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Please help me with this xx

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Hi guys

I posted on here last week and got some great responses so wondered whether anyone could help me get through this newest development.

I have been quite anxious since getting my BFP - last week I requested another HCG test to make sure my pregnancy was progressing and the results came back that they had increased from 8137 on 14th Jan to 17866 on 30th Jan - the doctor was happy with this and said I was progressing fine. I have booked an early private scan (thinking I was 7 weeks) as I wanted to see the heartbeat for full reassurance which me and DH went to yesterday. When we got there the sonographer couldn't find anything doing and abdominal scan so he did an internal scan and could see the sac and foetus but couldn't detect a heartbeat hmmhe gave us a report (he had measured the foetus and it was 8.5mm which he put at 6 weeks 6 days) and some pictures and said to take it to my G.P - he said he was definitely sure it had died and the GP will start the process of removing the foetus from me. I was devastated - in tears and not really taking in what the guy said (thank goodness my DH was there). We phoned the local maternity unit and spoke to a midwife who was lovely - she said they couldn't see me but phoned through to the A&E department asking that they re-do bloods to confirm what the sonographer had said - they did this saying they expect the levels to be the same as 30th Jan or lower but they can back at 20202 - the nurse and doctor were quite shocked and said that either the baby died in the last 2 days and my body hasn't registered it or it was too early to see the heartbeat and the pregnancy may continue normally.

I don't know what to think - I don't want to give up hope but at the same time I don't want to cling to hope that isn't there. I have had no pain or bleeding since my BFP which the doctor said is a good sign. I'm not sure what I am asking really - has anyone been in a similar position or can anyone offer advice?

The doctor simply said go home and don't over do things - either your body will get rid of things naturally or it won't - I know that's all they can say but I am driving myself crazy thinking about things hmm

Sorry it so long - I only meant to write a short post but it seems to have snowballed!, xxx

GinAndSlimlinePlease Mon 04-Feb-13 15:16:32

I'm so relieved for you! It sounds like your dates could well be off.

So unprofessional of the private clinic. Do complain, they've caused you so much unnecessary stress and upset.

Dexidoo Mon 04-Feb-13 15:22:32

Really pleased things are sounding more positive. Wishing you all the best for a happy next scan x

MaryannM Mon 04-Feb-13 18:27:42

Oh I'm so glad that you got the scan today and that it was not what you were expecting! I hope that the scan in a few weeks will reassure you further, hopefully you will be able to see a heart beat then. Congratulations, and I hope it goes smoothly from here on in.

About your dates, I have irregular and long cycles and the dates given to me were not what I was expecting either, I was about 3 weeks earlier than I would have though. So I suppose was just a very early positive.

Take care of yourself :-) x

Thank you for your replies - I will keep you updated.

MarryannM - thank you that has really reassured me - I must have found out really early too! Its so hard when you have long irregular cycles - it doesn't help that I am a control freak generally and I am totally out of control in this!!

Xx

louise2011 Mon 04-Feb-13 21:00:50

Hi, I had a scan at 6wks + due to heavy bleeding & only a sac was seen. Told to come back in one wk & there was a lovely strong heartbeat! Sending you positive thoughts, smile

NotSoNervous Mon 04-Feb-13 21:06:14

Sorry I have no advice just offering a hand. I do know someone that was in the same situation as you and they found a heart beat a little later on

I really hope this all works out for you and everything is okay xx

elsabel Tue 05-Feb-13 22:09:48

So relieved to hear you had good news, my friend went for an early scan to find she was less far along than she thought (about 5 weeks also) and had a scan 2 weeks later and saw a heartbeat! She is now 17weeks! Hope it was a cruel mix up with the first scan and you have better luck from here xx

WeeS Wed 06-Feb-13 10:43:58

Hello, I'm sorry to hear of your situation, what a worry for you. I just wanted to say that when I went to my GP when I first discovered I was pg he said that the home-testing kits you buy in shops/supermarkets are really sensitive, more so than even the testing that the GP offers! So it may be that you found out really super early.

Just as well you didnt go ahead and ask for any kind of removal procedure - although I think it'd be very unlikely that they would have done that without thoroughly investigating first.

The first 12 wks is always a worry and seems to drag on! I hope the next couple weeks don't drag for you and the outcome is a positive one smile

Keep us updated on how you are. And keep thinking those positive thoughts smile

x

Thanks ladies - 2 days done now and just 10 more to go!! I haven't had anymore brown bleeding or cramps so I am hoping that is a good sign.

I just have no idea what the 1st scan guy saw and thought he was measuring - that is the only thing concerning me - the lady at the EPU said that he hasn't even mentioned a yolk and you always see that before measuring something - I just really hope it turns out he was wrong and inexperienced.

I am waiting until the 2 week scan before contacting the private scan people - hoping for a refund though - the EPU said she would expect them to refund as the info he gave was incorrect - not worrying about that for now though!!

