I am almost nine weeks pregnant and work in a very stressful job - our department has high rates of stress-related sickness and problems with staff retention due to it, so when I say stressful it's not just my opinion.
Since I became pregnant the job has bothered me more and more. I used to embrace the pressure and I really was one of those people who liked when it was busy because it made the day pass faster and I would constantly push myself to top my targets and break my own record and stuff. Now though I'm just stressed all the time, I don't know if it's hormonal or what but the pressure is getting to me. I'm picking at my food, I can't sleep and when I do sleep I'm waking up at least once a night and my mind is on work when I do, I'm weepy a lot especially on work days - I can be fine all weekend but as soon as Monday rolls around I'm crying when it's time to get in the car and go to the office. I'm even crying while at work whenever the slightest thing doesn't go to plan, very embarrassing when it's in front of clients and not at all like me.
Management aren't especially sympathetic. They can't reduce my workload as it's client dictated and it's impossible to predict how many we'll have on any given day but even then they won't take the fact I'm stressed seriously - they're even planning to move me to a different department where the caseload and time demands are even more stressful! Their attitude is that I need to suck it up and get on with it with hints that I can forget about promotion if I don't which just makes me feel even worse because I don't know why I'm having such trouble coping now when it never bothered me before.
I've had some bleeding in the pregnancy which caused me to have some time off and I went in to work because I felt pressured to, like I was being too precious about my pregnant state and being overly cautious by staying home to rest for a couple of days. I had a huge argument with one of the other managers on Friday about some extra cases they're trying to push on me and on Friday night I had a huge bleed. I had a scan and baby is fine but it really scared me as I have a history of miscarriage both spontaneous and missed.
I've been off this week because of the bleed, I'm due back Monday and I'm dreading it, I get short of breath just thinking of it - especially if they switch me to the other department like they're planning.
My husband wants me to speak to our GP and get a Fit Note signing me off the sick for at least a few weeks so I can decompress and relax for a bit without worrying about the office. He thinks the stress caused the bleed and that I need to take it easy and try let go of some of this stress. I know for a fact though that there'll be comments made behind my back at work about it and I hate being seen as one of those people who thinks pregnancy is an illness because it's not but at the time I know I can't go on like this.
Has anyone been signed off during their first three months? What did you say to the doctor and what went on the Fit Note? I'm worried my GP will just tell me I'm being silly and won't give me one. Any advice is appreciated ladies x
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Fit Note and first trimester - any advice? A little bit long, sorry!
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CBear6 · 11/02/2011 08:11
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