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"Push present"

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My preggy-friend asked me the other day what I was getting for my "Push Present"... I had no idea what she meant. She is having her third child and informed me that her husband had taken her to Hatton Gardens to buy an eternity ring for the "completion of their family"... how lovely, lucky her! I'm due to have my sixth (and last) child and as far as I'm aware no diamonds are coming my way!! Are Push Present normal??? Should I be upset?

Pootles2010 Mon 15-Oct-12 15:42:35

Push present? Is she not allowed it if she has a c-section?

megandraper Mon 15-Oct-12 15:42:51

My push present was a baby each time. Quite happy with that. I don't know anyone who's had anything else (or if they have they haven't mentioned it!)

terilou87 Mon 15-Oct-12 15:45:55

iv never heard this term before!!!angry 4th pregnancy my o/h has a lot of making up to do!! hmm should i ask for 4 separate rings or one really expensive one.... grin

sununu Mon 15-Oct-12 15:46:50

is she American? I heard this expression first in NYC, apparently quite a common thing with Manhattan wives of bankers. horrible expression, slightly odd concept IMO.

UnChartered Mon 15-Oct-12 15:48:32

is this for real? a gift for having a baby? are babies now attached to possessions?

EdithWeston Mon 15-Oct-12 15:52:11

I think this new term is an abomination, but yes it's been common for ages to be given an eternity ring or other jewellery on the occasion of childbirth. But it's far from 'compulsory' and doesn't have to be bling.

colditz Mon 15-Oct-12 15:52:22

<<faint moue of disgust>>

stargirl1701 Mon 15-Oct-12 15:53:01

I got an iPad grin

Ok, well I won't subtly stick a list of push present ideas to the fridge then... but if it were a spontaneous gift from hubs for presenting him with his sixth child it would be lovely...

ThreeWheelsGood Mon 15-Oct-12 16:05:07

Haha, I've only heard of this on Real Housewives of Orange County. One wife got a fancy new car as her push present. I think it's just something rich Americans invented, I agree with the poster above who says the baby is the present!

nickeldaisical Mon 15-Oct-12 16:10:20

whilst i agree that a "push present" is tosh, I do like the idea of getting pressies for having given birth. grin
(this counts for c-sections as well as VBs - major abdominal surgery is worth a pressie!)

in fact, I use it as an excuse everytime i want something that I can't really justify buying.
"DH i need a new bra - well, i did have a baby!"
"DH, I need a new top - none of mine fit me because of the baby"
and "dh, i want a pressie on DD's birthday - it is my birthday, I'm the one who gave birth"
etc.

MyDaydream Mon 15-Oct-12 16:18:09

DP would laugh at me and explain not bring pregnant anymore is my push present.

melliebobs Mon 15-Oct-12 16:21:44

Dh got me a bf bracelet. It cost about £5 and there's a lil charm on it that says breast buddies on one side and this side next on the other. Lol it was only a lil token after all I had a nice new squishy baby but almost cried the other day thinking I'll have to stop wearing it when I stop bf

MrsBungleBear Mon 15-Oct-12 16:22:01

I got presents for giving birth from DH! Wasn't called a push present though. My DD was born in June and the birth stone is pearl so I got a pink pearl ring which I love. My DS was born in May and I've not had my present yet as not found anything I like yet but it will be something with an emerald.

I like collecting jewelry not that I have much so its really just to commemorate their births.

cbeebiesatemybrain Mon 15-Oct-12 16:32:43

Thats quite a yucky term! Dh bought me a bunch of flowers to say thanks for his new dd, I was touched grin

Horrible term! I got a teddy bear charm for my bracelet, and a pair of uggs for our DS's birth. Had no idea I was getting anything. My lovely inlaws also gave me a gorgeous jewellery set, and my fantastic parents looked after my DH whilst I was in hospital, and then all of us when I came out. All lovely gifts smile

Polipencoch Mon 15-Oct-12 16:46:27

Don't think push present is very nice. I'm not expecting anything. But due to being admitted to hospital (35 weeks, probably for the duration) I have been bought a dongle and a kindle. And a mug. Perhaps not bling or romantic but at least practical! (aside - a few years ago neither dongles nor kindles existed - what would I have done!)

Jakeyblueblue Mon 15-Oct-12 17:01:47

Dh bought me an eternity ring after I had ds but I thought that tradition? Am I wrong? Never heard of a push present though!

SquealyB Mon 15-Oct-12 17:03:44

Slighty vulgar term which originated in the US.

Your present is your lovely little baby! If you get something else, all well and good, but there should certainly be no expectation. And no reason to berate poor DH.

Dogsmom Mon 15-Oct-12 17:22:18

We recently went shopping to buy a present for our next door neighbours new baby and my husband commented said 'I always think you should buy the Mother a present'.

Naturally I now wont let him forget this comment as I am 19 weeks pregnant and am looking forward to seeing what he buys me grin

DuelingFanjo Mon 15-Oct-12 17:23:45

I also got a baby, I was really pleased with it.

CaptainHetty Mon 15-Oct-12 17:24:45

...Does a pastry and a cup of tea from Costa count? I was quite happy with it grin

IShallCallYouSquishy Mon 15-Oct-12 17:26:38

I'm still waiting for mine! DH wasn't too impressed by the idea, for some reason he thinks I don't need a LV handbag angry

My beautiful DD was the best present I could have asked for though grin

JustSpidero Mon 15-Oct-12 17:28:38

I had a jam doughnut with a candle in it - was still in hospital after having DD a week later on my own birthday!

I did get an eternity ring the following year the arrival of which coincided with our 1st and 30th birthday's respectively.

If I'd actually said to DH I was expecting a 'push present' he'd have either PHSL or told me in no uncertain terms to jog on probably both!

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