Fingers crossed for a good nights sleep and a quick day 3!!

Xxx

beckie90 Wed 06-Feb-13 19:42:47

I had a scan at 5+4 at that point for me there was no yolk sac visible at all, just a sac. So its maybe possible he simply just didn't see it cause it wasnt big enough to pick up at the certain point, in early pregnancy a couple of days makes a difference to what you can see on a scan (i had transvaginal, still didn't pick up), so he may have jumped to conclusions as my NHS Sonographer did, but the doctor was more reassuring after. I went back at 7+2 and that time there was a little prawn shape with a very visible yolk and heartbeat smile good luck sure it will be fine, sounds posative xx

Thanks beckie90 - that is reassuring. If everything turns out okay and I am really hoping it does, I will definitely be contacting the private scan company as its quite scary to think that he potentially got it so wrong.

This 2 weeks wait is so hard - I feel like our lives are on hold. I daren't be on my own as I don't trust myself and my own thoughts - I start thinking about it and plant a seed in my mind and it just grows - I am my own worst enemy!!

Xx

1 week down and 1 left to do. I have had some brown spotting (only when I wipe after a wee - sorry tmi) and some lower tummy pain but midwife said that could be stretching and implanted blood - fingers crossed.

I have been very up an down all week and have turned into a constant knicker checker. I'm at work for the next 3 days and I will be busy so that should help the time pass quickly and then just the weekend to get through.

No bright red blood or severe cramping so hoping that is a good sign xx

Slainte Mon 11-Feb-13 16:54:40

Hi, delurking here just to let you know you're in people's thoughts and I wanted to wish you the best for next week smile

Thanks - I have started bleeding this evening - not a good sign hmm

Will call the EPU tomorrow first thing - feeling sad and scared hmm

Slainte Tue 12-Feb-13 23:25:55

Oh goodness, just seen your message now sad. How are you today?

chickydoo Tue 12-Feb-13 23:36:17

Read your post...Thinking of you

Thanks guys - the bleeding is on and off - there have been no clots coming through and nothing on my pad. I literally haven't done anything since Monday evening except lie on the sofa or bed. I worried that as soon as I get up and move about normally it will all come flowing out (sorry graphic for first thing!).

My DH is being amazing and trying to stay positive but I am just so drained from the last couple of weeks and scared about what will happen if it is the worst news - physically and emotionally - how we move one and start thinking about trying again x

Isitme1 Wed 13-Feb-13 09:28:27

I want to tell you 2 stories.
The first:
My mum had a heavy bleed at 6 weeks
Literally all down her legs onto the floor and soaked her undies and pants. She was taken to a normal hospital nearby by ambulance amd they told her the baby had gone in the bleed and booked her in for a d+c. She refused as it wasnt the hospital she was booked at. She got emergency appointment at the specialist maternity hospital and they scanned her and said baby was there and alive!
She has had a few bleeds as there was bleeding around the sac but she has now got a beautiful baby boy to love.
She had blood problems so was put on aspirin. Worth asking about.

2nd I had a period like bleed and 2 small bleeds in first trimester and everything was fine im now nearly 18 weeks smile

Hope that helped a little x

Thank you for all your messages and stories - they really help.

The bleeding is bright red now and getting more camps - trying to stay positive but think this is it hmm

Now the clots are appearing - this is horrible hmm

nearlyreadytopop Wed 13-Feb-13 15:29:07

it is horrible. Hope you are ok (as ok as you can be)

3rdtimelucky73 Wed 13-Feb-13 15:47:33

It is horrible, but you will get through it. You may need some good painkillers, I did.

hugs

greengoose Wed 13-Feb-13 15:51:31

Hopefully the worst will be over for you soon, it's a horrible horrible time. A hot water bottle and some painkillers might help a little with the physical side?
If it helps at all, I've MCd three times, and twice I've fallen pregnant again on the next cycle. My MW said that it's really common for that to happen... Your body is an amazing thing, and even although it might not feel like it, it is doing what it needs to, trust that you will get to the other side of this and be able to try again. X

SoYo Wed 13-Feb-13 16:29:56

Are you ok? Is somebody with you? Take some painkillers, even just simple paracetamol will help. The pain stops very quickly once it's over. If you feel like the bleeding is too heavy, the pain is too much or home just isn't the right place for you then ring the gynae ward and tell them you've under the EPAU and they'll bring you in.

Thank you ladies - your advice and support is amazing. I have got some painkillers and hubby has dug out the hot water bottle. I'm on my own tomorrow as DH is at work and DS is at nursery (but don't feel truly alone as you guys are there - I know how corny that sounds!) and then the scan on Friday. I am a control freak so after Friday's scan at least I will have a bit of a plan of how we are moving forward (if I need medication / op) and then we can start trying to come to terms with things.

Sorry if I am repeating myself - it helps so much to come on here and write it all down. Thank again to you guys - you are all ace xxx

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