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Pregnant with no. 3 / 4 / 5...?!

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LimeLeafLizard Thu 14-Jun-12 10:02:04

Just wondering if anyone else is pg with their 3rd, 4th, 5th, or more?!

I am newly pg with baby number 4 and finding it a bit different this time.

Yesterday I flicked through a couple of magazines but the content didn't seem that relevant to me. I am quietly happy but not nearly as excited or nervous as I was before, especially the first time.

I know what kind of birth I want (same as the last two times) and I don't need to buy any stuff, so there doesn't seem so much to think about, at least until the scan.

I am also a bit worried about how other people are going to react when we tell them. There seems to be a general view that wanting 4 children must make us mad.

Hope I am not alone?!

cjbk1 Fri 29-Jun-12 14:00:05

limeleaf I'm not completely sure but I take dd hitting my bump as jealousy

Cravingtomatoes Fri 29-Jun-12 17:22:02

Hi I'm 14 wks pg with dc no 4. I have had neg reactions from my mum and others, and I've actually not bothered telling many people this time as I can't be arsed explaining it or myself. So am now getting funny looks from friends as they don't want to ask in case I'm just getting fat! Have had mainly comments along the lines of "you'll have your hands full" and I wouldn't have dcs so close together in age. I'm not feeling very diplomatic anymore either. Good to meet other ladies on here going through the same. It's very reassuring.

TruthSweet Fri 29-Jun-12 17:22:49

Hi all and congratulations on all your pgs!

I'm 28 weeks with DD4. I have DD1 6y3m, DD2 4y7m & DD3 2y8m. They are beyond excited at the thought of a new baby luckily but this was our first surprise baby so DH & I were shell shocked for a while wink

LimeLeafLizard Sun 01-Jul-12 21:48:33

Hello, well I've managed to survive a weekend with MIL without her guessing - she has a special talent for sniffing out pregnancy!

Craving sorry to hear you've had a couple of neg reactions, I know just what you mean about cba to explain my reasoning to people. I also relate to not feeling diplomatic anymore!

Congrats Truth, what a lovey surprise! Great that your DDs are so happy.

TruthSweet Sun 01-Jul-12 22:06:59

I've had quite a few people commiserating with me (or trying to!) when they find out it's DD4 not DS1 I'm carrying. As though I care one way or another what genitals my baby has just as long as it's one or the other! Having said that a 4th girl does make life easier from a room sharing point of view!

icequeenkate Mon 02-Jul-12 17:47:13

It's so reassuring to read that others are going through the same thing, iyswim? My mother has hardly uttered a word to me since I told her. Silence. Makes life tricky as Dad is really concerned for me, which is sweet and very typical of him. Apparently she told my mw (who is a mutual friend) that she thought I'd 'gone and done it because I was desperate for a girl'. Well actually, I'm not. As truth said above, I want a playmate for DS3 so a DD1 would completely put the cat among the pigeons!!

Sorry- had to get that off my expanding chest. Feel better now. Thanks. grin.

Hope everyone is keeping well?

Doraemon Mon 02-Jul-12 18:00:38

Can I join in? Just found out I'm pregnant with number 3, already had DS1 (7) and DS2 (5) - DC3 was planned but only fairly vaguely and now I'm panicking a bit and haven't told DH yet as he's away with work..... Please some one tell me a third after a big gap is wonderful!

LimeLeafLizard Tue 10-Jul-12 19:03:41

Hello, thought I'd revive this thread.

I'm 8+6 now and still managing to keep it quiet in front of the many people I see day to day.

Lack of symptoms is great in one respect (I don't miss the nausea) but also unnerving as I am worried I'll get to the 12 week scan and it will be bad news.

I am noticing a slight increase in girth now though. Nothing like last time, when I looked 5 months gone at 5 weeks, but am doing up the belt one notch looser.

Hope all is OK with you ladies?

Hi Lime, I have made it to 12+4 and my scan yesterday was good. I've had some awful bleeding but somehow the baby is just fine. I'm in a bit of a tizz waiting for the results of the combined test - at my great age I start out as high risk. I'm just hoping not to get a phone call. You're doing well not to tell anyone. I've been off work now for four weeks with the most hideous nausea. Hopefully going back Monday for the last week of term. Have you got your scan date yet?

HaitchJay Tue 10-Jul-12 19:11:11

Hi, I've just found out I'm pg with DC4. Somewhere between 4-8 weeks as we weren't ttc and I was on the pillhmm we were planning on ttc later this year so it's a change in plans rather than total disruption!

I've three dds (12,10,1) so a girl would make life more straightforward in a 3 bed house (& we have lots of girl stuff!) although it would be nice to have a boy as I've not had one!

LimeLeafLizard Tue 10-Jul-12 19:59:42

Hi Spring, lovely to hear from you, I'm so glad you and baby have made it this far despite all the scary bleeding. The nausea must be truly terrible for you to have so long off work, poor you. Suddenly I feel very grateful to be symptomless. I hope your sickness eases now you're coming into the second trimester.

