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Due in June after miscarriage?

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curiousgeorgie Sun 21-Oct-12 09:53:14

After several miscarriages I just got several BFP's plus dizziness and sickness smile ... But I am terrified!! Not sure I have the confidence yet in this pregnancy to join an antenatal thread.

Anyone else? Want to wait it out together?

MrFranklyShankly Tue 23-Oct-12 15:16:33

Thanks 3rdtimelucky, sorry to hear about your mc, its just such a horrible thing to go through, glad to hear ye have decided not to wait.....felt a bit silly trying again so soon, thought it might be the wrong thing to do, read so much about waiting for 3 months..we're no spring chickens either so was a bit anxious about waiting until next year (which sounds sooooo far away!) although even the thought of ttcing again was a bit depressing, trying for our DD2 put such a strain on our relationship that the subject of trying for no 3 was a really delicate one, and then we did finally take the plunge to have the mc was just like a sign not to....Dh is really hesitant, I havent even mentioned to him my Af is late.....dont want any more pressure on us....going to give it till Thursday (If I can!!) and test then....the auld wagon could show up yet, feeling very crampy this afternoon....

terilou87 Tue 23-Oct-12 16:15:30

im now 37+6 after 2 m/c one of twins new years day 2011 and another mmc 11th july 2011, just wanted to post to show it can turn out well, and goodluck in your pregnancy. smile

katesav87 Tue 23-Oct-12 18:27:21

Hello I am the same had 1 mmc at 12 weeks then my DD then 2 more miscarriages at 5 weeks now pregnant again and am 9 weeks and 1 day. Have had 2 scans one that I paid for and seen the heartbeat but am still scared!! I am obsessed about it and I feel like its taking over my life!!! All I do is constanley worry that the baby's gone or wen I have my 12 week in a couple of weeks baby will be gone. I've never felt so stressed in my whole life and I know it's not good for me or the baby. I wish u all good luck and hope u all get the baby's u deserve x

TheLastJammyDodger Tue 23-Oct-12 20:46:45

I'm feeling pretty nauseous today, which has actually cheered me up. I'm hoping to get an early scan at 8 weeks. I don't want one any earlier as in my first pregnancy I had a positive scan at 7.5 weeks, but then 12 week scan showed the baby died shortly after my 7.5 week scan sad

frankly don't know how you can wait til thurs! I'm like clockwork so when AF hadn't arrived by lunchtime I knew I had to test! Waiting for DH to get home from work to POAS was torture!
jammy sorry about the sickness but that's a good sign.
Still nothing here, apart from severe exhaustion. I don't have the energy to stand up, never mind anything else! Getting nervous for my scan, 1 week to go

3rdtimelucky73 Wed 24-Oct-12 15:00:51

Frankly you are amazingly patient, I tested the day I was due and got the faintest line ever! I had to take a photo to be sure it was actually there....

Kate I feel exactly like you. My DP has suggested that I right down every time I feel/am sick and every twinge as I'm always thinking it'a been days and worrying, when I've probably just forgotten!

Good luck ladies.

katesav87 Wed 24-Oct-12 15:49:22

Thanks 3rd time I'm feeling rough today been in and out of bed been abit sick just exhausted and nausea is horrid. Fingers crossed for us all. Xxx

3rdtimelucky73 Wed 24-Oct-12 16:16:44

Kate I am exactly the same today.

Fingers crossed for the 6th x

katesav87 Wed 24-Oct-12 16:31:49

I know it sounds werid but glad ur feeling that way as its all good signs. I just want to stop reading into things. Wen I had my private scan we listened to the heartbeat and the midwife said all was fine but afterwards I said to my dh I'm sure the heartbeat wasn't fast enough and the baby was laying on the bottom of my pregnancy sac so I started googling pictures because I didn't see it moving even tho the heartbeat was there and the midwife said it was all fine. I'm terrible and horribly negative about everything. With my DD I had hyperemesis so was in hospital for the first 3 months so didn't have time to worry I was so sick and because I haven't got it this time I keep thinking there's something wrong. I'm so bad I know just desperately want this baby and don't think I can handle another MC. A lot of ppl I know r pregnant aswell so that would be even harder xxx

SuperSesame Wed 24-Oct-12 16:48:23

Can I join you all?

I was due in May and now I'm due in June. (23rd)
I miscarried last month at exactly 5 weeks.
We were only TTC for one month and hit the jackpot. Then same thing happened this month. I hope thats where the similarity ends. I'm 5 weeks and 3 days today and happy to have passed 5 week mark.

Like all of you, I'm worried pretty much all of the time. If this pregnancy is ok to term then I bet it will feel like the longest pregnancy ever as I'll have been pregnant for over 10 months in a row!

I have one DC (who took the best part of a year to conceive).
I've no obvious symtoms. Boobs bit bigger but no discomfort. No morning sickness and no tiredness. Yet!

Ruthie101 Wed 24-Oct-12 18:34:41

Hi ladies.
I am now 6 weeks pregnant after two previous miscarriages. I started having cramps and spotting on Tuesday. Everything seemed ok today but then it happened again just now. Booked in for an early scan on Friday. Going out of my mind with worry.

