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To what extent have you played the 'pregnancy card'?

(61 Posts)
iamwhaticallpregnant Thu 15-Nov-12 16:12:09

I am now 27 weeks and I am finally clearly visibly pregnant! I haven't really used the 'I'm pregnant' card at all yet. I was given a free ticket on the bus but don't think he knew I was pregnant. I was also offered free passage to a 30p public toilet by a lovely lady - but again, I think she was just against paying for peeing as opposed to knowing I was preggars. My partner on the other hand marches about exclaiming to people "She's pregnant!! Can she have that seat?!" or "She's pregnant, do you have any cheese that isn't unpasteurised?!" or "You're pregnant, you even touch that Ikea table and it's over!"
So, I am thinking I should start to take advantage of 'being pregnant' as I may not be in this state again. As a bit of fun, where have you used your pregnant card to either get out of something or get something for free?!

disclaimer : This is a bit of tongue in cheek fun. Please no comments along the lines of "One should not manipulate situations and use this amazing gift you have been granted to take advantage of others!"

We all know being pregnant, for the most part, sucks ass. I intend on getting a few perks out of it. Bite me.

QueenofNightmares Thu 15-Nov-12 17:24:31

Oh I'm awful and I'm only 18 weeks blush To be fair though its mostly DH he won't let me do anything grin insists on me not doing any cleaning or walking too far. I'm not going to argue with him since the first time around I had no choice but to walk for miles all the time.

LittlemissChristmas Thu 15-Nov-12 17:34:04

I'm using it loads at the min at 9 weeks with DH but to be fair I can't even walk into the kitchen without getting floored by nausea

philbee Thu 15-Nov-12 18:12:16

I love all these free drinks and things - very impressive! The best bit (only in this sense) is when people ask when you're due and you can say 'Last week.' Oh yeah, you BETTER get up!

Mummyof3tobe Thu 15-Nov-12 19:32:29

Gawd, loads....

Got out of a parking ticket that had already been issued (and I thought they couldn't do that) by looking teary and sticking tummy out a bit more at about 25 weeks.

Sending DH down to the kitchen to make me toast and butter late at night (pah, least he can do and it's nice cos he feels useful.....)

Skipped to front of a long queue for train tix and if we hadn't we'd have missed the train.

As you can see I don't have a big problem feeding the societal idea....pregnancy sucks. It does. Especially by the third time and I'll take any break people are willing to give.

MJP1 Thu 15-Nov-12 19:45:51

I get out of walking the dog because I have PGP and according to my other half "I am too slow and it ruins the walk" (he means it in a nice way) BUT I hate it love taking her out and hate being so helpless.

I work in a cafe and the lovely regulars (who are mums) bring me their dirty plates etc to help me out bless them.

3rdbump Thu 15-Nov-12 19:56:24

Am 34 weeks pregnant and people have been genuinely lovely, carrying luggage on and off the train, up the stairs (when they weren't going that way) opening doors, giving up seats, letting me go first, the ADSA george staff even offered to take my bags to the car the other day smile
It gets me out of doing things i don't want to do too ...............*i feel tired* card to get out of making tea/washing up etc to the OH!

Stepawayfromthesweeties Thu 15-Nov-12 21:17:27

I haven't used the preggers card, but my dh has. I'd had a really bad night last Friday ( nausea, horrendous IBS attack, generally feeling rubbish) but didn't make a fuss and just got with it. However dh used it as an excuse for us to be mega late to visit his family the next morning!! I then had to deal with them all faffing about making sure I was ok. On the way home he declared that me being preggers was great, and that we have got an excuse for not doing family things for the next 30 weeks. Bad mangrin

Mylittlepuds Thu 15-Nov-12 21:41:29

The pregnancy card holds little weight past DC1.

DH has taken responsibility for clearing up after the dogs in the garden, as pregnant ladies shouldn't go near dog mess. I'm not arguing...

Stepaway's post has just reminded me - I've declared myself unable to visit the ILs this xmas as I'll be far too big, and would be very sick on the journey. That's a tiny bit evil as I could easily manage it, I just don't want to.

lauraellajane Thu 15-Nov-12 22:04:41

I've been using it loads, so has my DH - been selling lots of things we don't use to make space/go towards the baby fund, and people normally over a bit below what we've asked for. Playing the 'but it's going into our baby fund!' card works a treat and mostly they've paid up!

TwitchyTail Thu 15-Nov-12 22:26:19

I did it when I called the RAC and they turned up in 2 minutes flat! (Well, part of that was because the RAC guy was in the Tesco round the corner, but still).

HermioneE Thu 15-Nov-12 22:39:28

Got a priority dr visit, not sure if that counts. Rang up to book a routine antenatal appointment but my favourite doc was booked solid for even more days than they usually take bookings for. Obediently said I would ring back the next morning and then hopelessly said 'it's for an antenatal checkup...' boom, one doctor appointment plus adjacent flu and whooping cough jabs on the day of my choice!

