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Is 'pregnancy glow' a myth?

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Dogsmom Thu 23-Aug-12 18:02:28

This is my first pregnancy, I'm 11 weeks and feeling tired, sick, narky, spotty etc, I've read that the first trimester isn't pleasant and was hoping that I'd soon be feeling the 'pregnancy glow' I've heard about.

However after reading lots of posts on here and other forums it seems that women go on to have spd, sore abdomens, back pain in the 2nd tri and then in the 3rd tri feel huge, bloated, uncomfortable and are desperate for it all to be over.

Is there really a glow at any time during pregnancy? is there ever a time when women feel normal? or is it really an unpleasant 9 months?

Littlemissmagnet Tue 25-Sep-12 08:59:20

DS 1 wasn't too sick, dizzy but no glow
D? 2 a lot lot sicker, tireder and fatter and no glow yet 19 weeks so far. hmm

JennerOSity Tue 28-Aug-12 06:19:36

Pavlovthecat grin

JennerOSity Tue 28-Aug-12 06:18:29

I am normally pasty and pale but thanks to pregnancy tendency to catch the sun have a golden glow instead. That with being so thirsty all the time means I am drinking gallons and being well hydrated makes me look fresh instead of haggard. So those things are making me look better than I feel smile

Twins. Vomited until 13 weeks, with a few green moments right up to 16 weeks. IF I wasn't retching I was asleep. Absolutely pole-axed for months.
Felt INVINCIBLE around 16-20 weeks, got lost on a long walk and ended up on some very hilly downs for around 3.5 hours. Was a bit tired, but felt fine.
HIDEOUS SPD from around 25 weeks.
Premature labour at 30 weeks.

I am SHOCKING at pregnancy! grin. Fortunately I don't have to do it again...

What was even more shocking was the bits of my body I thought were holding together post-labour just looked horrendous. My feet were the size of an elephants' hooves for starters.

clarabella1980 Sun 26-Aug-12 08:43:18

It took me until about 18 weeks, when the nausea finally disappeared. I was still very tired, which continued all the way through, but my hair, skin and nails were fab and everyone constantly told me how well I looked. So I guess that would count as glowing? At about 24 weeks I developed SPD, and it's all gone downhill from there really! 37+4 now and on the countdown!

Whatiswitnit Sat 25-Aug-12 23:27:01

First pgcy I was spotty, hairy and pasty for seven months and then also massively bloated with oedema due to pre-eclampsia. No glowing for me.

Second pgcy I looked great! Washed out during first trimester sickness and knackered towards the end, but generally my skin and hair were fab and aside from a huge bump I stayed in good shape.

Tgger Sat 25-Aug-12 22:47:27

And yes, it doesn't really come until after the sickly first bit, so around 14-22 weeks, so hold on!

Tgger Sat 25-Aug-12 22:46:45

For me it was relief from PMT- maybe I get it worse than most but not going through that hormonal cycle each month equalled GLOW in my book!

PavlovtheCat Sat 25-Aug-12 22:33:15

For me it was not anything like a glow! More like a green aura.

88am12 Sat 25-Aug-12 21:12:08

I loved my first pregnancy once i hit about 16weeks, I've got to that stage again now and fining i'm more tired but i do have a 2 and a half year old to run around after!
Just cherish the good moments and no doubt you'll look back on this time as one of the better ones of your life!

SayCoolNowSayWhip Sat 25-Aug-12 19:17:11

Personally I think it's a myth. This is my second pregnancy and it's ten times worse than my first one, which was pretty awful. The only plus side is that this time I know it WILL be worth it at the end.

Hang in there. Don't beat yourself up about the social constructs of required feelings during pregnancy - you'll feel how you'll feel and no one will be able to change it. And yes, you will be tired and sore afterwards as well, BUT you'll have a beautiful baby to cuddle and adore.

The rare moments of absolute euphoria and incandescent happiness that occur randomly during your child's first year(s) completely outweigh all the crappy tiredness, hormonal mood swings, changed body shape, non-existent social life etc etc. I promise.

LoobyLou33 Sat 25-Aug-12 19:16:27

I'm just pregnant again (got one DS) and really hating the nausea phase again. That was a real shock to me first time round, as I'd only heard the phrase "morning sickness" and assumed you felt OK the rest of the time. I've never felt worse in my life! It went at about 17 weeks last time, then I did feel pretty normal til week 37, when tiredness caught up a bit.

However my face went a bit puffy which I hated, so I always felt pregnant-me was like an ugly sister to normal-me! No one else seemed to notice but I felt like I had 3 chins! Everyone around me said I was glowing but I think people just say that cos they like the bump!!

Someone above (OP perhaps?) mentioned about being tired after the birth. Of course that's true...but somehow it's a different tiredness, and I actually felt a lot better than when I was pregnant. The hormones must kick in and give you extra battery power...I did get shattered after 3 months of sleep deprivation, but at the start it was amazing how you can cope!

fussychica Sat 25-Aug-12 19:03:45

I was lucky enough to have a fantastic pregnancy complete with glow. Everyone said I looked really well and didn't look pregnant from behind - unlike from the front - old wives tale says that it would therefore be a boy, well it's 50% chance and in this case the old wife (my mum) was right! Kept any morning sickness away by constantly dipping into a bag of nuts, raisins & carrot sticks (probably now regarded as totally wrong thing to do but worked for me). wink
Good luck to all expectant mums.

