Just curious about this. I haven't put it very well in the title but what I meant was: I was never particularly broody before or even in the early stages of marriage. Nor did I ever feel that I "should give dh a baby" or whatever. However, there came a point in the relationship where I wanted to take the marriage to greater heights and I wanted to have a child with dh rather than a child per se IYSWIM. So at least when trying to get pregnant I was mainly thinking about wanting to carry dh's child and wanting us to have a child to deepen our relationship. It was only after the birth that the whole focus fell on ds and I realised what a blessing it was to have a child (and to want more :)).
So, I'm just curious what motivated other people to try to get pregnant. Was it feeling broody,independently of the relationship or was it a next step in the relationship etc.
Sorry this is a bit rambling but just curious, if anyone can make head or tail of what I mean :).
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did you get pregnant because you were broody or for the sake of your relationship?
cranberryheights · 28/02/2006 22:11
To be totally honest, I wanted a baby because I was selfish. I wanted to have it all. To move out of home, to get married, to have a baby. Also partly because the doc had told me I would need help concieving so I so desperatly started to want a baby, because id been told i couldnt. I never thought long term, I never thought of the commitment or of the restrictions it would place on my life (I was a very spoilt 18 year old)
When my ds arrived he was my entire world and still is. He is the reason I get up in the morning. His personality is so like mine, he makes me laugh and spending time with him is one of my favourite things to do. I love him more than I ever thought would be possible when I think back to my spoilt princess type self 4 years ago.
With DS2 it was a shock although not totally unexpected. I was breast feeding so didnt expect to get pregnant. There was never the amount of thought that went into having ds1, the testing and the waiting for fertile days, he was just meant to be. He is a wonderful little brother to ds1 and his personality is so like dh. Hes a daddys boy. I am so glad that I was careless as I wouldnt be without him now. He is charming and sweet tempered.
Although saying that I wont be having anymore! I have grown up enough to know that the world doesnt revolve around me and that I want to really get to know my boys and enjoy spending time with them.
Wow - sorry, im not even sure I amswered the question, I just started rambling sorry 
Before my firstborn, I wasn't broody...myself and DH just felt the time was right (-ish) for a baby...he concieved at first 'try'.
This time around I have been extreemely broody for a year, have been trying for 6 months, but no baba yet. So wish me luck please! 
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I got very broody after 28 years of adamantly saying i'd NEVER have kids. and it really pissed off my sis so that helped!!
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If I am totally honest I wanted DS1 because my mum died and I felt like I needed something else in my life but I was in a good relationship and had realistic expectations of the difficulties of motherhood and as such, I coped really well and cherish my son - DS2 came along because we were still on a high from DS1 and thought another one would be fun! It certainly has been fun having 2 in nappies!
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