pain is too much or home just isn't the right place for you then ring the gynae ward and tell them you've under the EPAU and they'll bring you in.
Hopefully the worst will be over for you soon, it's a horrible horrible time. A hot water bottle and some painkillers might help a little with the physical side?
If it helps at all, I've MCd three times, and twice I've fallen pregnant again on the next cycle. My MW said that it's really common for that to happen... Your body is an amazing thing, and even although it might not feel like it, it is doing what it needs to, trust that you will get to the other side of this and be able to try again. X
It is horrible, but you will get through it. You may need some good painkillers, I did.
it is horrible. Hope you are ok (as ok as you can be)
Now the clots are appearing - this is horrible
Thank you for all your messages and stories - they really help.
The bleeding is bright red now and getting more camps - trying to stay positive but think this is it
I want to tell you 2 stories.
My mum had a heavy bleed at 6 weeks
Literally all down her legs onto the floor and soaked her undies and pants. She was taken to a normal hospital nearby by ambulance amd they told her the baby had gone in the bleed and booked her in for a d+c. She refused as it wasnt the hospital she was booked at. She got emergency appointment at the specialist maternity hospital and they scanned her and said baby was there and alive!
She has had a few bleeds as there was bleeding around the sac but she has now got a beautiful baby boy to love.
She had blood problems so was put on aspirin. Worth asking about.
2nd I had a period like bleed and 2 small bleeds in first trimester and everything was fine im now nearly 18 weeks
Hope that helped a little x
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