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early pregnancy and not told anyone yet

11 replies

KatyN · 16/03/2011 19:33

Hello,
I've been reading the threads and would like some of your lovely comforting!!
I'm 6 weeks pregnant and only my husband knows. we're seeing all out family in a fortnight and wanted to wait to tell them in person,
however I'm feeling pretty rough. I normally need a lot of sleep but this last week I've been sleeping every spare minute of the day. I'm really struggling with not having anyone to talk to and compare experiences.

I don't want to feel like a wosss but I'm just worrying that I never feel like I'm fully awake.

thanks
katy

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Coppernoddle · 16/03/2011 19:42

I was that poorly with all of mine people knew straight away! I had to ask for heaps of help as I was bed ridden in and out of hospital! And I don't think I could contain myself too!!! I found it easier to tell people as it would explain how awful I looked! And talking about it and sharing experiences really do help you through a long tough couple of weeks! And when you feel so rough, it goes so slow!! So any help and comforting words meant the world to me! But saying that, it would be lovely to surprise your family in person, you'll get heaps more fuss and cuddles!! X x

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ToriaPumpkinHead · 16/03/2011 19:42

Hi Katy!

First of all, congratulations

Second, I'm with you all the way. I'm just past eight weeks now and getting out of bed is becoming a mammoth task, walking up the stairs at work is beginning to feel like trekking around the Himalayas and tonight I sat on the sofa for an hour in the dark because I couldn't bring myself to get up, close the curtains and turn the lights on. My husband and I had a row about it last night as he doesn't seem to think I can possibly be as tired as I'm making out, and even asked me if I was going to tell the midwife about it tomorrow in a tone that suggested he thought I was putting it on. I told him of course I bloody was and promptly fell asleep Of course the eight week hormone surge I've been warned about is probably making him more annoying...

If this is your first baby there are a few ante natal clubs you can join, there are some for the month you're due in as well, there's always someone around to chat and keep you calm!

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spidookly · 16/03/2011 19:49

Congratulations Katy :)

I know exactly how you feel. It passes. Eventually :o

Tell your Mum by phone if you want to. Even if you should mc (and fx you don't) you would want her support anyway, right?

Also, that's why there are ante-natal clubs. When are you due? November? Do you go and talk to the other women due then? I found that an absolute godsend first time around.

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KatyN · 16/03/2011 19:52

oh aren't you nice.. I've just filled up reading these!! better go make dinner (and by that I mean putting pie that husband made in the microwave).

very wise words.. I will hunt out the november due clubs and think about talking to my mummy!!!!

kt

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marthamay · 17/03/2011 10:01

Hard isn't it. I say tell someone you can share with if it makes things easier.xxxxcongratualtions.

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PotteringAlong · 17/03/2011 10:53

I know exactly how you feel - I got my BFP on sunday so very very early days but do you know what, this is the first time I've actually said it (didn't have to tell DH as he went in to check the test!) - I'm pregnant!

ooh, feels really nice to have told someone... :)

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AppleyEverAfter · 17/03/2011 11:20

I was rubbish at not telling people, told my parents and a friend at 7 weeks but only cos I saw my mate and she literally said 'Are you pregnant?' I must have looked a right state. Told a few more people at 8 weeks then after the scan everyone knew. Can you not tell a friend who you can trust to keep your secret, maybe one who has children so she can share experiences with you? It does help to moan about the tiredness/sickness/wind etc!

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EldritchCleavage · 17/03/2011 11:25

Sympathy here too-it's been like a chemical cosh this time around. Falling asleep is like passing out, and however much I sleep I want to sleep more. It is getting better now (13 weeks) but I still daren't sit down in the evenings until the chores are done as I will wake up at 1 am and have to wobble upstairs to collapse into bed.

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JiltedJohnsJulie · 17/03/2011 11:30

Congratulations Katy, I got through the first few weeks by just saying that I was hungover if anyone asked.

Have you arranged your booking appointment with your MW yet? One thing they usually ask you at the first appointment is where you would like to give birth. Don't worry, you can change your mind, but it might be worth looking at the options now.

Take a look at BirthChoice and Homebirth.org.

You might also want to think about Antenatal Courses with the NCT

The tiredness does pass too

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JiltedJohnsJulie · 17/03/2011 11:31

If you sign up for the NCT Stepping Stones they send you some very useful emails too.

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KatyN · 18/03/2011 13:56

I had a REALLY rough night on Wednesday - was sick for most of it and so thursday morning I phoned my parents. They struggled to conceive (and miscarried a few times) so were really understanding why I didn't want to tell them, but also just the calming (and excited) noises I wanted to hear.
Feel SOOO Much better that they know!!

kt