My scan date is 2nd August and I will also have a much higher starting risk this time too. FX it is all good news.

Hello Haitch, Congratulations on your lovely surprise! It will be great for your little one to have a sibling close in age, just as your older two do. Have you any MW / scan dates in the diary yet? Will you be offered an early dating scan to find out how far along you are?

HaitchJay Tue 10-Jul-12 20:06:42

Hi Lime, no appointments yet, I was entirely hospital care last time so I need to wait for the referral. GP suggested waiting a couple of weeks for the scan as if I'm at the 4 week end one now won't show much, I'm ok with that as an empty scan would be more stressful! The consultant may do one as soon as I get to them anyway.

Hi spring I was on Oct 2010 with you. Name changed slightly!

Oh my god HJ? Is that you? I was going to post and say what a brilliant age gap you had but you know that already! How exciting, you were everso poorly last time, I bet your consultant will be delighted to see you! One day I'm hoping to stop feeling sick, I might even, if I'm really lucky enjoy food again <<clinging on to a distant memory of loving food>>

Evening everyone! I'm 23 weeks today!

Lime most of my friends know now - but still haven't told my work yet. Am planning to enlighten them next week - really can't imagine how they will take it...my bump is getting really massive now, so am struggling to hide it!

I am also high risk this time around as I have just turned the ripe old age of 35, which seems to be a magic number for the NHS! Have avoided any hospital appointments so far, other than 1 glucose test....but have had to give in and agree to go in a couple of weeks - I figured I would have told work by then, so it would be a bit easier logistically.

Dora I was one of 3, and our youngest brother was 7 years younger - he always got lots of attention from his older brother and sister!

HaitchJay Tue 10-Jul-12 20:34:52

Hi Spring! GPs reaction wasn't great, he'd just got me on BP meds I wasn't having weird side affects too and were working and sent me away for 3 months.

needsomesunshine Tue 10-Jul-12 20:47:16

I'm 34 weeks with Ds5! 4th pregnancy though due to previous twins. smile

DebParkson Tue 10-Jul-12 21:39:23

Hi I'm pregnant with number 3 after a big gap too. My boys are 9 and 11, really excited, due Feb. Would like 4 eventually.
I'm not planning on buying much this time, keeping it really simple! (And I'm starting from scratch really, have given away everything I had).
Have told a few peeps, but only 7 weeks so keeping it to myself. Its like my little secret (esp at work!)
Hope to get to know you all over next 9 months
Deb

HaitchJay Wed 11-Jul-12 07:31:52

Hi Deb you sound like me last time. Mine were 9&10 and I started from scratch, amazing how much I didn't bother with though that all the first timers seem to.

annelid Wed 11-Jul-12 08:34:18

Its good to see people with gaps! We are having no7 in Dec, but with a 6 yr gap to our youngest. I guess people thought we had finished! if the amount of surprised faces and comments we have had is anything to go by!

Cravingtomatoes Wed 11-Jul-12 08:45:28

Hi everyone hope your pregnancies are all progressing well. Congratulations to everyone too, needsomesunshine that's excellent news you're expecting twins!
lime my friend had no symptoms throughout 1st trimester, was so jealous as I get so sick. But I can see too how that would also be unnerving. Am sure all is well with bump and roll on your scan date so you can get reassurance. How come you will have a bigger risk this time round?
Am 16 weeks now, and luckily the weight gain has slowed after putting on 9 kgs in 1st trimester - f**k! Still not bothering to tell people and have them piss on my parade.

LimeLeafLizard Wed 11-Jul-12 12:45:11

For me, having no symptoms is mostly unnerving because it is so different to previous pregnancies, where I had constant nausea and sometimes vomiting, and put on lots of weight in the first trimester. A quick read on here and it makes me grateful not to be ill, though.

I will only have a bigger risk due to being older - over 35 this time, like 4kids says, it seems to be a magic number for risk.

Craving, grin @ not bothering to tell people so they don't piss on your parade! That sums it up for me!

Deb when in Feb are you due? I'm due around 12th / 13th I think, though I have a history of going overdue.

Cravingtomatoes Wed 11-Jul-12 13:19:58

lime hope the scan comes quickly for you, I think those 1st 12 weeks until the scan are always worrying. And yes it does get riskier as you get older, though I had DD3 at 37 and will be 39 when I have DC4 at the end of the year!

xkatyx Wed 11-Jul-12 17:13:59

Hi everyone, I'm not pregnant but have 5dc
9,6, 18 months and 6 months twins!!

Please don't worry about what anyone sais, people can be very rude!!!

And as for coping, it all falls into place and your pregnancy will fly past because u won't have much time to dwell on it as such smile

The only negative I found was with each pregnancy the more aches and pains there were. But it's all worth it.

Good luck all of you it's a very special time smile

HaitchJay Thu 12-Jul-12 12:41:50

How pregnant are everybody? Anyone else around pre 12 weeks?
I get v frustrated on the wait for appts/scan until it feels real. I've sort of got my head round it but I need more proof now!

annelid Thu 12-Jul-12 12:50:02

I'm 17 weeks today

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