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Anyone else acting like a complete bitch?

(27 Posts)
lookingfoxy Mon 26-Nov-12 07:46:19

The last 2 days I have been on total bitch hyperdrive to dp. If It was me I would have walked out the door and you wouldn't have seen me for dust!

Last night I have 'come back to normal' and totally mortified by my behaviour, dp laughs it off as im a 'hormonal pregnant woman' and tends to just stay out my way when im like this.

I hate being like this, is it justs me, is it the hormones? Im usually pretty laid back and i've been pretty evil and not for the first time since i've been preggy, im only around 12 weeks and this pregnancy has floored me (been off work for 5 weeks), please tell me its the hormones and i'll return to my usual chilled out self!!

ps I suspected I was pregnant long before I done a test because of dramatic mood swings!! Was never like this in 1st pregnancy with the sickness or moods!

purrpurr Tue 27-Nov-12 11:54:40

Mrsbirchall - I think your DH could be making more of an effort to understand what you're going through. Even incubators have feelings. My DH is a very black and white sorta guy and doesn't normally buy into grey area things like Feeeeeelings and he's been absolutely marvellous. I think he didn't believe me first off, though, so asked his brother (his brother's wife has been pregnant twice) and his brother confirmed it's hormones.

Has your DH got a man he can ask? (I am inwardly outraged at this, but what can ya do?)

Mrsbirchall Tue 27-Nov-12 11:46:23

I am too - although despite my DH being a normally understanding person, he doesn't seem to buy into any of my defense that it's down to pregnancy hormones and just calls me moody - which does NOT help!

I'm 27 weeks and seem to have got particularly tetchy and impatient this past fortnight or so. I feel bad as people assume you should be top of the world all the time because we're having our first baby and I am very excited but also tend to wake up feeling glum for no reason (the dreary grey rainy days don't help) and everything seems to irritate me - 99% of people in London, anything DH says or does - he says all I do is criticise him and he's right but I just can't seem to control myself from being an utterly moany grumpy cow at the mo! I feel better that I'm not alone, starting to worry I'll be this hideous forever and have no friends or husband left!

LuckyOwl28 Mon 26-Nov-12 22:09:57

I'm finding myself extremely awkward, sarcastic and quick to lose my rag. I don't mind so much when im like it to Tom (he got me into this state wink ), but I just had to call my dear 86 year old Nanna, as I feel like I behaved like a petulant brat all weekend at hers. Everything she said I dismissed and had no time for. I feel AWFUL. Just broke down to hubby about what a vile human being I am.

purrpurr Mon 26-Nov-12 17:32:01

Ahh this thread has proper cheered me up. I've either been angry as hell or crying like a loon today - burst into tears in the car because I wanted chocolate and we didn't have any, my DH was a bit nonplussed and took me straight to the nearest shop :D

Giggle78 Mon 26-Nov-12 16:43:15

Me too.

I have 'the rage' and its been bothering me. I flip at the smallest thing going wrong. I have no patience.

This is pregnancy number two and I'm 12 weeks. This one has been much harder than number one. I don't remember being so tired or angry last time. I hate feeling like I don't quite trust myself. I am so happy to find other angry pregnant women!!

rosiesmartypants Mon 26-Nov-12 15:56:56

Have definitely had bouts over the pregnancy (22 weeks right now).

The first one was before I had the positive test, I spent the weekend really hacked off at my husband...we had only been married for 10 days! And had no idea why I felt that way...

I have three sets of really noisy neighbours (lucky white heather) One set it's music in the garden, next door it's just really loud music randomly, and the other twat goes out with his leaf blower before 7:30 in the morning - all of which can turn me in to an absolute raging psycho....normally followed by frustrated tears!

ArielThePiraticalMermaid Mon 26-Nov-12 15:41:58

I am too!!!

Though I am not pregnant.

ChicaT Mon 26-Nov-12 15:35:49

These have made me laugh...I'm 11 weeks and have been a grumpy cow for the last 5 weeks! This seems to have recently been replaced with lots of tears, and moments of great love for hubbie...which is a relief as he has been annoying me soooo much!

Wishfulmakeupping Mon 26-Nov-12 14:57:38

I'm 30 weeks and poor OH bearing the brunt of my rage bless him had such a paddy on Friday and he was lovely. Also been getting upset in front of people which is embarrassing

Abzs Mon 26-Nov-12 14:54:29

Me too. I'm 8wks. It was my MIL's birthday this weekend. She booked us all into a hotel and we went out for a nice meal and couldn't enjoy any of it. a lovely curry house - normally I love (mild, flavoursome) curry and it just tasted meh.

I'm a moody PITA most of the time just now. And when I'm not I'm hungry, sleepy, cold, or nauseous. Which make me moody.

cupcake78 Mon 26-Nov-12 14:53:56

Only 9 wks and I'm horrible. I'm so grumpy uncomfortable and sick and frankly not a happy bunny at all!
My friend was a self confessed utter cow up until she was about 14wks pregnant. Being pregnant is damn hard work for most of us. It's no wonder we get a bit fed up.

