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Pregnant at 48 years old-Are there any other older mums-to-be out there?(52 Posts)
I am 6 weeks pregnant and 48 years old. I am extremely scared and worried about the massive implications of this. This will be my first child after suffering a miscarraige at 40 and never conceiving since. I am certainly not delighted. If the baby does go to full term and is healthy which is the main concern obviously I am then going to have to deal with the age thing. The few friends of mine who have children are all in their 20s and I have a step-daughter of 28. Help I want my life back already!!!
I'm in the same situation as you right now and the same age. If you wouldn't mind telling me how did you cope with the scans and how did everything work out. Very happily I hope.
Congratulations! How lovely! You have been so lucky.
My mum was in her mid/late 40s when she has me and I was an only child- and a much-loved surprise. She and my dad loved me to bits and said I kept them young.
I had her until she died last year at 80. I have just had my first DC at 35 and plan on at least one more.
My mum's friend had her first at 18, 3 by the time she was 21 and the 4th when she was 46. Four boys. She was 93 when she died and the oldest was 75 and the youngest 47.
I don't think age matters anymore. What matters is you have an opportunity to have a child - I waited a long time and it is the best thing we have ever done. DS is just amazing and a bundle of love.
An encouraging story for you: my grandmother had my mother aged 46, all natural (this was the 1950s so no other option). My grandfather was 50.
In further good news, my grandmother lived to see 100, so it's not like my mother was any younger than average when she lost her mother (morbid I know, but it's part of the fear of having kids later).
I'm 9 weeks pregnant at 47. I will give birth at 48. Naturally conceived. First child. I was actively trying to conceive. I knew it wasn't too late and I'm so glad I did not listen to anyone telling me I am "too old"!
My message is this: Keep trying. Never give up! Women have been having babies in their 40s for hundreds of years.
Hi Belle, a lady I work with had a little girl last year at 46 - she thought she was having an early menopause and didn't realise until she was about 20 weeks and she was already a Grandma!
She is an amazing mum and now I'm pregnant (I'm 35) - she's given me some wonderful insights and how things were different when she had her older 2 children and some great advice.
With age comes knowledge & experience, your baby will be very lucky to have you.
Plus - as they keep reminding us - people are actually living longer now.
I wish you all the very best x x x
I am new here, just realized I am preg 2 days ago. Please don't judge me. I am 47 year mom for 2 grown up kids.
My last preg was 6 years ago, I had a healthy preg till month 5 when the baby got tangled in the cord and died. I had d&c. I was devastated. I wanted that baby so much and I was completely broken.
After that my doc told me I will probably won't be able to get preg again due to my age and that he thought I had no more ovulation.
I took it as a word of truth and believed in it. Regardless , my hormonal state was horrible after losing my baby and even though my periods got to regular timing quick ,I still did not get preg. I did had ovulation signs every month , but could not get preg.
It ured me that my doc back then was right. I am not going to get preg ever again.
It took me 6 years to accept it, to realize that I am not going to have any more kids and that is the way it is going to be.
Until this month...I did not get my period as usual. I thought , well, I am 47 it is probably the pre menopause time and it starts...but I had signs of preg and I felt as I was preg. After searching the net for pre menopause signs I could not see I had them, so I have decided to take the home test for preg just to make sure.
It was clear to me it will come negative. But to my surprise it came positive. I was white ,lost my heart beat and was in shock. I did not know what to think. I am 47...I immediately started to calculate the age of the child when I am 50,60 and after that I stopped...I was confused.
That was last Saturday, 2 days ago.
By Sunday morning I was over the moon with happiness! My husband was happy from the very first moment, he was not confused what so ever.
I immediately calculated my due date, and realized I am around week 5.
But...the same day, yesterday, around 3.30pm I got bleeding...I forgot to mention that I had 2 m/c around week 5 when I was 40 years, before I got preg and before the d&c was done to terminate my preg.
So I was bleeding , looking for clots and saw 1 small clot , did not look like what i was used to see in my previous m/c.
Since then till now, Monday, it is still bleeding, very few clots or more to say stretchy membranes (sorry for the description), , bright blood (what concerns me) and only bleeding when I pee, the pad is clean .
I don't have pain or crams as I did before in my previous m/c . Just the bleeding and not so much but it is there and it is fresh blood. Does not look brown, and this is what concerns me.
I did not go to doc yet, as I just realized I am preg 2 days ago and did not even got the time to adjust it...I am planning to do another home test tomorrow, my thinking is that the hcg level will probably go down completely by then and the test will come negative, as I am thinking this is another m/c.
