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Missed miscarriage

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C4ALR Tue 16-Oct-12 22:12:01

I have found out today I have had a missed miscarriage. I still have the foetus in my womb. I have opted to pass it naturally instead of surgery but a now bit scared as unsure what to expect?
Am I going to go to the toilet and pass a large clot?
Please help sad

janey1234 Tue 22-Jan-13 15:33:59

Oh no, that sucks!! Still, good to get it sorted out now. And yes, the two week wait is horrifically slow, it feels like time has stood still! And I hate to say it, but time stays really slow until (in my experience) you get safely past the point you miscarried last time - which for me meant 12 whole weeks. Thankfully seems to have sped up a bit again now so almost back to normal.

No she hasn't, she's in the maldives at the moment so won't be starting it until she's back from there. I really do hope that it works for both VERY quickly, you both deserve it so much.

16 week midwife appointment today. Had a bit of blood on Sunday which made me feel sick, so had to wait until today for the routine appt. She explained that they don't usually listen for the heartbeat at 16 weeks as more often than not you can't find it. I think my bf and I looked so disappointed that she took pity on us: she tried, found it, and all is well. Such a relief smile

C4ALR Tue 22-Jan-13 20:48:20

That is bizare they told u that cos I had a scan at 5 weeks and they found a heartbeat. Last time for about a.week b4 I done a test I had like period pains but iv got nothin so im wondering if it aint happenrd this time.

Bet u were so scared wen u saw.blood I would of freaked out big time.
So glad all is well for you I really am pleased x

janey1234 Wed 23-Jan-13 09:26:48

No I think with scans they can pick them up really early, but the midwife only has a doppler hearing thingy and I think they don't pick things up in the same way as scans...

Oh, I really hope it has, but if it hasn't, there's always next month. At least your body is back to working normally now.

xx

C4ALR Thu 24-Jan-13 09:35:46

Oh right I see, I thought u meant you were goin for a scan.

I did have some funny feelings happening in my tummy yday but im not sure if im imagining them cos I want it so bad. Only a few more days till I can test smile x

janey1234 Thu 24-Jan-13 10:55:09

Did you say it was monday you could test? Argh, not long now smile

Any kind of twinges are, in my experience, a good thing.

But remember, if it's not this month don't despair, it WILL still happen xxx

C4ALR Fri 25-Jan-13 14:36:24

Oh god I hope so, iv done a test last nighy but it came up negative but I was too eager think it was much to early, well_ fingers crossed it was just too early.

Only couple more days to go!!

I no noy to expect it to happen straight away but I no I am going to be so gutted if it hasnt worked but im tryin really hard to'stay positive x

janey1234 Fri 25-Jan-13 16:41:08

Of course you are, I understand that and would be too. But at least you can try again next month...

Right - will be thinking of you ALL weekend that you get good news next time you text. Oh and remember it's best to test first thing in the morning because the hormones are less diluted and more concentrated in your urine....

GOOD LUCK! xxx

C4ALR Fri 25-Jan-13 19:58:21

Thank u, I am wishing the weekend away ha x

janey1234 Sat 26-Jan-13 19:19:53

When can you test? Tomorrow or Monday? Fingers crossed for you!!xx

C4ALR Sun 27-Jan-13 18:36:38

I can test monday I think that would b 10 days after wen I think I ovulated and the test I got says u can do it 4 days before a missed period x

janey1234 Sun 27-Jan-13 20:51:05

Well good luck for tomorrow then! But remember that if you get a negative don't give up - the tests aren't as effective until your period is due...xx

C4ALR Sun 27-Jan-13 22:11:24

Yer I no im just to impaitent but il ley u no x

C4ALR Mon 28-Jan-13 07:40:51

It was negative sad im goin to try and wait till the end of the thr week to do anuva one as long as I dnt get rhe dreaded P word start, by then I shud get a true reading surely.x

janey1234 Mon 28-Jan-13 08:32:08

sad sad sad sad sad sad sad sad sad

There's still hope - as I said I think they're about 60% accurate at this point, but 99% accurate on the day your period is due. xxx

C4ALR Mon 28-Jan-13 10:49:11

Yer ur right, im not 100% sure wen it is due I no its between now and the next 7 days, I think it may b thursday as that would b 14 days after ov, but were c sad x

janey1234 Mon 28-Jan-13 11:06:48

I'm not trying to give you false hope, but here's my story.

Had started my period 2nd October. Tested on weds 24th October and got BFN (I think 10 days after ovulation). Tested on Fri 26th October and got BFP (I think 12 days after ovulation). Used a first response early response test both times. So it is possible to get a negative when you test too early.

But also remember that I think there's only a something like 30% chance of getting pregnant on any one cycle, whether you're on clomid or not, so don't give up hope if this isn't your month - it's just normal for it to take a few months smile

C4ALR Mon 28-Jan-13 15:39:16

Yer I am tryin to think its just too early if I ov.wen I think I did 14 days after wil b thursday.

Last night and this afternoon I have had period like pains... I remember gettin them last time I was pregnant cos I kept thinkin I was goin to come on... Just not sure if they r.propa period pains or not x

C4ALR Tue 29-Jan-13 10:38:06

What date did u get ur positive after u had had ur negative results x

janey1234 Tue 29-Jan-13 10:49:29

To mornings later, which was the morning before my period was due... xx

janey1234 Tue 29-Jan-13 11:22:40

Argh typo, two mornings later, not to! x

C4ALR Tue 29-Jan-13 19:48:09

I want to wait til friday which will b a day after wen I think im due but im just so impaitent, so might do one tomoro ha x

Franimal Tue 29-Jan-13 22:08:04

I've suffered two missed miscarriages, both exactly the same at 11 weeks (baby not grown past 6 weeks) and whilst on holiday. Awful... There is a light, after first miscarriage we conceived in 3 months and now do have a little girl. After second miscarriage we conceived in 2 months, this time they'll let me have an early scan so fingers crossed... It is hard when all your friends are getting pregnant all around you and having an easy time. Important to be positive. You never forget but it does get easier with time.

C4ALR Wed 30-Jan-13 10:38:23

I cant imagine having another one, im scared if I am or if I do fall pregnant again it will happen again because I dont no how I would cope.

I agree I havnt forgot not by a long shot but it has got easier. Im not sure how many threads u have read but I have pcos so have to take clomid to help me conceive, last time I fell straight away I am currently waitin to do a pregnancy test as I am due to have a period start tomorrow so fingers crossed it doesnt come smile

Thank u for your positive thoughts and I am very sorry to hear about ur losses x

C4ALR Wed 30-Jan-13 22:25:55

I had convinced myself today I was going to get a positive test so I done one as to my workings out I thought I was due on tomorro and it'still came back negative.

I feel really rubish tonight now, I no theres still time but that doesnt help me feeling like this today, I just keep cryin for no reason xx

janey1234 Thu 31-Jan-13 09:58:46

Of course you do, EVERYONE has horrendous disappointment each month they get a BFN, and that's without having been through what you've been through. So this might not be your month, but that's NORMAL. The vast majority of people don't get pregnant the first time they try, so statistically it's bound to take you a few goes. But you WILL get there. You've done it once, so you can do it again. Please please try not to be too down as it will all work out for you in the end....xxxxx

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