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dp dislikes pregnancy.... normal? or not...

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InTheNightGarden Mon 31-Dec-12 09:42:59

All he "said" he wanted was a son, now I'm 33weeks pregnant with a boy (yay) but dp hasn't come near me the wholeeee pregnancy, won't feel baby kicking, won't come in the bathroom if I'm in there (sounds stupid but he always use to sit and chat to me if I was in the bath, shower), barely mentions anything to do with the pregnancy or this son he so called always wanted and looks at me oddly sad

Finally cracked last night and asked him what the hell was going on and I got back:

1. He hates that theres something living inside me and how do I do it!
2. I look weird ( meaning the bump... but I actually have a really small bump and people have only started noticing in the last 2 weeks)
3. He doesn't want to feel baby move as he doesn't like it.

I joked around saying maybe he should of left me for the 9 months then come back thinking he'd disagree... but he agreed :-/ .... sad he said most men would feel like this and anyone that enjoyed feeling the baby kicking was lying sad

I'm stupidly insecure anyway and now I feel a million times worse, I almost feel ashamed to be pregnant now and that I should hide my bump the best I can, I would do that but it's only going to get bigger!! Feel like total crap sad feel embarrassed to give birth with him there now too.

Is this normal for men? :-/

pinksquidge Thu 03-Jan-13 16:36:45

i bet you look lovely inthenight you are 21, young, slim and pregnant. I bet you look absolutely amazing. his attitude makes me sad, as i have said.

i think you should show him this conversation tbh. for all the reasons natara said.

have some unmumsnetty ((((((((((((((((hugs)))))))))))))))

InTheNightGarden Fri 04-Jan-13 17:44:59

thank you pink

really REALLY annoyed today... we went out this morning, went into a shop that happened to have a few baby bits in, dp seemed to get a lil excited (I was thinking yay finally)... but no! not excited about our baby, just his sisters baby... have I missed the point or something.... I'm pretty sure he didn't help make his sisters baby!!! god dam it I want to kick him in the **!!! soo feel like telling him to just go awayyyyyyy!

InTheNightGarden Fri 04-Jan-13 17:48:13

I should also add, anything we've I've brought the baby he hasn't been there notre given a dam and any other time I've said we really ort to get on and order this/that...he also given a dam and we still havnt ordered any of the necessary basic things for him and we've ... no wait, I'VE only got 6 weeks now!!

mumagain38 Fri 04-Jan-13 19:41:24

I was just about to say how refreshing that this thread was so supportive.. but u all ways get one! Your dp is not a dick he is just not dealing with it very well. To be honest the first time i felt baby move it felt like a fish and weirded me out. Its only recently when men have become more invoved in pregnancys and been present. Ask ur mum or a good friend to be a birthing partner, when i had my first my exdp didnt give a shit about feeling baby move,scans ect and was late when i was in labour but when i had her was utterly in love with her. It is a shitty time to feel not nice and upset and if i was there i would poke him with a sharp stick but dont fall out with him, speak to him about how ur feeling. Men are completly from another planet! good look lovey xxx

mumagain38 Fri 04-Jan-13 19:52:10

get on with getting the baby stuff yourself and just say in need cash for this..that..I know i bore my DP to tears with things i want for our babba and he didnt come to my last scan because of work and i was really upset when every one was sat in couples :O( and dont forget ur hormones will be going loopy right now x

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