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when did you finish work before baby?

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iamwhaticallpregnant Wed 05-Dec-12 09:42:20

Hi all. I am now 30 weeks and just wondering when it is recommended that you finish work? And when you did?

Ta x

Two weeks - one of which was holiday and the other maternity. Had dd two days after due date.

I have a sit down (85% of the time) job but awful hours (often finishing 11pm and needing to be back at my desk at 7.30am)

Vondo Wed 05-Dec-12 12:38:32

DS1 I finished work two weeks before my due date - I had him the following Wednesday

DS2 I finished work four weeks before my due date (just to be safe) - I had him the following Wednesday too

DS3 I finished work six weeks before my due date and yes you've guessed it I have him the following Wednesday.

So it seems it didn't matter how early I finished up work - the wee monkies were going to give me no rest at all!! grin

^^ grin brilliant!

WillYuleDoTheFandango Wed 05-Dec-12 12:50:20

I finished this week at 37 weeks. I work at a desk but have a 40 mile commute (by car) each way, meaning that I have 10-12 hour days. It has been really hard for the last few weeks and DP has been telling me to finish whenever I like for weeks now.

Running up and down stairs all day must be horrendous, maybe you need to explain to both your boss and DP how hard you're finding it and see if you can come to an agreement about when you finish/light duties etc.

Your health comes first and if you are finding it too tough then scale it back

iamwhaticallpregnant Wed 05-Dec-12 13:07:16

Thanks all. I just feel like I am being a drama queen and should carry on much longer. I am also worried about my Maternity Allowance as you have to have worked 26 weeks to qualify for it and if I work till the end of next week that will be 26 weeks but I am so worried they will decline it as not 100% sure on how it works/how it is checked/if holiday (even though you were still paid during it) counts as a working week etc....

They should have sent you a letter outlining all your benefits and key dates etc. Can you be put on light duties?

BiddyPop Wed 05-Dec-12 13:16:42

I am desk based and finished at 38 weeks exactly (my boss gave out to me for running up the corridor the day before I finished!! I was in great form and full of energy that week!!). I was still walking 20 mins to meet DH to go home every evening (it was a slightly slower walk though, as that normally takes me about 15).

I was grand up to my due date, but I suddenly got tired that day, and went into labour that night.

If I had realised how little time to myself I would get beforehand though (rather than racing around sorting Christmas!!), I would have gone earlier. (But it also didn;t help that the rest of my team flew to Hong Kong the day I finished up, without me, for a MAJOR international conference that I had been due to attend and I wanted to at least be involved in all the preparations even if not the event itself).

Wishfulmakeupping Wed 05-Dec-12 13:17:03

I had to finish at 28 wksdue to illness, but was due to start leave at 33 wks taking 3 weeks annual leave then starting mat leave, most people I know finished wks 34-37

Wishfulmakeupping Wed 05-Dec-12 13:18:20

Sorry OP posted too quick was going to add - do what feels best for you smile good luck

joby21 Wed 05-Dec-12 13:19:20

I normally work 12 hr shifts in quite a physical job. Am on my feet all day and we're only entitled to a 40 min break, and to be honest we don't always get that.

I finished work at 33 weeks. I had 5 weeks annual leave and my maternity leave officially started on sunday at 38 weeks. I was more than ready to finish. My OH was trying to encourage me to work longer to make sure i had more time off with baby but there is no way i could have continued longer than that! To be honest i probably worked about 2 weeks too long!

IveBeenGoodSantaIPromise Wed 05-Dec-12 13:20:28

I finished at 36 + 6. Baby came at at 39 + 3. To be honest I felt good though and almost did another week but needed to get the flat sorted for baby coming.

ksrwr Wed 05-Dec-12 13:22:24

i finished at 36 weeks, it seems most people in my office finish at 36 or 37 weeks. if i have another one.. IF... i'll finish earlier than 36 weeks i think.

FreeButtonChristmasTree Wed 05-Dec-12 13:26:41

I am finishing at 32 weeks but taking holiday for two weeks so starting maternity leave at 34 weeks. But I am expecting twins so I reckon I've done pretty well plus they are likely to come early. I am getting very very tired now and literally counting the days.

evilhamster Wed 05-Dec-12 13:27:28

36wks. 6wks were over the summer holidays though- so not really working! Currently 30wks, won't be so lucky and planning to take it until 38wks if I can! However, 2wks of that is holiday (I'm a teacher, currently snowed out of school) so will be a bit less.