Of course if it will come positive, I will got to ER . I am trying to be positive, but I find it extremely hard.
By the way I live in a rural area with no medical facility close by so it is hard to just jump to see a doc, it is a drive of 2.5 hours...which I will be more than happy to do tomorrow if the test will be positive.
Does anyone around my age with similar signs? Any info, input ,anything , will be appreciated and helpful.
Thank you for taking the time to read my long post. I wish all of us good luck!
I was so worried when I was pregnant. I was happy and did not see myself as Mum. I HATE CHANGE. Please keep your baby. From the first moment I held my Son I knew I would die for him. I hardly noticed the changes because they were all for the better. A human needed me and I became less selfish. My life had been all about me now it was is he happy, is he well, he will love this or that and in turn life was great. He is nearly 21 now and I would have loved another but sadly I left it too late after my divorce to remarry. Children are Gods greatest gift and give you a reason to get up or go on in a crisis. You may get Grandkids too. Good luck. My mate is 46 and pregnant age is a number, you can get pregnant so nature says you are not too old.
Hi ladies, good luck to all of you older mums. I understand how so many of you feel. I had my son at 21 and then was unable to have any more for 24 years. Then last year at 45 I gave birth to my daughter and I can't describe what a blessing this has been to me and my husband. Pregnancy was straight forward until the final month when carrying excess amniotic fluid, so had c section but this can happen any age. My little girl is adored by all and we have both done parenting before so feel like we have the added bonus of hindsight this time. I find the night feeds easier than I did at 21, am more settled and far more mature. Its just wonderful.
I got pregnant the first month of trying with my own eggs and used the Dr Lee method for older ladies, applying natural progesterone cream which can be googled and the cream purchased easily online. I had some endometriosis as well before so used serrapeptase, did lots of walking and healthy eating and avoided oestrogens and plastics.
We are going for sweetheart number two later in the year, I will be 46/47 this time and have no reservations whatsoever. We live longer now and being older you have so much to offer. Me and hubby are just committed to healthy living and regular exercise to make sure we are there for the little ones.
Just googled pregnant at 48 and this came up. I'm 47 and since July have been going through IUIS with CHLOMID and this is my last round as they state it causes ovarian cancer so this is my fourth and last round before I start shots with iui or shots with IVF. I seem to have more immature insides for my age I'm told. Making follicles on my own but we added CHLOMID to try and amplify it. I'm praying for this miracle to work and ill know by weeks end. This is all out of pocket for me as my insurance does not cover infertility. And shots will be a fortune as well as IVF. I have to say I'm like forever 15. I did look at the age thing. But im a full blown saggitarius and I suffer from Peter Pan syndrome. Lol Never wanting to grow up. Yes I know I am like a two yr old. My mom had me at 16 and I'm attached to her hip and I say geez I'm a like a baby and need my mom all the time. My kid wouldn't have that when they would be my age. That saddens me that I let my life and time slip away like an idiot. So many regrets I have. I say there are no guarantees. My mom lost her mom at 16 and her dad at 26. Ya know? Not everyone lives forever. So here I am at the fertility center where yes I look younger than most 30 yr olds in there and the DRS. Say oh you have a 2% chance of having a baby with your own eggs and I should get an egg donor. But I wanted to try IUIS anyway. Did one natural and now 4 on CHLOMID. Next stop as I said are shots and maybe with IVF which the one dr asks me do you want to do IVF and try with your eggs prob not viable? The other dr says to me I have follicles and have more than the 30 something yr olds in there. I have had fsh levels from 10 to 16 fluctuating up or down each cycle. The other dr says what I can't believe is at 47 how do you have these follicles. Another gloom and doom dr. Ugh. I have one who supports me there but the others just feel egg donor is best. SOOOOO with that said. Any of you in your forties and late forties who are preggo are lucky!!! WISH IT WERE ME!! wish me luck. I'm praying it works out for me as the guilt I live with now even for my parents and sick dad who always would say "what are you going to wait til I'm dead?" He is 72 but never woke up the same from a kidney transplant. My mom is 64 and my guilt Is tremendous!!! Also it's just us and one brother and he just hit married and I know if his wife ends up having any kids I know I'll have major issues with it and will be devastated. I'm so sad right now cannot even tell you. To the original belle lady who said 48 and pregnant. I hope she had her baby. I hope all went well. I see that was from 2010. Anyway keep me in your prayers all!!
