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Missed miscarriage

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C4ALR Tue 16-Oct-12 22:12:01

I have found out today I have had a missed miscarriage. I still have the foetus in my womb. I have opted to pass it naturally instead of surgery but a now bit scared as unsure what to expect?
Am I going to go to the toilet and pass a large clot?
Please help sad

fairygirl1006 Wed 06-Feb-13 13:47:46

Thanks Janey1234. I am sooooooo confused right now. It's like living in a state of limbo. I go to work everyday in a complete daze and barely know what days it is, from one day to the next. I have had absolutely NO miscarriage symptoms,. The bleeding I DID have has stopped altogether. I have never had any pain and I still have sore boobs and nausea (although no actual morning sickness). I have my scan next Tues (12th) where I assume they will be telling me there is no heartbeat given that I am have already a vaginal scan and u/s which showed the sac and the baby??? I am going to push for a D&C and not wait up to 6 weeks to miscarry naturally if 'bean' has genuinely gone. Even though I have accepted the situation in my head now, I feel that I need to wait for the scan to confirm everything rather than just base a decision on blood-tests given the stories I have googled and read where women have gone on to deliver healthy babies even when their HCG levels were minimally increasing??

janey1234 Mon 04-Feb-13 14:50:46

Oh fairy how awful for you. Thinking of you, and hope you're ok. x

fairygirl1006 Mon 04-Feb-13 11:52:26

Well an update - my HCG levels have increased from 4900 to 5900 in 48-hours - still nowhere near doubling and awaiting a T/C from the Doctor to 'discuss my options'. Dont know what to think or believe anymore because nobody seems to be telling me anything or giving a straight answer :-(

C4ALR Sun 03-Feb-13 21:41:42

Hi ladies,
Not sure how many of these threads you have read but I had a mc at 7wks, baby stopped growin at 5. Basically with me I started bleeding and having cramps on sat nighy, went down to hospital sun morn after bein advused by a doctor and was told I was having a threatened misscarriage, they made me an appiontment at epu for scan for tuesday. My dp took me to a private scanning place on the monday and they couldnt find a heart beat.
I decided to pass it naturally which took 9 days of lots of pain and cramps, I finally passsd it one night befor bed, there was severe pain.and more blood but once it passed the paon eased dramatically. I carried on bleeding for approx a month.
I had 3 weeks of work, I was not in anu state mentally or physically to go back.
Now things are looking up I have started my fertility treatment again as I have pcos and were goin to try again.
It is a dreadful thing to happen but very common yoi will realise how common now iy has happened to you. I am very sorry for your losses, if you need to talk I am here to try and help xx

nearlyreadytopop Sun 03-Feb-13 10:03:21

hi Fairygirl
Im so sorry about your little bean. It really is horrible and the waiting makes it worse.
I had a miscarriage at 6 weeks so I can give you some idea of what to expect though everyone is different.
I had a bit of bleeding so I visited the EPU, they didnt do blood tests just scanned and said it was very early and to come back in 2 weeks!! or if the bleeding got worse. The bleeding slowly increased over a few days. At this point I passed my mucus plug (i thought it was the baby) so I went back to EPU, they scanned and said the sac was still there though had moved down a bit. Again sent home and told to come back in a week or if the bleeding got worse. That was Friday, on Saturday night the cramps started and a lot of blood. I basically sat on the loo as there was so much. I felt something which turned out to be the sac. The EPU had given me a little collection pot incase I wanted them to check it. After this the cramping and bleeding reduced a lot. Back to EPU for scan on Monday and everything was gone. I went back to work on Tuesday which for me was a mistake because I was in complete denial.
Would reccomend maternity towels, hot water bottle, strongest painkillers you can get and access to a loo. Again Im so so sorry you are going through this. I have had lots of advice and support over in the Miscarriage section of this site if you wanted to check it out. Take care if yourself.

fairygirl1006 Sat 02-Feb-13 14:06:49

Hi - I am currently 5 weeks 6 days pregnant (or was??). I had some abdominal pains last Sunday night and went to A&E where I had blood tests done and was booked in for a EPU scan. I had the scan last Tue, ultrasound and vaginal, and could see the sac and foetus but no heartbeat as it is too early in the pregnancy (I thought I was 7 weeks but was told on Tuesday I was 5 weeks+2).
I went to back to A&E last Thursday as I have been bleeding since the scan (I always bleed after smears so thought it may be due to this) - started off as barely any blood on wiping to heavier although still nothing like a period and only one clot to date. This has since turned to a brown discharge (stringy) - apologies for TMI. I had further blood tests on Thursday night and was told my HCG levels have barely increased so was basically told I am miscarrying. Since this time I have continued to bleed (on wiping - sometimes red but mainly brown stringy discharge still). I had more blood tests this morning and again my HCG levels have hardly increased let alone doubled (early 4000's Thurs and late 4000's this morning). I have subsequently been told it is a 'failed pregnancy' but need to go back this Monday morning for further blood tests. I wad given no advice on when I may miscarry etc and was told it could take up to 2-weeks to pass the 'baby' naturally and for my hormone levels to start to decrease again and only then would they consider surgery to remove what's left.
I know this is a job they do every day and see millions of cases but I really feel so unsupported. I have little support around me - partner is useless (I was ending the relationship when I discovered I was pregnant and I was over the moon and cant believe how much I love the little 'bean' in the week I have known about his/her existence; especially after seeing it on the scan screen).
I cant bear the thought of having to wait around to pass the baby; especially after reading how painful it can be. I can not take any time off work, and working as a Social Worker with many new-born babies, I am absolutely terrified it will happen at work. I have told my Manager about the situation as I was due to go on Pre-Birth training this Monday and cant face the idea, so have said I will not be in as I have blood tests anyway first thing that day :-(
I am 36 and never been pregnant before so all of this is new to me. I didn't think I could have children after getting raped aged 19 and being left in a bit of a mess internally and having lots of Gynae problems over the years. It was a miracle and although it was not planned and I was shocked, I feel that little bean saved my life!
I wondered if anyone has been through similar or has any advice for me.