Pineapple80 Mon 26-Nov-12 14:35:56

I'm feeling like this too! Short tempered and moody sad. Poor DH. I'm trying my best to not get too emotional though...

ivanapoo Mon 26-Nov-12 14:24:43

I had really bad rage around 16 weeks. I remember shouting at my windscreen wipers because I didn't like the noise they were making...

Also the paranoia around DH! Poor guy can't talk to or mention a member of the opposite sex without me becoming insanely jealous and thinking he's having it off with them, the bastard wink

lookingfoxy Mon 26-Nov-12 14:05:26

Oh im glad its not just me grin
Dp warned me I would get worse early doors but I said he was talking crap !!

Im also anti social, paranoid and generally a bit rude, if dp pops out for say milk I come out with 'off to see the girlfriend then'.

I will not go with him to see friends, if anyone comes to visit they've got about 20 mins before I start looking bored and feigning illness.

Im fine with ds (7) though, which makes me wonder why I can't be cheerful with everyone else, maybe an territory thing?!

LeBFG Mon 26-Nov-12 13:56:41

Terrible isn't it? When DH wants to visit some friends, I say 'nah, you go'. Such a grump grin.

QueenofNightmares Mon 26-Nov-12 13:46:56

Welcome to my world grin I hate everyone and everything I don't talk to anyone because I'm too grumpy. I snap for the littlest things and if I'm not snapping I'm crying. 19 weeks and its really kicked in the last couple of weeks.

LeBFG Mon 26-Nov-12 13:38:50

Pregnancy rage here too! Bit like road rage but less predictable.

In 24 weeks and it's not abating yet. Help! I never had the like first time round either.

As well as randomly launching into DH, I'm forever ranting about people. I get worked up really quickly. Not to their faces [wimp] but I'm full of 'He said that? what a wanker' etc.

Annoyingly, when I want to channel the rage I turn into a hopeless wreck. I was dead keen not to do certain tests in this pg and was going to put my foot down. Instead, I let the gynae bully me because I thought I might blub if I carried on refusing [total wimp]. Never would have happened beforehand. Sigh.

janis13 Mon 26-Nov-12 13:35:50

I am so glad to see this post. I am only 8 weeks and havent told my employer yet. I work in a call centre and have found myself getting extremely wound up this morning with customers for no reason. I read the old thread that lookingfoxy posted and it made me giggle!

Hopefully I will be ok for the rest of the day!

tamster83 Mon 26-Nov-12 13:29:45

this is soooo me aswel ! I'm 24 wks and it's only got worse everything annoys me (even eastenders) literally had a major rant the other night on why we still actually watch it ! . my dp cant wait till the baby's out and actually muttered the words ' I want my nice gf back' along with 'this is definately our last baby' .
I have also been known to ignore the door when friends call aswel just can't be bother to make small talk lol I am the official angry lady !

Nikki2510 Mon 26-Nov-12 13:14:12

Yes, this is definitely me - poor DP has been very long suffering blush.

I am now 32 weeks but have been hormonal pretty much all the way through - definitely worse in 1st and last trimester. In my defence I also have cracking SPD, am on crutches and not getting v much sleep due to discomfort/pain so being permanently tired and in pain is a contributory factor.

Also, feeling a bit anti-social. Not really going anywhere as too difficult to get around on my own and have been signed off work until my maternity commences but part of me doesn't want to see anyone anyway blush

forgetmenots Mon 26-Nov-12 13:07:17

* their fifties. Not the decade.

forgetmenots Mon 26-Nov-12 13:06:42

I'm not feeling angry but really neurotic (not normal) and paranoid. Although...
A very smartly dressed couple in the fifties pushed in front of me in a queue last night without any explanation or apology, and the man actually physically was using his shoulder to wedge himself in front of me...
...so I tapped him on the shoulder and said, in my most clipped tone, 'Are you always this rude? I'm pregnant, I would prefer it if you didn't push me, thanks.' He tutted and muttered something and his wife told me to mind my tongue! To which I said 'I was, but have it your way - Tell your husband to get his shoulder out of my boobs and get to the back of the queue. The rest of us aren't standing here for a laugh.'
The man behind me applauded. They moved. I'm not normally that scary.

I've not got the rage, but the anti social bit rings a bell. My sister has invited herself down to see us at xmas. Not in a horrible way, she's not expecting to turn up on xmas day for a roast dinner, she just wants to pop in for lunch one day during the holiday. I really don't want to see her. I'll be huge, and tired, and not far off due date, and just want to be anti-social and selfish. I like my sister and would normally love to see her. Fortunately the sane part of my brain has ok-ed the visit, but the pregnant part is thinking 'bah humbug'!

dontcarehow Mon 26-Nov-12 09:11:22

I am. Also, I've become really anti- social. I barely talk to my husband, and I don't want to see anyone. Even seeing my best mates is a real effort. And is it just me or does everyone seem really annoying? I hope this passes after I give birth, I don't like being a miserable cow.

lookingfoxy Mon 26-Nov-12 08:19:26

Thanks, I googled pregnancy rage and one of the first things up was an old mumsnet thread here

We are not alone!!

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