MammyToMany Sat 25-Aug-12 14:40:23

I'm 17 weeks and am starting to feel vaguely human again although am still greasy and spotty. And I look fat rather than pregnant. Still, better than the previous weeks!

arthurfowlersallotment Sat 25-Aug-12 14:33:48

I looked fabulous (if I say so meself).
Glowing skin and shiny, bouncy hair, a big but tidy bump and no back fat. However I felt like shit, smelled a bit like cooked chicken, was massively constipated and extremely farty.

Now, four months post partum I have a saggy tum, back fat (comfort eating), my hair is falling out and I have a lovely grey pallor from lack of iron and sleep.

squidkid Sat 25-Aug-12 13:10:36

Lots of people have told me I looked fab throughout pregnancy... I think I look better than I feel! Well it's variable... very tired some days and others still energetic. Wouldn't say anything is BETTER than pre-pregnancy though... perhaps my hair. Also yeah! the hair on my legs has all but stopped growing (and I'm very pale with very black hair so normally it's a pain). That's a bonus.

I'm 36 weeks and felt best in early third trimester. I showed late so I think I just looked a bit podgy in second trimester, didn't really have a proper bump till 25-26 weeks. Once I had the definite bump I looked much better.

This is my first baby though and most people seem to feel/look better with first babies!

fridascruffs Sat 25-Aug-12 13:09:22

2nd trimester = best orgasms of my life. Definitely something to do with hormones and I wish they could bottle it.

OhDoAdmitMrsDeVere Sat 25-Aug-12 12:55:22

I look bloody brilliant after the first 8 weeks. My hair is thick, my skin is lovely, even the hair on my legs stops growing.

I turn into a total loon though. Absolutely nuts.

A doctor once told me that women who get bad pmt often bloom in pregnancy. I get horrible pmt and I fear for my poor family when I hit menopause.

Funnywonder Sat 25-Aug-12 02:28:29

No glow here at 37 weeks, nor has there been throughout. I am told I look great, but it's all smoke and mirrors, with me compensating for how utterly tragic I look wih an extra layer of slap. My hair is dry as a bone and, while I don't have spots for once in my life, I have lovely brown giraffe-like patches all over my face. There's no inner glow either, unless the constant hot lava bubbling up my oesophagus counts. I'm just bleeding miserable .... not that it shows or anything! My first pregnancy wasn't much better, apart from not being as shattered having to be a full time clown and general dogsbody to a 4 year old boy (who I love dearly or I most certainly would not be putting myself through this again).

lottiegarbanzo Fri 24-Aug-12 23:19:11

The feeling great started round 13 weeks or me. Felt very tired and a bit sick in the first trimester and everything smelt and tasted weird. All a little bit yuck.

lottiegarbanzo Fri 24-Aug-12 23:16:18

I felt great in the 2nd trimester, better than usual, energised, relaxed and I think looked good too. So yes, it's real.

Didn't feel bad in the 3rd trimester, just got bigger. It took until three months after birth for the effects of he hormones to fade so that my hair started dropping out again, of course lots at once by then.

I also had hip pain but that's a bit beside the point, as part injury related, though part hormonal too. It was exacerbated by weiht bearing exercise and when I stopped that and just swam and walked short distances it diminished. Pre-natal Pilates was good too.

ShesADreamer Fri 24-Aug-12 23:07:47

Previous pregnancies: no sickness, hair/skin/nails great, lots of energy, worked up until my due date and fairly neat bumps so 'didn't look preg from behind'.

Now preg with twins and have had to get anti sickness meds from doc to keep any food or liquids down, am spotty, hairy, blotchy, swollen, greasy haired and fucking knackered!

Oh and sick to the back teeth of fibogel but still can't shit for love nor money!

caryltho Fri 24-Aug-12 22:53:11

Dont want to jinx things but Im feeling pretty good at 30 weeks pregnant, have a few complaints but nothing major, people tell me that I am glowing or blooming. Enjoy being pregnant and this is my first.

totallynaive Fri 24-Aug-12 22:22:37

I had HG (i.e. was very very sick) for the first half of my pregnancy, but once that went I started to get lovely thick glossy hair, strong nails and beautiful youthful skin. I thought I looked amazing.

Sadly after 7.5 months I got hippo ankles from water retention and a face to match.

Hopefullyrecovering Fri 24-Aug-12 21:33:51

It's the luck of the draw, and it varies between pregnancies, IME

First pregnancy was brilliant. No sickness, lots of excitement and jolliness, worked up until two weeks after due date, incredible amounts of energy. Was fab

Second pregnancy was also really good but perhaps not quite so energetic and enthusiastic as the first. More tiredness, a lot of sicky feelings but no actual vomiting. Still worked up to two weeks before due date. Slightly swollen ankles. Slightly less energy. But still, y'know, pretty good. No problems or issues.

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