many thanks

C4ALR Fri 01-Feb-13 16:12:20

I still havent come on yet so im still hoping abit. Iv come away for the weekend with my mum and sister for a.weekend of shopping so hopefully it will cheer me up abit xx

janey1234 Thu 31-Jan-13 12:39:17

It is so unfair. But horribly, horribly common. It will be awful until you've passed your due date, even if you are pregnant by then, as you'll always be thinking I'd be x many weeks pregnant. Oddly once I passed that date it did start to feel better.

But you WILL get pregnant soon. And if the drugs have worked for you once they will work again. This might not be your month but you will get there

Poor you sad xxx

C4ALR Thu 31-Jan-13 11:32:41

I dnt understand it tho cos I still havent come on, which makes me wonder if the tablets even actually worked this time, oh I dnt no il just have to wait and see what happens... And just wait for a period to cone wen it does I spose.

I just feel I shouldnt even feel like this now I should b gettin excited for my arrival id b 23 weeks by now and instead I am stressing out and crying.. It feels so so unfair x

Hope ur well and ok and thanks by the way xx

janey1234 Thu 31-Jan-13 09:58:46

Of course you do, EVERYONE has horrendous disappointment each month they get a BFN, and that's without having been through what you've been through. So this might not be your month, but that's NORMAL. The vast majority of people don't get pregnant the first time they try, so statistically it's bound to take you a few goes. But you WILL get there. You've done it once, so you can do it again. Please please try not to be too down as it will all work out for you in the end....xxxxx

C4ALR Wed 30-Jan-13 22:25:55

I had convinced myself today I was going to get a positive test so I done one as to my workings out I thought I was due on tomorro and it'still came back negative.

I feel really rubish tonight now, I no theres still time but that doesnt help me feeling like this today, I just keep cryin for no reason xx

C4ALR Wed 30-Jan-13 10:38:23

I cant imagine having another one, im scared if I am or if I do fall pregnant again it will happen again because I dont no how I would cope.

I agree I havnt forgot not by a long shot but it has got easier. Im not sure how many threads u have read but I have pcos so have to take clomid to help me conceive, last time I fell straight away I am currently waitin to do a pregnancy test as I am due to have a period start tomorrow so fingers crossed it doesnt come smile

Thank u for your positive thoughts and I am very sorry to hear about ur losses x

Franimal Tue 29-Jan-13 22:08:04

I've suffered two missed miscarriages, both exactly the same at 11 weeks (baby not grown past 6 weeks) and whilst on holiday. Awful... There is a light, after first miscarriage we conceived in 3 months and now do have a little girl. After second miscarriage we conceived in 2 months, this time they'll let me have an early scan so fingers crossed... It is hard when all your friends are getting pregnant all around you and having an easy time. Important to be positive. You never forget but it does get easier with time.

C4ALR Tue 29-Jan-13 19:48:09

I want to wait til friday which will b a day after wen I think im due but im just so impaitent, so might do one tomoro ha x

janey1234 Tue 29-Jan-13 11:22:40

Argh typo, two mornings later, not to! x

janey1234 Tue 29-Jan-13 10:49:29

To mornings later, which was the morning before my period was due... xx

C4ALR Tue 29-Jan-13 10:38:06

What date did u get ur positive after u had had ur negative results x

C4ALR Mon 28-Jan-13 15:39:16

Yer I am tryin to think its just too early if I ov.wen I think I did 14 days after wil b thursday.

Last night and this afternoon I have had period like pains... I remember gettin them last time I was pregnant cos I kept thinkin I was goin to come on... Just not sure if they r.propa period pains or not x

janey1234 Mon 28-Jan-13 11:06:48

I'm not trying to give you false hope, but here's my story.

Had started my period 2nd October. Tested on weds 24th October and got BFN (I think 10 days after ovulation). Tested on Fri 26th October and got BFP (I think 12 days after ovulation). Used a first response early response test both times. So it is possible to get a negative when you test too early.

But also remember that I think there's only a something like 30% chance of getting pregnant on any one cycle, whether you're on clomid or not, so don't give up hope if this isn't your month - it's just normal for it to take a few months smile

C4ALR Mon 28-Jan-13 10:49:11

Yer ur right, im not 100% sure wen it is due I no its between now and the next 7 days, I think it may b thursday as that would b 14 days after ov, but were c sad x

janey1234 Mon 28-Jan-13 08:32:08

sad sad sad sad sad sad sad sad sad

There's still hope - as I said I think they're about 60% accurate at this point, but 99% accurate on the day your period is due. xxx

C4ALR Mon 28-Jan-13 07:40:51

It was negative sad im goin to try and wait till the end of the thr week to do anuva one as long as I dnt get rhe dreaded P word start, by then I shud get a true reading surely.x

C4ALR Sun 27-Jan-13 22:11:24

Yer I no im just to impaitent but il ley u no x

janey1234 Sun 27-Jan-13 20:51:05

Well good luck for tomorrow then! But remember that if you get a negative don't give up - the tests aren't as effective until your period is due...xx

C4ALR Sun 27-Jan-13 18:36:38

I can test monday I think that would b 10 days after wen I think I ovulated and the test I got says u can do it 4 days before a missed period x

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