I have just joined this sight as I found out that I'm pregnant and I am about six weeks. First one, and I am 46yrs and will be 47yrs when due. It was a shock and I am still coming to terms with this. I understand that there can be a lot of complications due to my age and I would like to hear from anyone who has been in the same predicament and hopefully some advice.
Hi, I'm 45 and expecting my DC4, I have 2 teenagers and a 4 yo, all DD's. I had DD3 4weeks after my 41st birthday and I worried about how old I was looking back it really wasn't an issue and I coped every bit as well as with my earlier pregnancies, I love her to bits and couldn't and wouldn't imagine life without her, I'm not sure how I feel about this pregnancy but I'm sure I'll get through it! I don't look or feel my age and will probably knock a few years off if anyone asks me
Congratulations and I'll hold your hand
i am pregnant and 48 its my 6Th child all the others were from my husband ,this child will have a different dad ,and he is an alcoholic ,not sure if i should keep !! hate the termination idea,all my children are hard working and wonderfull
Hi there, 7 months pregnant and creeping towards 45! Actually very common indeed where I am in London so no one blinks an eye. I have lots of older mum friends. Women have always had babies into their 40's, the peak of births to older mums was in 1946 if I remember correctly. Best of luck!
I was quite shocked to be pregnant at 43, but am now 45 and have a beautiful healthy daughter. She brings me joy every day. She is my 4th child, my eldest being 22, and just made me a grandparent lol, makes me feel younger being an older mum
My mum had me at 44 - it can be done! I wish you well x
Someone told me about a woman who's written about having babies in their 40's. Her name is Claudia Spahr and I think the book is called Right Time Baby. Basically alot more positive than the kinds of messages that come at us older mums from GPs, society in general...
Congratulations Belle, wishing you all the best xx
Xena you will find yourself doing fun things you never thought of before! There is masses to look forward to, like getting a whole new dimension.
I turned 40 a couple of months ago and I am due to give birth in December. This is baby number 1 (and only!) and also totally unplanned. It is only now at 22 weeks when I am starting to come around to the idea that I will be a parent and things will be OK.
I have really mourned the loss of what I thought my life would be - just before finding I was PG I moved in with my partner, and was planning on moving jobs and just wanted time to do fun things like holidays, socialising etc. I've spent my life pleasing myself and doing whatever I want to when I want.
Now however I can see that my new life will be incredibly different to "the plan" but this doesn't mean it's all terrible.
OP, the only advice I can give is that pregnancy is for 9 months for a reason - it gives you time to adjust and work through the worries. I was horrified when I got my BFP and every week I have a meltdown and cry about what I am losing but now there is something in me which is feeling positive now and I love feeling the baby movement inside.
Just wanted you to know someone else has felt/is feeling the same as yourself - give yourself time lovely to adjust. xxx
I will be 49 when my baby is born in January 2014 (IVF DE).
I had my first catty comments on Saturday 'no one will believe you are the baby's Mum' from my adult DD's friend's mother but DP's friends couldn't be more thrilled and supportive and both our families are too. Adult DD is also 'officially' expecting now after her 12 week scan!
How are you 2havefath? Good to read your common sense comment snowqu33n.
Congrats. I have a friend who is 48 and has just had her first (IVF). Baby is lovely happy & healthy.
Hey, not sure if OP is still around, but there seem to be others in their forties expecting. FWIW, I am 44 expecting baby at Christmas. Happy and all seems well at the moment. Congratulations to the other mums-to-be, stay positive you have so much to offer your babies. People have been having babies in their 40s for hundreds of years.
as also i am in my forties please advise.
Hello i want to follow up on your pregnancy.
I think I know what you are experiencing. I just recently discovered that I am pregnant. I am also 48. I am in my 7th week. First time pregnant. I honestly thought I was too old to get pregnant. Some of the same fears go through my head, but then I believe that this little baby is a miracle. If this baby is meant to be here then he/she will be here. The whole dr. experience has been a bit overwhelming and somewhat traumatizing. The challenge for me has been to trust what I know to be true. You are not alone.
I have just had my first baby at 47. I was very depressed, distressed and terrified to tell people. I was also worried sick about whether she would be healthy.
I now have a beautiful happy healthy baby daughter and everybody is overjoyed for me even people that work in the local supermarket. My midwife said that there are lot's of women in there forties having babies now. Her father was extremely angry when I told him I was pregnant he now adores her. Try to enjoy this time and it isn't that big a deal as you think it is.xx
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