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I am worrying myself silly - any reassurance would be lovely x

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MamaBear17 Mon 04-Feb-13 20:49:44

I could have written your post when I was pregnant. I even went to the epu at almost 7 weeks because I was experiencing really bad pain in one side of my tummy (one of my ovaries is deformed and I was told that I was high risk for ectopic, so when I started having pains I panicked) only to be told by the sonographer that my pain was being caused buy trapped wind due to the pregnancy hormones! I did feel a fool! Then I booked an early scan at 10 weeks - I told myself it was so that I could do my pregnancy announcement before Christmas so people didnt just guess I was pregnant when I refused an alcoholic drink, but it wasnt. It was because I was terrified. I constantly checked my knickers, even though I didnt have any sign of bleeding. I didnt have any morning sickness (although I felt sick, I wasnt actually sick) and worried that this meant that my pregnancy hormones weren't strong enough. I worried about everything! Once I hit the magical 12 week mark I started to relax for about ten minutes, and then it hit the headlines about poor Lily Allen losing her son at 6 months and the worry hit me again like a tidal wave. The only thing that helped was feeling my baby move when I got to about 20 weeks. Then I only worried when the baby had been still for a while. I remember teaching a dance class at about 7 months pregnant and not feeling my dd move for hours after. I sat in the bath, sobbing, pouring water over my bump, prodding at her and begging her to move. Of course she did, and my worry was completely unnessacary, but it didnt stop me! All I can tell you is that your worries are perfectly natural and completely understandable. Try and make sure that you keep everything in perspective - tell yourself that there is no reason to worry because nothing has gone wrong and try to relax. I now have a healthy and happy 18 month old toddler running around, and all my worrying did for me was make me wish my pregnancy. Now that she is here, I wish I could go back and just enjoy it a bit more. Wishing you a happy and healthy nine months.

GingerDoodle Mon 04-Feb-13 20:05:58

Sorry should have added - DD is now just over 4 months old!

GingerDoodle Mon 04-Feb-13 20:05:18

I didn't have any symptoms until 9ish weeks when bam! all day sickness kicked in!

Christelle2207 Mon 04-Feb-13 18:54:26

that was me a few weeks ago. i had a scan at 8 weeks and was counting down then a nervous wreck on the day. all was well, beauiful little bean. im now 14 weeks and symptoms very subtle but have small but growing bump now! i felt a lot more positive after 8 week scan- was a good choice for my sanity. now happier still.after 12 week scan. anxiety doesnt go but it does.get easier, promise.

marushka82 Mon 04-Feb-13 16:24:16

Great news!
I didn't have any symptoms really apart from sore boobs and lack of period, I was just like you: worrying that because I didn't have morning sickness and other 'typical' signs something was wrong.
I'm almost 16 weeks now and everything is going well so far. I'm sending positive vibes your way!

SaggyOldPregnantCatpuss Wed 30-Jan-13 11:32:29

That's great! Hopefully you can put your mind at rest. until the next worry comes along, who me?... No I don't worry about anything... MUCH! grin

Morning ladies, just thought I would update about my bloods. Spoke to the doctor today who said my hcg levels have risen well (from 8137 to 17866) and they put me at 7 weeks pregnant so I am feeling less worried.

Just counting down to the scan on Saturday now and seeing the heartbeat - think that will cement to me that it is really real!!

Thanks again for all your comments yesterday - they really helped xxx

SaggyOldPregnantCatpuss Tue 29-Jan-13 19:21:41

Im sure everything will be fine. With my first my symptoms were minimal. Im currently nearly 7 weeks and feeling great! confused
Have you joined us over on the september antenatal thread? We are all fretting together. Its really helping me that everyone is about the same stage and we can compare notes.

Thank you so much for your replies - its so lovely of you to take the time to reassure me - big hugs for you all.

Phoned the Drs and the test results aren't back yet - they have asked the doctor to call me in the morning with the results as apparently they are loaded onto the system overnight.

I am so tired from not sleeping last night that hopefully I will get a decent (and quick) nights sleep.

Thanks again xxx

HazleNutt Tue 29-Jan-13 16:00:36

I'm 19 weeks and had an early miscarriage just before this pregnancy. Was sick like a dog and tired from the very start with the one that didn't work out. Have not had any symptoms besides growing boobs with this. If I had not seen the scan, I wouldn't believe I'm pregnant. So from my experience, symptoms or lack of symptoms does not show anything.

weeblueberry Tue 29-Jan-13 15:58:22

Congratulations!

Before I realised I was pregnant I had really awful back pains but not much else. Then, once I found out I was pregnant I had a tiny bit of nausea but hardly anything else. My boobs weren't particularly tender, I didn't get horrible morning sickness and I didn't get tired until about 14 weeks in.

Please try not to fret. Enjoy your early scan and meeting your baby for the first time. smile

CountryCupcakes Tue 29-Jan-13 15:57:27

Congratulations on your pg!