MrFranklyShankly Wed 24-Oct-12 18:53:25

Hi ladies such a nerve racking time i wish ye all the best with ur pregnancies really hope they all stick...mc's are awful really wish they just didnt happen...superseame i sound a bit similar to u, we hit the jaxkpot first time trying but then i hd a mmc at 9 wks horrible....still no sign of af yet this cycle....dont think its patience 3rdtime, just sheer fear! Normally i cant even wait till af is due end up with having to buy multi packs! Will keep yas posted when i pluck up the courage....af culd just be messing with me....

TheLastJammyDodger Wed 24-Oct-12 19:49:20

Frankly - I don't know how you can stand to wait. I got my bfp this time at 11dpogrin

Ruthie - good luck for the scan on Friday. I hope you get good news.

I am still feeling a bit sick, but my last pregnancy seemed to be going perfectly - plenty of symptoms and no bleeding, just bad news at 12 weeks. So my confidence is rock bottom.

Fingers crossed for all of us. Sounds like we could all do with some luck this time.

3rdtimelucky73 Wed 24-Oct-12 20:14:24

Supersesame - I know what you mean, if I make it to full-term in May, I'd have been pregnant for 12 months!

MrFranklyShankly Wed 24-Oct-12 22:20:49

Hi ladies well the waiting got the better of me! Nipped to asda got a test and BFP!!! Now the real worry and anixety starts...told dh and he was so shocked which then became fear mixed with excitement! So scared to feel happy in case i get slapped in the face again...so will just hve to c how it goes....really hope all is okay for u Ruthie hopefully ur scan will be reassuring. So what r u ladies doing differently this time....think ill be scared to even breathe!

Congratulations frankly
I know exactly how you feel.
Just trying to rest as much as possible, no heavy lifting, no caffeine but going to see consultant next week who may give more advice.

3rdtimelucky73 Thu 25-Oct-12 02:45:05

Great news frankly, fight the fear! (easier said than done, I know) x

Ruthie101 Thu 25-Oct-12 08:35:27

Congratulations Frankly!! That's great news. It may be the first step on an emotional journey but the first step is definitely a cause for celebration. I am trying to keep excited even when things are difficult. I'm determined to enjoy this for as long as I can. Lets see what tomorrow's scan brings.
Wishing you all the best of luck. X

MrFranklyShankly Thu 25-Oct-12 10:37:48

Thanks girls, so nervous.....didnt sleep very well at all lastnight, even though I'm wrecked tired....wakened feeling really sick and then thoughts started whirling around my head, going from its all going to end the way it did the last time to I have to be positive.....just so scared, like all of us I suppose....yeah LMI think I'm going to try and rest as much as possible, no caffine (even given up my lovely chocolate!) and no lifting....last time I was out running, and generally living as if I wasnt pg, or as if the pg will fit in around my life, not the other way about, so maybe a more nurtured approach is the way to go this time...fighting the fear (in a cowardly way, but fighting none the less!!)

Good luck with the scan tomrorow Ruthie, fingers and toes crossed for ya, let us know how it goes....
Thanks again for the congrats, still a bit in shock I think!!!

Frankly x

Good luck today ruthie

I've woken up very anxious, glad to have made it to the 6 week mark but very scared that the mc is going to start soon. Sometimes it doesn't matter how many times you say to your self not to worry etc, it still plays on your mind doesn't it? Not much I can really do though its just a waiting game.

MrFranklyShankly Fri 26-Oct-12 10:16:45

Yeah Littlemiss, the worrying is hard not to do, I promised myself I wouldn't get myself in knots this time with worry, and what will be will be, but its soooo hard, could feel my anxiety levels rising again last night when I got into bed, everything whirling around my brain.....had drs appointment this morn, took ages for the positive to show up on the test, so he reckons VERY early days....all my symptoms have gone too, just to add to my anxiety! So spent this morning going that's it, its over this time before I've even started.......boobs are totally fine, actually feel like they've deflated since y'terday morn, no nausea anymore and not one bit emotional......altho GP says its so early that I shouldn't really pay any attention to that at the mo, be different if I was further on and things suddenly disappeared........so booked in for the EPU for a scan in 2 weeks time....how did the rest of you feel at 4 weeks, did you notice any clear symptoms???

Miz100 Fri 26-Oct-12 11:04:02

Marvellous news! My little one is still ok and going for a further scan on Monday. Sorry to hear about everyones losses though. All the best!

MrFranklyShankly Fri 26-Oct-12 11:10:16

Great news miz u must be so relieved....hopefully you can relax a bit now and start njoying;-)

3rdtimelucky73 Fri 26-Oct-12 11:47:51

Frankly I have never much sign of symptoms at 4 weeks (occasionally tender boobs perhaps) but everything kicked off 6-7 weeks.

Our bodies are all different, so try not to compare and heed what the doc said.

Hope the 2 week. don't drag too awfully. Still 11 days till my dating scan....... sigh

Ruthie101 Fri 26-Oct-12 12:26:30

Back from scan. They couldn't find anything. Apparently this means it is too early or could mean an ectopic. They took blood today and I am back on Sunday for more tests so that they can check if hormone levels are going up.

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