StuckOnTopOfTheChristmasTree Wed 05-Dec-12 13:48:31

I'm desk based - but freelance. My contract is definite till 22 weeks, and I'm hopeful for an extension that will take me to 30 weeks. At that point I will stop (I don't think there's much chance of someone taking on a pg freelancer for 4-6 weeks!)
I am looking forward to having some time off to prepare as its unlikely we will have a chance to do much shopping/nursery prep before then!

DeckTheHallsWithBartimaeus Wed 05-Dec-12 14:50:26

In France maternity leave is 6 weeks before due date (which is 41 weeks) and 10 weeks after. Obviously if you give birth early you still get your whole 16 weeks.

At ante natal class a woman asked if she had to stop at 35 weeks or if she could keep going. The midwife said that the Dr has to sign to say you can keep going and it's max 2 weeks so everyone stops by 37 weeks.

They've found that the more rested women are before labour, the better the labours go (obviously there are exceptions) and the more women are rested after the birth.

Weissdorn Wed 05-Dec-12 15:11:54

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

jubjubbird Wed 05-Dec-12 15:54:36

I finished at 32 weeks with my first by using holiday. My problem was my v stressful commute on a packed Victoria line during the swine flu epidemic and no time off from my employer, which had initially been promised.

Many women stop this early, you're not alone and you're not being silly. It's your body and you should follow your instincts, not your dp's (you will find this in 10 weeks time too wink).

Less stress will mean more precious sleep and more time to cook healthy meals for yourself too. I have no scientific basis for this, but I'm sure it benefits the babe too. I still value the time off I had then. The only thing I'd say is use the time wisely and, in the nicest possible way, make sure your dp sees this too, otherwise arguments may ensue!

SneezySnatcher Wed 05-Dec-12 16:22:16

I'm going at 33 weeks. I'm a teacher and wanted to stop at one of the holidays. Easter would have taken me to 39 weeks so I'm going with feb half-term. I got signed off at 35 weeks last time (due to BP) so another reason to go earlier is to avoid that!

iamwhaticallpregnant Wed 05-Dec-12 16:36:03

Thanks jubjubbird - i find it very stressful there due to various factors - and I find the job very demanding physically. I come home very weepy everyday. I find it very difficult to cope with stress generallyand i am starting to worry it might affect the baby.

Dinosaurdrip Wed 05-Dec-12 20:09:28

I finished last week at nearly 37 weeks. I would have finished earlier but I was trying to make it so I was still on mat leave for the majority of the summer holidays. It was so tiring come the end, especially working nearly full time and with 2ds at home (4&3) but needs must just to save a few quid on child care.

redwellybluewelly Wed 05-Dec-12 21:56:49

I am aiming to work FT until 34weeks and then three days a week until 38weeks. I have a job where I am often out and about in site but will move to more desk based work when I go part time.

scissy Wed 05-Dec-12 21:58:18

I'm going at 34 weeks, I wanted to go on until beginning of January, then realised that I'd be in the office for 3 days after the Christmas break (didn't fancy being one of 3 ppl in the office over the Christmas period!) Didn't seem worth it :D

lookingfoxy Wed 05-Dec-12 22:42:11

Im planning on leaving pretty early as im exhausted, im only 12 weeks just now so that may change if I start to feel better. My job involves travelling by public transport between 'clients'.
In my last pregnancy I worked till around 36 weeks, a long commute there and back but in an office and kept much better first time round.

LadyMaryCrawley Thu 06-Dec-12 12:54:28

I'll be nearly 34 weeks when I finish but I'm using annual leave as it didn't seem worth coming back for 2 weeks after the Christmas break, so officially on mat leave from 37 weeks.

My job is mostly desk-based but involves varied hours, and late shifts followed by day shifts are exhausting these days. And my boss is all stressed and horrid and seems to resent the fact that I'm not able to scamper up ladders or move the grand piano/tables/chairs any more (she won't say anything, she just looks. Just because she'd come into work if she was on fire doesn't mean the rest of us would!)

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