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SIL pregnant same time as me

(36 Posts)
MisselthwaiteManor Mon 19-Nov-12 07:55:26

I wondered if anyone is/has been in a similar situation?

SIL announced her pregnancy at 4 weeks, the day after I found out I was pregnant (also 4 weeks!) I didn't want to tell anyone until 12 weeks, which is by a wonderful coincidence Christmas day. SIL has her scan right before Christmas so will likely be passing round pictures etc, and then we will burst in and ruin her moment with 'look at me! I'm pregnant too!'

WWYD? Would you take her to one side and tell her privately first? I've hardly spoken to her before so no idea whether she will be excited or a bit dampened.

And it's the first grandchild on DH's side of the family so it will be a race to see who's first! grin

Waspie Wed 21-Nov-12 11:05:36

My baby was due a few weeks before my sister's baby. It was great, I think it brought us closer, particularly after the boys were born because we were both on maternity leave and could spend lots of time together. Our boys are just 5 and almost 5 now and they are very close friends as well as cousins, and I hope this continues.

Neither of us did "big announcements" and I don't understand all this "stealing people's thunder" nonsense either. Just tell your family and they will be thrilled. If they aren't then you have a problem you need to address...

I'm pregnant. So is my SIL. Neither of us made big fan fare announcements, and neither of us is even remotely bothered about the other stealing thunder. If you plan to make a big song and dance about your pregnancy she may well be a bit put out. Tell everyone individually when you are chatting to them before xmas, and avoid a xmas day announcement.

InNeedOfBrandy Wed 21-Nov-12 14:19:47

Me and my cousin were a month apart, we were so close and most of my happy childhood memories involve him. How lucky you all are having dc with cousins similar ages, Christmas and 40th Bday parties are always so much better as a kid when your cousins your friend.

RobinSparkles Wed 21-Nov-12 14:27:48

I was pregnant at the Same time as my SIL, although she was 5 months ahead of me.

It never even occurred to me that I might be stealing her thunder confused I was just excited to be getting a lovely new niece and I presume that she was the same. We never did a big announcement though. DH just told MIL (who SIL was living with at the time) in a text shock so I imagine that MIL told her as I don't remember doing so.

SIL's DD wasn't the first GC though as first GC was our DD1.

jaggythistle Wed 21-Nov-12 14:35:43

i guess i was the SIL. with DS1 we told parents/siblings only at around 6 weeks and several weeks later DH's brother and SIL told us she was pg too. i think they told us as soon as the wee was dry on the stick. smile

we were a bit surprised, but certainly didn't feel any thunder had been stolen grin i think they might have been a bit surprised too tbh, as panic selling of small flat ensued!

there are 15 weeks between DS1 and his cousin, it's just a shame they don't see each other often to play.

Jenijena Wed 21-Nov-12 14:38:53

B&sil emailed to say they were expecting, one week ahead of us. We were wanting to keep it quiet for a little bit but couldn't not reply without saying Snap. First grandchildren in every direction. We rarely see each other, live in different parts of th country, and had our babies a week apart in May. I'm glad there's one boy and girl, and have in laws who are scrupulously fair, but I'm sure comparisons will be made in the future.

confused247 Wed 21-Nov-12 14:45:44

I am currently PG, due 4 weeks after my SIL - she announced we was PG as soon as she found out (it's her 1st). We were really concious that she might feel we were "stealing her thunder" so we didn't say anything to anyone until well after the 12 week scan, and we have been very low key about the whole thing (we already have DC). Even so, she has barely spoken to me since which makes me very sad as we were (I thought) very close before.

BarbecuedBillygoats Wed 21-Nov-12 14:47:41

Sil had her 1st dd less than two weeks after I had my 1st ds
It's been lovely and they get on now they're 9

I like my sil though and I don't care about being centre of attention etc

ArielThePiraticalMermaid Wed 21-Nov-12 14:50:26

Just enjoy the moment. There will hopefully be two babies and that's the main thing, so who cares about announcements?

MrsBungleBear Wed 21-Nov-12 14:52:24

My DSIL and me were pregnant at the same time. It was great. Also great having two cousins so close in age. DSIL was ahead of me - I don't think for a minute she was annoyed when we let everyone know that I was also pregnant.

I just phoned her up and told her I had joined her club! I did feel that we should tell her before others. I didn;t just want to announce it in front of loads of people with her there. Don't know why really, she probably wouldn;t have been bothered - I just thought it was more polite that way.

ScrambledSmegs Wed 21-Nov-12 14:55:21

How lovely! Hopefully the little cousins will be very close as well. Yes, I would tell SIL first, but I'm sure she'll just be very happy for you.

My SIL is 3 months pregnant and I'm due to have my 2nd about...oh, now! I am so excited that my DCs are going to have a little cousin who is relatively close in age to them. How great will it be at future family events?!

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