Have also been sort of claiming KFC 'cravings', but I'm not even fooling myself with that one. Almond croissant 'cravings' are going to be my next attempt.

mameulah Thu 15-Nov-12 23:34:20

I think that we would be doing the World of Womanhood a dis-service by not playing the 'I'm Pregnant!' card...

I have had heaps of great stuff, loads of people have let me go to the front of the que.
The customer services lady at a big supermarket went out of her way to refund goods for me to save me going upstairs because she could see I wasn't fit. She found me later on in the supermarket to check I was okay.

People at work carrying and picking things up for me.

Strangers chatting and asking how I am.

And my all time favourite......someone chased a big scary looking seagull off my car for me!!!

Make the most of it I say!

Secondsop Fri 16-Nov-12 02:20:43

Not really playing a card, as it's something that I shouldn't do when pregnant, but: not having to do the cat's litter tray is a joy.

humblebumble Fri 16-Nov-12 02:53:05

I used it with DH to tell him he wasn't allowed to tickle me because I was pregnant (and I also used it whilst breast feeding). In fact I got away with being "not tickled" for about 5 years! I am being paid back now ... smile

EggsMichelle Fri 16-Nov-12 08:37:13

I had called the police about my noisy neighbours in the past but all they did was log my complaint. I tell them on one occasion I was 6months pregnant, and the police were at my neighbours door in 20mins! Felt very guilty for using my 'condition' but we haven't had any problems from them since, and the rest of the street must be sleeping better!

BonaDea Fri 16-Nov-12 09:47:28

We had workmen at the house a few weeks ago sanding some floors for us. They did a great job, but for some reason on the last day the guy who had been doing the work (who was dropped off by a van on day 1 with all the equipment, but who didn't have a car himself) tidied everything up, stacked all the equipment neatly in the hall for collection....and then left the spare key we had given them behind and closed the door. Which meant they couldn't collect their stuff without one of us being there and then proceeded to turn up at 11am or 4pm when we were at work to attempt to collect it.

After arranging on three separate occasions to wait at home in the morning for them to collect and greeted with no shows, I eventually called the office and told them I was '6 months pregnant' (I'm 20 weeks now, and this was two weeks ago!) and that the equipment in my hallway was a trip hazard and that I could barely get in and out of the house.

They collected the stuff at 7am the following morning. grin

stargirl - I've been thinking recently that I will start to use parent and child parking by the time I'm huge.

milkyjo Fri 16-Nov-12 10:52:08

After being told off by DH for standing on a chair at 19 weeks to put up Halloween decorations I said "ok". But, after Halloween, when I said "can you take them down then", they stayed up for another week until I got on a chair to take them down myself. So although DH is playing the card for me, he's not really doing me any favours. I'm not sure he's even realised I've taken the decs down! I was still lugging a rabbit run around the garden and cleaning them out at 37 weeks during my first pregnancy - he didn't seem to notice that!

NaomiKnees Fri 16-Nov-12 11:32:20

I like to think I haven't been to bad, DH would probably disagree.
The only thing that I am guilty of doing, and was the second I got a visible bump, is undoing my coat and displaying said bump in order to get a seat on the tube.

iamwhaticallpregnant Fri 16-Nov-12 14:33:07

LOVE ALL OF THESE!!! Thanks ladies. The way I see it - we have to go through a lot of pain, sickness and exhaustion finishing in the grand finale of childbirth (which I hear is Godly horrendous!) So I think taking advantage should be the law!
I intend on using it a lot more from now on. Can you IMAGINE what men would be like if the shoe was on the other foot?! Come on......

rogersmellyonthetelly Fri 16-Nov-12 17:21:50

I did yesterday, went to the chemist to get my prescription for antibiotics an stupidly left my bag in the car, 200 yards away. I asked if she needed to see my maternity exemption cert or was it obvious by now? She said obvious enough to her so saved me traipsing back to the car. I was very grateful.

Emsyboo Fri 16-Nov-12 18:16:24

Haven't got any freebies but been on at DH to discuss an issue with MIL for ages so used the I dont need the extra stress in pregnancy card which has worked and we are working things out!
Never thought about getting any perks but hey it's hard work being pregnant so why not lol however the majority if people are rude like iamwhaticallpregnant experienced.

angeltattoo Fri 16-Nov-12 20:32:17

I had a flat tyre today and called DH, who came to the rescue, I perhaps could have done it myself, but well, I'm pregnant wink

StrawberriesTasteLikeLipsDo Fri 16-Nov-12 20:44:57

Just sat and cried in The bath... Over everything an nothing... DP comes in looking like im mad... i said dont judge me im pregnant.. He made me tea grin

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