Lack of symptoms mean absolutely nothing. I'm now 4 days overdue with DD3 and while I had MS with this one (started about 8 weeks) I had none what-so-ever with DD1&2. In fact the sickest I ever was was with both my mc's.

I know it's hard not to fret. Hope your results come back soon and you can relax a bit tonight. Enjoy your scan at the weekend. x

SlouchingPanda Tue 29-Jan-13 15:55:45

Another one with very few symptoms here. I did not vomit once. I was fretting myself silly, especially as the news was full of chat about how having bad sickness means a healthy pregnancy, thanks to the poor old Duchess of Cambridge.

I am now nearly 17 weeks and all is well. Good luck!

learnermummy Tue 29-Jan-13 15:34:47

Just wanted to add that i'm currently 20 weeks with my third and haven't had any real symptoms at all, bar the odd bad headache. Try not to worry and good luck with your scan.xx

Thank you ladies smile

I think you are right in that I wasn't expecting to be pregnant - although we were trying I had come to terms that it would be a while so was shocked to get my BFP (a good shock though) and now it's here and I have got my head round it I don't want to lose it.

The day seems to be majorly dragging - just want to get those all important results to put my mind at rest grin xx

EwokStorageUnit Tue 29-Jan-13 12:50:57

Congratulations! I've read lots of threads that say you don't necessarily get any symptoms and I didn't really get any until about 8 weeks, when the nausea and exhaustion kicked in.

Maybe you're going to be really lucky and have no symptoms at all!

Good luck with your scan. XX

Congratulations!

Honestly, there is probably nothing to worry about, I had absolutely NO symptoms until I was 11 weeks and even then it was only me being sick a couple of times and I've had no symptoms since! My scans show everything is okay and I'm sure yours will too! I'm sure when you do get some symptoms you'll miss these days of none! Haha smile

PandaWatch Tue 29-Jan-13 12:28:07

Congratulations on your BFP!

Couple of things:

1. I didn't get any proper symptoms until I was about 10 weeks, when MS kicked in (although my boobs did start to get bigger around 9 weeks).

2. I got some horrendous headaches up until about 16/17 weeks. I googled at the time and apparently this is very common, especially in the first trimester.

I felt exactly the same as you at your stage as we spent 8 months trying (which I know isn't actually that long but felt like forever!) and had one mc (which started the day I got my first BFP at about 5 weeks) and it seemed like absolutely ages until the 12 week scan so I paid for an early private scan at just under 8 weeks. It was really reassuring as from what I understand if you get a hb at that stage the chances of miscarrying are dramatically reduced.

Good luck! x

wifey6 Tue 29-Jan-13 12:22:36

Firstly, congratulations. smileIt's natural to worry, especially in these early weeks..but I would imagine you had set yourself up for it taking a while to get a BFP & to also need fertility treatment..so no doubt you are still in shock. shockThis is completely natural.
Not everyone suffers with symptoms in the early weeks, I know I didn't get many symptoms til nearly 8 weeks this pregnancy.
It's great your doctors are supportive & soon you will have a booking in appointment with a MW & they are happy to reassure.
I know it's hard, I really do, but just relax & enjoy your pregnancy. smile
Enjoy your scan this weekend.

TeaOperated Tue 29-Jan-13 12:21:49

I didn't want to read and run, sure someone will be along shortly with better advice. But I felt pretty symptom free at your stage - I wasn't sick, just nauseous and tired (and even that took a wee while to kick in). I'm 32 weeks today and all is fine.

Also, for me, the excessive worrying was a symptom in itself - a sign of the hormonal changes! Not that I'm not normally a worrier, but the level of paranoia/fear/belief that I was going to go for a scan and there would be nothing there - hormones were a factor, I think!

Okay.........I am worrying myself silly over this and getting so worked
up I wondered whether you lovely people on here could bring me back off
the ceiling and give some reassurance.

I am currently almost 7 weeks pregnant. My DH and I have been trying
since June for our DC2 and before Christmas were told it could take a
while and there could be a possibility of fertility treatment as I don't
regularly ovulate - it didn't come to that and I got my BFP on 13th
January. Since then I have not been able to relax at all and have
literally been fretting about everything - I have had no real pregnancy
symptoms other than an increase in headaches which made me worry so much
that I have booked an early private scan for Saturday and yesterday I
got so worked up that I called my Drs (who were absolutely lovely) and
spoke to the nurse about all my concerns.

I am basically worried that the lack of symptoms mean that the pregnancy
isn't viable - there is no real reason for me to think this - I have had
no pain and no bleeding but I just cant rationalise things (I am a
worrier generally in life!!). The Drs called me in this morning for
another HCG blood test and I should have the results this evening but
that feels like a lifetime away.

I just seeking some general reassurance - please be kind - I know I must
sound crazy!! xx

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